[QUOTE=Quote (guacamole @ Oct. 10 2005,23:54)]If you don't want to get pregnant use a condom.  I had a b/f tell me the same story about how it didn't feel good, and, because  I wanted to please him, didn't use one - and once was all it took to get pregnant.  
So unless you are preparred to make the decisions that come along with being a potential parent use protection.  Birth control works, too, if you have both been tested for STD's and aren't worried about catching/spreading one.  So there are other options to condoms.  

PS there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about the decision that we made.[/QUOTE]
great post guacamole
thanks for sharing that w/ us.
im sorry things happened the way they did, but everyone on this board should read your post and know that it CAN happen to them.
also, very mature your last statement...
the decision "we" made.
a lot of people would have totally blamed the other person and not themselves
good luck in the future

If you don't want to get pregnant use a condom. I had a b/f tell me the same story about how it didn't feel good, and, because I wanted to please him, didn't use one - and once was all it took to get pregnant.
So unless you are preparred to make the decisions that come along with being a potential parent use protection. Birth control works, too, if you have both been tested for STD's and aren't worried about catching/spreading one. So there are other options to condoms.

PS there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about the decision that we made.

[QUOTE=Quote (canoestripper @ Oct. 06 2005,23:34)]Nice post Minx![/QUOTE]
*Bows*..... Thank you very much!

I admit, I hate them for a few reasons. 1) It doesn't feel nearly as good wearing one, sometimes to the point that I can't come if one's on. 2) I feel like there's something trying to keep my fiancee from truly being as close as possible.

However, I love my fiancee and would never want to get her pregnant, especially while she's only 14 (thank god we're both STD-free at least).

As far as solutions, you could tell him you don't feel safe not using one. Or you could always try other means of birth control (although I think most only protect against pregnancy and not STD). If you're gonna do that, you should both get STD tested (though you should do that with every new partner anyway) and if you're both free then pregnancy's all you have to worry about, in which case there's a world of options (though they say condoms are the best).

I guess my switching back and forth of veiwpoints isn't helping (it's a curse). I think the best thing to do would be talk to him about it and go from there.

I COMPLETELY agree with Brandye... tell this guy to suck it up and be a man! It's complete crap that you dont understand what he's going through... you may not know EXACTLY what he's feeling but you CAN empathise. Yeah, it may suck a bit sometimes, but it sounds like he's being a bit immature about the whole thing to me. If he's adult enough to have sex, he's adult enough to wear a condom. In today's world it's non-negotiable, and it's not just about pregnancy (although that's a very real possibility)... sexually transmitted disease is a major issue too. I just had a really close freind (my very best freind from high school) confess to me that he's recently been diagnosed HIV+ because he made a single stupid mistake. Please don't let him talk you into taking those kinds of risks with your life.

Nice post Minx!

I can understand some loss of sensitivity to men but usually find the less mature ones somehow feel they have gotten to us more when going bare. Do not be manipulated into taking undue risks.

I ran a tes (not a scientific one) and found that when using a female condom, a partner felt it was more "realistic." The reason would likely be that the man slides inside a female condom while the sheath (regular condom) moves with him. Perhaps you should try female condoms. If he still complains suggest that he handle things himself.

Just to throw in my 2 cents, i can ABSOLUTELY say i HATE condoms... but kinda in a good/bad way... whenever i wear a condom i go numb i can't tell what i am really do with my penis at ALL and i have tried the ultra-thin ones etc. although i hate them i am WILLING to use them, but this is cause i love my g/f... even then we havn't gotten there... but that's a sore subject... but YEAH guys differ from person to person, like the guy above me he says he has no problem wearing one, guys like your boyfriend and I don't like it because it "takes away" from the experience, this is SOMEWHAT good!!! cause with a condom on, for "numb guys" i NEVER can reach an orgasm, so its lot of pleasure for the girl since i can pull a "marathon man" and have sex for 72 hours straight...

What you gotta do is talk to him about it, cause b4 i would'nt even THINK twice of going out and buying condoms to use... i just wouldn't but i got over this cause ym g/f is also stubborn so i gave in, trying to be "understanding" because pregnancy is no joke... but yeah just talk to him, and have him keep some around, cause i honestly think that if you're "in the moment" and you say "im not having sex with you without a condom on" i bet he'll slap it RIGHT on... sooo.. yeah. give it a shot... but have FAITH... and yes the Numb thing, for some guys like me IS in fact true...

Perhaps one of the problems is that it may be too tight. Try going to the bigger sized condom.
We've switched to the Trojan Magnum after having a laughing episode over him trying to get one of the normal Trojan enz on (it was funny, it really was. lol.). We've yet to use them as we haven't done it since, but, I know that's what they're gonna use and even then he now says the others were a tight. He's never complained about losing feeling, just that it was a little tight.

So yea, anyways, try switching to something bigger and see if that helps any.

I can't speak for everyone, but it's never been a problem for me. The main thing is to not let him guilt you into not using one if you really want to. Better safe than sorry. You might give the ultra thin condoms a try.

Good luck