hey gang. Long time no see. I have been in rehab. Anyways I got a question for ya...I have a huge crush on a girl I met in rehab and I would like to move to the next level but slowly. Any tips? She's really flirtatious too by the way.
Thanks in advance.
Wed, 06/22/2011 - 22:04
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I've been on the receiving end of Step 9 of AA for a couple of different people. One was a bf I'd been seeing since well before he went into rehab.
Please....take it to heart when the professionals tell you to wait.
Thank you very much for your imput. I will consider your recomdations whole heartedly. (:
I agree with everyone.... I have a close friend that was out of rehab for a month ad started seeing a girl he met while there. He is now in jail because they got high together and robbed someone. You need to focus on yourself first.... and if you really want to try a relationship, make sure you are both serious about staying clean and sober! If one relapses, chances are they are bringing the other one down with them!! Good luck! :)
> and if you really want to try a relationship, make sure you are both serious about staying clean and sober!
Perhaps they are serious, although, more to the point is to prove to themselves and the world that they have a serious track record of recovery. This will take at minimum a year. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, and you need to invest the next twelve months, minimum, in yourself and to create a new history.
Unless and until you have proof that your intended girlfriend has also successfully gotten her life together, I would not date a person in recovery. My recommendation is to find someone without a poor history.
Stay clean and demand that she does too, then see if she remains flirtatious.
Get out of rehab and get your life together first? Not what you want to hear but if your putting yourself through something difficult why make it even harder by trying to make a relationship?
There's a reason they say to wait until you're clean/sober a year before trying to have a relationship.
You seem to really have a lot of crushes. Just focus on you and making yourself happy. Then and only then can you invite someone else to be apart of your life. The fact that she is also a recovering addict means she also needs to work through her demons and create a happy life for herself.