OK...so...my girlfriends period is usually irregular, sometimes shes right on time, sometimes shes a bit late, sometimes early....But last month, she was actually pretty early even for her...like i think it was almost a week early....this month it is late...by my count 4 days....(started 9/11 so shoulda started again 10/8 or so) well she doesnt seem too worried, because I guess she has always had some problems...like skipping (not even sexually active or stressed just plain skips a month) she started when she was in like i believe 5th grade...(either 5th or 4th) and usually she is either late or late or early but never on time.
Is this natural...like she is 17 i do realize that usually they arent regular by now. But the fact that we have engaged in intercourse a few time, and suddenly its uber early or uber late sort of bugs me...yet strangely doesnt bother her. (her being early bothered her...and her being late bothers me lol) I just dont know what to think. Maybe just the fact that her lateness doesnt bug her worries me more...but i just dont know.
Two things to note. We have used condoms and spermicides....and the last time we had sex, we had to stop cuz of uncomfortableness (hitting above the cervix) and I noticed that there was a white gunk on the condom, and it was extremely slippery. almost an oily kinda consistency. I thought it broke at first, but upon further inspection, the condom was fine....(filled it up with water as a test lol) and the was just a bit of precum inside the condom, which wasnt goopy but almost milky. so I figured that ruled it out.
Teen women are notoriously irregular. Most start to become a bit regular at about seventeen. Most do not completely stabilize until their twenties; aome after giving birth and some continue irregular forever. With the number of women on hormonal birth control, it is unknow how many are regular without the pill helping.
Women tend to learn their bodies rhythms and develop a sense for what is going on. You, on the other hand, have never had to manage a menstrual cycle. It is a bit new to you.
You do not say what kind of spermicide you are using and the white gunk cannot be estimated because of that. If she was near ovulation (no way to know), it could have been the mucous plug mixing in.
With the discomfort, positions can prevent much of it. Try something different. I also recommend polyurethan condoms rather than latex and, as a spermicide, vaginal jelly - Koromex, K-Y+ and GynolII are three leading brands. With the degree of irreguarity you describe, NEVER engage in sex without condom and spermicide in her.
It sounds like it would be smart for her to go to her gynecologist and ask about birth control pills. The pills will help her to regulate her period, plus one more safety precaution against pregnancy can never hurt.
I do use polyeurothan, because the latex caused problems...(made my hands peel for some reason) I know the discomfort can be prevented, but it was a case of she was feeling great, the next it hurt and she kinda lost the mood.
I thought maybe she was creaming (believe it was what another thread called it) because it has happened on two other occasions. (our very first time and the next morning while i was fingering her.) because she was pretty into it until it got uncomfortable (for both me and her)
Oh and katie, we are using the spermicide because we just havent had a chance to get to a clinic. (shes 17 and doesnt want to tell her mom) I go to college and work...she goes to high school, works and is involved in sport so or time together is usually scarce and late at night so it difficult.
There is nothing the normal female sexual response cycle that produces a creamy substance. The so-called "female ejaculation" is clear and thin, not white a gunky.
If you think you are pressed for time now, wait until you are "expecting!" Then it really gets busy. Katie's advice is good and should result in an exam that your g/f should have had before becoming sexually active and really needs now.
I suspect that what you are calling "creaming" is normal lubrication (vaginal juices) plus an accumulation of smegma. She should have an exam and should read some of the posts here on hygiene. Playing sport does generate some "stuff." You should see me after riding a century.
Take Katie's advice. Now.
Oh my god!!! :mad:
Last night she said she was going to the gyn cuz problems....i thought oh crap!! so I just talked to her right now cuz she didnt call me last night.. I guess she was feeling fine, but she went to a gyn cuz he mom was acting all suspicious cuz her her period was very very bad last last time, and was accusing her of having sex and being pregnant, on birth control etc etc. she said nothing was wrong as far as physically. She inquired about her lateness (while she was alone of course), and the doc said that more than likely that it was stress...(if youve seen my other threads, she has been dealing with sexual abuse flashbacks), and sports. the "creaming" was just the spermicide mixing with her natural lubricant. she said it was normal if she was extremely aroused...which she was.
Now im kinda upset cuz all this worrying was brought on cuz she was acting as if she had to go have a pregnancy test checked out or something...ugh....thats it were giving up sex for a bit, shes getting on birth control and im wearing a condom 24 7....that way there is no way in hell we can stress about anything...cuz hey condoms, bc, and abstience combined definitely prevents pregnancy.
Hey, it's good that she finally went to the gynecologist. I am sure her mother probably suspects that she is sexually active. Parents all react differently to those suspicions but my opinion is those who are attentive to their children generally know what goes on behind closed doors. The birth control will help both of you have peace of mind (as well as her mother I am sure). If you aren't ready for the prospect of a child, it's a good idea to take a break from sex.
Yea we have taken a break...for many reasons. She told me that she had been feeling the "pangs" of an oncoming period so she knows shes gonna start...As far as her mom idk she doesnt really care too much...she just figures she was sexually active at 16 so her daughter must be since she is 17. I know that she has no idea becasue she talked to my girlfriend about getting on BC, and when I came over I heard her talking on the phone and said...IDK if anythings going on because she didnt want BC...(she does just doesnt want her mom to know)
In an ideal world, a young woman and her mother would cheerfully talk about getting birth control and what it means and the daughter would trip off to the doctor and get an exam and a prescription.
In reality, very, very few women want their mum's to be aware of what they are doing. This involves the admission is that we are products of our mothers getting screwed and admission that we are now doing the same.
Somehow, she does not seem to have the maturity to deal with a sex life yet.
TBH I do not believe it is a case of her not having the maturity level...its more of a want to live...her mother is notorious for doing things like walking into the living room and saying "whats going on in here" we say nothing and then she says something like I dont want you guys fooling around anymore when Im not here. and we reply ok...first thing out of her mouth is OH so your admitting that you guys fool around! Her mom is crazy.(If you remember for my thread about tampons hurting her, I quoted her mom exactly "If your pregnant I swear to god I will kill you" I dont know any parent alive who would say that)
If she agreed to go to get BC or told her mom to make an appointment her mom would flip and be like OH so you admit your having sex. Your grounded. I mean I want to tell my parents that I have been having sex, but I know they would flip out on me. And I would never hear the end of it. (Uncle died of aids so parents are so protective over anything sexual)
You make my point.
mmm...I guess so.
Tell her to tell her mom she has a bad period when it happens & it hurts and is erratic & she wants to see the gyn. When there, she can discuss the use of BCP to lessen the cramps & to regulate the cycle. End of story...yeah her mom is a fruit. But damned when I turned 13 off to the GYN doc my mom took me...I still wanted to see the pediatrician! I was told I needed a "female internal"...thought it was like swabbing my throat (not sexually active either, no bf). Damned what a surprise...no one explained that crap to me! However, Glad she did I had dysplasia on the pap...
Well I told her to just say she wanted it for regulation and to help with cramps, but shes actually gonna wait for her period to start so its not just totally randomly out of the blue.
[quote=Ducy;196184]Well I told her to just say she wanted it for regulation and to help with cramps, but shes actually gonna wait for her period to start so its not just totally randomly out of the blue.[/quote]Good idea. Just tell her to complain a lot! Complain to her mom about the cramps & how heavy she is bleeding, how frustrated she is about it beginning randomly [at bad times] while out, etc. Hopefully, she can aggravate her mom enough that she'll tell her just go and get checked. Tell her to tell her mom "my friends don't get their periods like this"...etc. Whine!