Hey, Ive been dating my boyfriend for a while now and after much talk and months of exploring each other and foreplay we decided to take it further and have sex. For me he was my first time and, though I wasn't for him, I don't regret it in anyway. I mention this because I feel comfortable and relaxed when we do it. The sex itself is fantastic (though I guess I have nothing to compare it too :p) Still we both come and its enjoyable. However...when we do have sex it feels like his penis is pressing against my bladder. It doesn't stop us from doing it or make it unenjoyable, it just means we cant do it as...hard and forceful as we would like to. We have explored many different positions and angles yet still the same out come. The few times we have tried it hard, it results in either having to stop, only him coming because then it does feel uncomfortable or me running to the toilet as soon as he is done because I need to pee so badly! Is this normal in any way at all? Something new to those learning about sex? Or is there something seriously wrong? He in no way at all hurts me when we do...its just the feeling of him pressing on my bladder. I have even tried peeing straight before but...with in minutes I feel like I need to again! And, from personal experience and research...I can safely say that his penis is not oddly shaped or unusual or have more of a curve than average. We would greatly appreciate any information you have about this or ways around it or advice if this is serious. Thanks!:) x
Thu, 09/04/2008 - 21:52
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Unusual pain?!?
How large is he?
Perhaps he's hitting your cervix. Have you tried female superior? That should allow you to control how far he goes in, and it will probably help you diagnose the problem further.
Hey, he is just a tiny bit under seven inches. We have tried me being on top and it only feels better if I lean really forward. The problem this creates is that is then doesn't feel pleasurable for me and as I'm leaning so far forward neither him or me can reach my clit to try and create arousal that way! :( x
Do some searching and reading on here about a couple terms: G-spot and Female Ejaculation.
Reader's Digest Version: The G-spot backs up to the bladder so stimulating it can put pressure on the bladder and cause that sensation. For girls who ejaculate (aka squirt)-that fluid comes out the ureters and therefore often gets mistaken for pee, but it isn't.
[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]Is it possible that you have a very sensitive g-spot and he is hitting it during intercourse? I hear that it feels like you have to pee (not that I have first hand experience). It would also explain why, when you lean forwards when on to that you don’t feel it as much. The g-spot is on the front wall of the vagina and if you lean forwards it changes the pressure of the penis from the front wall to the back. Dose that sound right to anyone else?[/SIZE][/FONT]
Omg Int1103! After reading both article on this website its starting to sound more and more like female ejaculation! I read the comments posted by others and they have described feelings and stories similar to my experiences. (Shaking, feeling of peeing etc) I personally don't know how I feel about this though:confused: This isn't...something I like the idea of. I know I am knew and so shouldn't knock something I haven't tried but... Im just wondering if this is something I'm into. I guess this will take more exploring though to determine if it is this and then go from there. Thank you very much :)
If part of your apprehension is whether HE'LL be into it, I can tell you the vast majority of men whose opinions I've heard on the subject-both from personal experience and on these forums- LOVE it.
Also, it's all natural human responses. It's how your body works. Nothing to fear or be ashamed of.
Haha he is with me now and seems more excited than ever so thank you for reassuring my concerns of him being oddly excited :P He wants to continue and see what happens but I dunno...Im not normally ashamed or worried about sexual things but this seems so odd. I've NEVER looked at this, read about it or even understood it till ten minute ago..!
Haha hey....what happens in bed stays in bed. It's between the two of you. As excited about it as he sounds, don't feel so odd about it.
And hey, Mr. Guy...its your job to help her relax and go with this. Help her get comfy with it and let go.
(The Boyfriend: Thanks for your advice, I agree completely and I will try to help her with this, what ever the out come)
Thanks Int1103 :) I guess now its just a matter of trail and error and see what happens, at least I can try and have fun in the process! If it turns out it isn't female ejaculation then at least I have ruled this out and can see about finding out what else it may be X