Get rid of him no offense at all but im sure you deserve better especially after the hot chick remark no woman should be treated like that

and about the not wanting him to have sex with the first girl he meets is totally right i would feel the same way if me and my girlfriend were to break up because we are in the same situation we've only done it with each other and thats all

but i still believe you should get rid of him because noone deserves to hear that from there boyfriend

I know it might be hard to do because hes your first but its not right for someone to act that way but you have to do what you think is right so
good luck
sorry couldnt help more

Kids your age should be dating lots and lots of people in order to learn more about others and what Mother Nature has to offer. Dating should not be so limiting as to stop with the first warm body that shows an interest in us. Who a person finds interesting at 15 or 16 or 17 or 18 is not necessarily the same person they will find interesting or a potential lover at 21, 22, or 25.

Although physically mature, oure brains contintinue to develop until sometime in our 21st year. We continue to mature as an person with each new experience and association with others. College is quite different from high school. You are completely on your own, often away from direct parental control, and you are expected to take the study habbits learned in the previous four years and apply them in order to do the research, homework, and to have it submitted in time.

Each of us will experience new-found freedoms, parties, new people and new perspectives on life that will often shape the new and developing you. It sounds to me like your boyfriend is wanting to explore the world. Does he want to remain in and exclusive relationship with you? Have you asked? If not, then you have every right to expect that his new friends will be just that. If not, then you have to accept that he is pulling away and you cannnot expect him not to have romantic encounters in the future, whether or not he returns to you or not.

I understand that you want to hang onto what is, and/or, that you do not want to rish possible illness from his flings, so before you get back together in the future, the best thing to do is for both of you to be tested for STDs. Both of you need to do this even if one or both of you have not had intercourse with anybody else in the meantime. Doing so offers each other proof of a clean slate.

Its common anymore to explore sex after the loss of virginity. Be honest with yourself, arent you curious about what sex might be like with someone else. Its only natural. You will move on, have better sex, learn about yourself and others, and hopefully find another man who is in sync with your needs. Im a strong advocate of shedding virginity and exploring yourself. I can almost guarantee the man you mary will have done plenty of exploring himself, just dont go overboard. life is short !!!!

[QUOTE=RdUuBcBkER]My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years now. I am getting ready to go off to college.He recently told me that he wants to go meet new people. I am fine with him meeting new people but I am not fine with him having sex with these new people if he wants to come back to me in the end. I should probally add in that I have only had sex with him and he has only had sex with me. Am I asking too much of him to not have sex within the first few months of being with someone else or until he knows that he doesn't want to come back to me? He also told me that he wants to be able to be with a really "hot" chick. He wants to get her in bed just so that he knows he can do it and then come back to me or whoever he feels he is happiest with but he doesn't want to stay with the "hot" chick. Should I allow him back in my life if he leaves me to do this? Or how can I possibly change his mind? I am beginning to think that he is unhappy with me and i'm not sure what to do about it. He is also, like most guys, is curious and wants to have a threesome with 2 females. I am not comfortable with this. To try and help him understand why i am not comfortable with it I asked him if he would be comfortable in a threesome with two males. Knowing his answer would be a no i was hoping that it would help. It didn't he just told me that it is alot more difficult to have a threesome with 2 males. I know that it isn't its just not pleasing to him. Any suggestions on how to deal with all of this.

I would appreciate hearing feedback from the female perspective and the male perspective.

Thank you for the help.[/QUOTE]

In my opinion, if your bf is trying to pull away, I think the best thing is to let him go...You can't make someone love you and want to stay with you....But I disagree with some of the other posters about exploring your sexuality...there is no reason that you can't have sex with one person, love that person, and want to be with them forever...Is it common ? no...But it is possible....Don't end a relationship because of what might happen...cross that bridge when you come to it.....If today you are totally satisfied with your bf then be just that....(if ya'll decide to try to make it work).....Don't listen to people who have been in similar situations and mistake their experiences for the norm...everyone is different and everyone's experiences no matter how similar are never going to be the same...So my best advice to you would be to just feel the situation out, use your head, and though I stated not to mistake others experiences for yours, you should still listen and keep in mind what they have said, just so you can keep in mind all of the possible outcomes, so that if it doesn't turn out the way you want you will be able to deal with it better...hope that help ....^_^