My issue has come and gone throughout my entire sexual life, but up until now has not been a problem with my current boyfriend.
I am uncomfortable receiving pleasure. Not physically, but emotionally. I don't mind sex, but when my boyfriend tries to touch my nipples or my clit, or in any way give me pleasure, it makes me very uncomfortable, to the point where sometimes I almost want to cry if he doesn't stop right away. To answer a question I know some of you may have, no, I have never experienced any sexual trauma or abuse.
My sexual life is suffering, and, obviously, I want to go back to enjoying sex and all that comes with it, but I am not sure what to do.
Has anyone ever heard of anything like this, or have any ideas?
> I have never experienced any sexual trauma or abuse.
> My sexual life is suffering, and, obviously, I want to go back to enjoying sex and all that comes with it, but I am not sure what to do.
It seems to me like something is going on and in order to learn what is behind it I believe you should talk to a therapist.
It's interesting that you have never been abused or traumatized and you enjoy sex but cannot accept the pleasure that goes with it. I have never heard of that before but it's kinda of oxymoronic. I would say definitely talk to a therapist or sex counselor.
Or you've never experienced trauma that you recall. Many people suppress such memories, only to have them spontaneously resurface years later. Been there, done that - no therapist required to bring the memories back, either.
The fact that it makes you want to cry is a red flag. Such things happen for a reason. I would say, it's just a reason you can't yet identify. And I also agree that you need to speak to a professional about it, because whatever the source, you can't let it control your life any longer.
I have something similar, can't understand why it happens though. I am happy to have my partner cuddle and kiss me, but as soon as i feel that he's initating sex, i just freeze up! This has only been happening recently. It's not everytime though. We have sex occasionally, but it feels like the problem is getting worse, and i'm turning him down more & more. I also find me hiding my body from him a lot more. I wouldn't say that i feel like crying when he goes to touch me, but i do feel upset at the fact that i must be frustrating him a hell of a lot. I love him so much, we've been together for 6 years now and our sex life used to be fantastic. I still find him sexy, i just don't get why i've gone off sex so much. I feel like an idiot for it, and i don;t even know why it happens! :(