when you say "from behind" do you mean anal sex or do you mean vaginal sex in the so called doggy style?

I have had a couple of partners like that. Be patient and gentle. Try to remember what you did that she liked the time she liked it. Try and help her remember what she liked without seeming to harp on the subject. Some of these things take time.

The first time I did doggy with my wife, it was painful for her and she was hesitant to try again. The angle was wrong for us. Next time it happened for us, I was giving her a back massage and my dick was laying against her ass. So I just slipped it between her legs and massaged her buns some. This allowed it to slip down further and I went back to her back massage. It felt great to have it rubbing between her legs and it was rubbing her labia. We were both wet from excitement. She started to move her hips and my dick started to penetrate her without much effort at all. Before long she raised up her ass and with minor adjustment, I was deep inside her and we were fucking away. It didn't take long before we both had orgasisms. So we will come on back to this position every so often and both enjoy the change of pace doggy gives us. So it may just take some time.

At this point you don't really know if her discomfort is physical or emotional. I have physical as well as emotional challenges when it comes to approaches that are from behind. This position shortens and narrows the vagina so adaquate arousal is necessary for me to tolerate this. My uterus is also tilted making this position allot less comfortable during the later part of my cycle, just before my period begins. The emotional challenge I face is the lack of face to face contact which for me is eye contact, I feel very disconnected from my partner. I can't even hold on to him, much less look into his face. I more or less feel as if I'm being poked and impaled because the approach doesn't even hit my erogenous zones as well as goes against my internal angles.
I do compromise though. I choose when I offer to turn around. It can only take place during the 1st half or 3/4's of my cycle, I have to have had at least 1 orgasm to ensure that I'm adaquately aroused and have released plenty of endorphines, and most of all I control the speed and depth of the thrusting.
Your partner needs to communicate with you what she's feeling, both the physical and the emotional. Once you know what her feelings are, you both are in a better position to work thru it as a couple.

Terms:

doggy style vaginal sex = from behind

anal sex = anal sex

Okay so she explained what happened to her and you listened to her, I assume you did more than just hear it, so have you considered what it meant and means to her? Or did you just blow off what she said to you as not being applicable or important?

Seems to me she told you once already.

It sounds rather selfish. This is not about you. It is about a traumatic event that has left her psychologically scarred and you want to open that old wound to show that she trusts you.

We all have limits and those limits were often established painfully. She may relax over time; she may not. She has suffered abuse.

take it slowly

Many people seem to feel that abuse is not terribly important. New guy = clean slate.

NO

That is NOT how it works. When you're coming in from behind she can't SEE you - so you become HIM. Sorry, but that is exactly how it works. Instead of thinking "new guy = clean slate" think - she has been TERRORIZED and is now in the "Post-Traumatic Stress zone".

There is nothing you can do about it since overcoming requires professional medical counseling.

The fact that she just gets naked with you means she trusts you. Stop pushing her limits and meanwhile expand your mindset- go beyond thinking positions and think of ssx as life-ehancing conflagration however it is done.

Dude you did fine that one time. Now just repeat that step.. Next time massage her and play around there light, than do that for like a few days then one day slowly and GENTLY ask her for her permission to go forth, you'll get the steps from that point on. Then maybe someday you can get to do anal from there. Good Luck.

Also an expected behavior, fire, just pat her on her head and say "I'm not falling for that, hun." with a grin. It is caused by two things 1. guilt, and 2. a desire to get over it. She's pushing her limits - and it isn't working.

It isn't working because she's pushing limits and trying to get over it only to please you and not to heal herself.

Relax and tell her she has a very nice rump and then go on and do something else.

Sounds to me like she's trying to get over it for herself and for you.

Like the one time that you were able to do rear entry with her, the two of you were sharing a very intimate time together with the massage and you were, with her consent, able to achieve rear entry. She obviously felt at ease, connected, and comfortable with you to allow you to do that after a experience in her past.

I would say to try going that route again if she allows it. I mean, don't try it everyday just so you can do rear entry, but occasionally. Or try doing the massage everyday and not doing rear entry, that will show her your not after just one thing, that you respect her feelings and you really do love her. Plus women really like massages. lol.

And like everyone else said, take it slow.

i know a girl who doesnt like doggy style, the problem is the rude guys who dont talk to the female ruin it for the nice guys.
i say work with the females and get their trust in you again, its meant to be one the strongest points for them to orgasm and deepest the cock goes in
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