Hey,
So my girlfriend and I are really into each other, and would really like to have sex. But we've tried twice without success. The issue is that this would only be her second time, so she's pretty tight. And we can't seem to have her wet and me completely hard at the same time. I'll go down on her and use my hands to make her wet, but by the time she is I'm only like 75% hard, which apparently isn't hard enough to get into her.
We've used lube too.
Basically, I feel like I have one more shot to make this happen, and if it doesnt go well it's going to be really hard to go on.
Any suggestions?
Someone suggestion trying to penetrate from behind, which my friend said was easier to do.
ummm...actually doggy makes girls tighter...try her on top sitting on you legs spread...or her legs as wide as possible with you on top...
try 69 so you can both maintain and gain hardness...
I think your best bet is just to keep trying. It will work eventually. Lube is definitely going to be a good thing. Maybe you should try mutual masturbation, that may be the best way to have both of you fully aroused. I think it's best when I orgasm before I have sex... that way I'm really turned on and really want it. Maybe she could bring herself to orgasm while you keep yourself hard? Then use lots of lube, and try her being on top.
just keep trying but don't overconcentrate, especially your gf. Make sure she feels very relax. If she's feeling too stressed it could get tighter.
Maybe you should just step away from penetrative sex for a while. There are lots of other options. Sometime it takes a while to get used to your partner, for me starting out having sex, it was sometime difficult to come to terms with a naked guy in bed with me and walking around my bedroom let alone having sex with him.
Take a break and don't rush you can have perfectly satisfying sex that doesn't involve any penetration, this could actually be a good thing as it forces you both to pay attention to each others bodies.
Oh and if you do decide to have penetrative sex don't be shy about using lubricant even if she does seem wet.
Using lube, help yourself become hard while doing cunnilingus with manual g-spot caressing on her. One hand for her, one hand for you. Use as much lube as it takes. Slide in, pause, then use the head of your penis to caress her g-spot until she orgasms, then move tot he posterior fornix and caress there until she orgasms then back to the g-spot then back to the posterior fornix etc etc etc, then you can orgasm.
We have written all of this before. Please read the 'sticky posts' on the subject. Especially the one entitled The Program.