Hi, I have been with my girlfriend now for 8 months and we have felt ready to have sex with eachother for the past 4 months or so. Although we have encountered a problem! We are unable to have sex because it is not possible for me to insert my penis into her vagina due to the fact that her vaginal opening is too small/tight. We have tried on about 10 occasions and tried many differnt positions, lubes etc. although nothing has changed on any of these occasions. Im just looking to see if anyone has any advice as to what to do or if anyone else has experienced the same problem??
Thanks :)
Fri, 01/26/2007 - 23:32
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Unable to have sex
ya hey i had this problem with my girl too, and still do somewhat thats probly why i have such a hard time with missionary... what i did is before we had sex i would finger her starting with one finger and going up till 2. even if she says it hurts. give her time to rest without removing your finger. go slow and start small, keep streatching it out slowly. then after awhile she should stop feeling the pain from your two or more fingers.. that is when you should go back to you penis. just loosen her up a little before intercourse, it may help
Sounds like she's not relaxed. This can be a huge problem, especially if she's a little girl and you're of above-average endowment. Women, generally, need a lot more foreplay than men - it's something like at least 20 minutes for the average woman to get fully aroused under the best conditions.
So your best bet is to give her a back rub, engage in some passionate kissing, fondling, and fingering. If you can go down on her while fingering her, that's most likely to relax her (it works on most of the girls I know). And don't rush it!
Do a google on "vaginismus." Every woman should have a complete gyn exam before becoming sexually active. She should have this exam and should tell the doctor what she has experienced in trying to have intercourse.
If she has a very tough hymen, the doctor can deal with that with a slight nick; if she is experienceing involuntarily clamping of the muscles, referral can be made to help her. As with many psychologically based conditions, each "failure" you experience, makes the next failure more likely.