I'm 16 years old. Lets see... I've been going out with my girlfriend for about 3 months. We've talked about sex, and the last time I was at her house, we made out for a long time. She said "I'm so horny right now", as to which I replied... "I got something in my wallet that can fix that (intending the condom)". She said "Okay" and she started unbuttoning my pants, oh and she was laying on top of me. Right when she pulled my pants off, and I was in my boxers, her dad started to come down, and she ran away and made my put my pants on. We talked about it, and she said that she would have ****ed me, but her parents kept coming down. At my house, my parents NEVER come down in the basement when i'm, with a girl, (we're both virgins), and she said that the next time she comes over, she'll consider having it here. Well... my friend talked to her, and convinced her that theres nothing wrong with having sex if someones parents are home, so shes 100% positive that she wants to have sex when she comes over. Now, the only thing im concerned about is what to do. I'm a virgin, she's a virgin, and we both want to do it. I just have tons of questions, like... how to get into sex, stuff to do while were doing it, what to do afterwards, and stuff like that. I just need someone to explain it to me, because I can't talk to any of my friends about it, because they'll try to **** things up. Thanks... oh! and she likes aggressive guys. So yeah... thanks!!!!!:D
Fri, 05/04/2007 - 15:13
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Umm... I dont know what to do.
The things you better do are:
1. Get new condoms. They do not travel well in wallets for very long.
2. Have her get vaginal jelly, with applicator, to place in her vagina.
3. Read the sticky (and have her read it) on Am I Ready for Sex.
The added protection reduces the chances of pregnancy by quite a lot. There is a lot more to sex than simply the act. And the real exciting part comes a few weeks later when she is wondering whether her period is coming.
[quote]The added protection reduces the chances of pregnancy by quite a lot. There is a lot more to sex than simply the act. And the real exciting part comes a few weeks later when she is wondering whether her period is coming.[/quote]
You don't pull blows do you Brandye? :D
Another advice, that you may or may not heed: do not assume anything. You say she likes aggressive guys, but you're both virgins. I don't think she understands the meaning of "aggressive" yet. Please don't do anything "aggressive" in the way she talks about or gloats about. Just go gently. She might have second thoughts on aggressiveness after she has a very-excited out-of-control hormone-driven young male (you) inside her.
Go easy you two, alright? Happy beginnings :D
> Now, the only thing im concerned about is what to do. I'm a virgin, she's a virgin, and we both want to do it. I just have tons of questions, like... how to get into sex, stuff to do while were doing it, what to do afterwards, and stuff like that. I just need someone to explain it to me, because I can't talk to any of my friends about it,
Please familiarize yourselves with some of the instructional Sticky posts found at the top of each of the forums. Here are several the two of you should read after you both read Brandye's "Am I Ready" post. The two of you will benefit greatly from a bit of SexEd that follows.
2. The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva
3. INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
Please begin by reading the third chapter, first; then the first chapter at the top of the thread, then all the rest.
4. How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
5. For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
6. Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation
After the two of you have read and studied all of this, please get back to us with your question and concerns.
Ya know... I'd read the 'Am I ready' thread, but wait until after you do it for the others. Everyone craves knowledge to be good at something, but its experience that makes you better, not words. Your first time most likely won't be brilliant, no matter how much you read. And if you read too many techniques and the like, you will become overwhelmed and think too much about trying to remember them and do things 'right'. There is no right or wrong way to do it.
Be gentle, it probably will hurt her. Use protection. Relax. Take it slow, and most of all have fun. You will understand and be able to visualise all the tips a lot better after you have a little bit of experience. Get in the shallow end before going to the deep and and trying to improve and be 'good' at it.
Remember to communicate with her too, every person likes different things. So gauge her responses to everything you do with hands, lips and during sex, and don't be afraid to ask her what feels good.