Where do you bleed? How much do you bleed?

The shaking is a response to being extremely turned on.

As for the soreness, I recommend that you or your partner do not touch the tip of the clitoris very much; instead, concentrate your efforts on the adjacent areas. You can fold the inner labia over the clitoris and stimulate it indirectly through them.

Alternately, you can caress, massage, and finger the labia and adjacent pieces-parts; and, you can massage the shaft of the clitoris. All will adequately stimulate the clitoris; however, by being indirect, the intensity will be less and there should not be any discomfort.

The shaking may possibly be controlled by either continuing the stimulation and moving past this point; or, you can try varying the technique being used. Changing the pressure, rhythm, or location of the stimulation may stop the shaking. The shaking or twitching is not uncommon.

Finally--
> he tries to make me orgasm but i hafta stop

We do not give orgasms away. Each of us is responsible for our own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve his/her own. To do this best, we have to learn to mimic our partner's method of masturbating.

That said, do you masturbate and enjoy regular climaxes? If yes, then take your partner's hand and guide his fingers several times until he learns to mimic what you do when alone. If you do not or have never masturbated and had climaxes, then he cannot be expected to do this for you. Mother Nature has provided us with the millions of sensitive nerve endings all over our skin, a pleasure center in the brain, and, an autonomic nervious system to transmit signals back and forth; yet through some twist of evolution, the connections are not established. We must establish the connections and learn to climax by learning to masturbate successfully. Boys do this matter-of-factly right out of puberty; however, girls usually do not begin as soon, if at all. Therefore, it is imperative that you make the transition from being a pre-orgasmic person into an orgasmic being.

If you have done this, then show your partner how you masturbate and guide his movements as noted, above. If you have yet to enjoy orgasms, then you must learn before you can hope to enjoy them through his efforts.

I think the shaking could be a result of him applying too much pressure on your clit. Sometimes this happens to me if my boyfriend rubs underneath the hood when i'm not wet enough- it also has a lot to do with whether his fingers are wet or dry. Wet fingers and light pressure should stop this shaking, just teach him to be gentler