I realize that most of these things have already been talked about and I'm sorry...
I started this relationship with a great guy, both of us were virgins... now not so much :o
I hate to say it but.. I get bored. Like he can keep going for a while and I just get bored...
I love him so much but after an hour I'm bored. And for the most part dont climax... For me for some reason I find I'm too sensitive that after one climax, I cant really continue.
I wont let him go down on me... not sure why exactly I just cant. But he does great with nipple play.
We cant do much else because he uses his arms to support himself... and although I run my nails along his back, I cant really go many places with my hands except head and back.
And now to make it even weirder, for one my want for sex which use to be pretty high, is now almost non-existent although I havent told him that. I've lost any interest in using my hands or going down on him, because I cant help but find that part on a guy rather ugly. (I use to want to but now... again thats gone) And two... now I'm having more and more sexual fantasies with women... not even teenagers (I'm 18 myself) but women in their 20s at least. I wont go into details... I decided to mention it to my boyfriend... I think he got worried that I was going to run off with a girl.
But apparently it hurt his ego to hear that I would let another girl go down on me, but not him. (Its just that they.. well they have everything I have... I'm not saying they'd be better, but I'm more comfortable with the idea) I'm also willing to go down a girl which kind of surprised him as well.
Needless to say he was against me doing anything with gals... lol I was kinda hoping he would be okay with it and maybe find it hot. I'm not going to run off with a girl, least I dont think so cause I dont really want a relationship with them (Dont worry they would know this before engaging in sexual activities with me, I dont lead people on).
Okay... so how do I either get back into wanting sex or get it more exciting. I tried on top... I had to have been doing something wrong cause it wasnt doing it for either of us. lol can I read the manual? (Oh how I wish :p )
You are simply still learning - about yourself as well as sex. Not unlike you, but at a slightly earlier age, I found sex unsatisfying and not worth sweating out my period each month. A good girlfriend and I had no secrets and had often discussed what we wished our b/f's would do. Then we demonstrated. Then we discovered we could really do it for each other.
It was a few years before I became sexual with a male again. During my life I have cohabited with two men - one was leading towards marriage. I have also lived with two women. Today I am actively bisexual in a primary relationship with another bisexual woman. We each give one another a little space (she has a teen son) and have an "approved" list for male partners.
What is my orientation? I do not know and I am likely about the age of your mother. Message: live life and see where it takes you. Trying to force desire or interest does not do it for anyone.
I find I never worried about my period after him and I started having sex... well when my first period came around and it was late by like a day and a half.. that was the only time I worried... that and I guess I'm anixous about this one seeing as... well really I dont know what happened. The condom actually came off inside me.. I'm guessing it just couldnt do three loads from him... but I dont know. (I told you he can keep going) But I went the next day and got (it was too late to go that night) Plan B so I should be okay. (I'm also on the pill)
I dont have a friend like that, a girl who would do things like that.. I dont hold secrets from two of my girl friends, and there are others closely behind but yet I dont think I could do anything with them. And I dont think either of them would be willing, in fact I know they wouldnt.
Well now that I really think about it my one friend might but over the past few months we've kind of drifta and I would feel akward.
I want to be able to at least try things with another female to know what its like and to know if I really want that... but I cant if I'm with my boyfriend because its cheating and I dont want to break up with him. I love him so much... and I know how devoted he is to me and it would break his heart if I left him... and what if I made a mistake?
What if its just a phase... then what happens when its over, I ended something with someone who I love, I cant even describe how much I love him and I would do anything not to bring any harm (emotional in this case) to him.
I want to be older... as soon as I get to University I know I'll meet more and exciting people... and finally I can fulfill some of my female companion fantasies... but thats only if I'm not with my current boyfriend still. Oh it hurts to think of being without him.. but its just ...I dont understand anymore.
1. Use condoms as described on the package insert. One shot and withdraw. Most condom "failures" are a result of leakage around the open end and once it gets filled with semen it will naturally slide off and into you.
2. You have already accepted the inevitability of drifting apart as you depart for University. Take things as they come.
As a sidenote, if he goes for an hour straight and comes three times, then that would probably bore 95% of all women.
I had those same feelings when i first logged onto this forum....regarding the change in attitude to sex and low interest/boredom/etc. Some suggested changing your birth control...maybe that will help u too.
"As a sidenote, if he goes for an hour straight and comes three times, then that would probably bore 95% of all women."
The only reason he'd go for longer is because if I am going to climax it takes a while.
Guess I will just have to see what happens. Okay thanks guys :)