Here’s the deal I’m going to lay it out plain and simple::cool:
When me and my bf are having sex I tried doing it on top but had a hard time moving around on him…we always wind up with him on top and me just laying there…it’s good for me…but not for him….what do I do!!!! I want him to LOVE having sex with me!!!:rolleyes:
Could I bring my girlfriend over to meet you? She could learn a thing or two from your enthusiasm. :rolleyes:
Seriously though, has he told you that he's not enjoying it? Just because it seems awkward/lame to you doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't like it.
I'm afraid that you'll be wanting someone else's advice on how to do better at moving around while on top though.
It's more common than you think to have a guy who doesn't seem as into it when you're on top in the beginning. Don't worry. It's like anything else. If you get some practice, you'll get better.
When on top, straddle him and move up and forward then down and back using your knees as a fulcrum while sitting upright. If the bed has some bounce to it this becomes easier and evenmore fun. Then lean over him and quickly move up the penis and back down along the penis. Alternate as you see fit. With every position, you have some room to experiment. Feel free to do so.
Have him hold on to your hips and guide you up/down & around to the speed he seems to enjoy. I have to tell you, you are not alone many women feel uncoordinated when on top. Each man is different, find out what he likes w/him guiding you and get into the movement based on what feels good for you both.
Yes, yes; practicing improves performance.
And it is so much fun too!
There are dozens of threads on this going back a few years. Look around.
Is there anyway for these threads to be spliced together by the mods?
Question 1-Believe him!
Question 2- You get used to "sitting" in a particular way, and leaning forward, meaning; go more directly over him, put your hands on the pillow near his head, and closer to his face.
Then vary it, sit straight up and while he is in you, just shift your arms back, just rock your pelvis back a bit--you are leaning back towards his feet--good time for him to rub your clit. Then later move back closer to his face...so you are lying over him. Or when on top just lie ON him w/ your legs straddling him and slide up and down...
PRACTICE
Another thing to try; men love it for the visual, do a "squat" on top of him, keep going up and down him--it's harder if he is well endowed but it works. BUT you have to have strong legs and he has to hold your hands to balance you...
He says he likes it and it’s good for him but I just don’t believe him, how do u tell? And when I am on top I have to sit a certain way for it NOT to hurt so it’s hard to move when I sit that way [I’m leaning forward] WHAT DO I DO!!! ABOUT BOTH SITUATIONS
Look around on this site for other positions. Try them out. You might surprsied what you can do well.
Now, I've been on top of my bf as well, and it is more difficult for me too. I tend to cramp up in my thighs, because it really does become time-consuming, though not always.
Do some basic leg and thigh streches, or pick up on a little more exercise, if you become uncomfortable.
Otherwise, you'll get it.
the only way i can have sex with him with me being on top is if i am leaning foward i cant sit up because a sharp pain occurs in my lower stomach....but we're practicing
yeah, lean forward and brush your boobs across his face. That should get his attention! I love it when my GF does that & I have a cheek of her butt in each hand. One of my very first sexual partners(many many moons ago) said just do what feels good for yourself and you will naturally satisfy your partner at the same time. BTW, she was VERY good on top.
could that whole being on top and rubbing my chest in his face thing be used in domination? I'm looking everywhere for hints on how to dominate.
[QUOTE=sageadvice79;167390]could that whole being on top and rubbing my chest in his face thing be used in domination? I'm looking everywhere for hints on how to dominate.[/QUOTE]
You need to meet EvilEvilKitten! LOL:D Seriously, she probably has a few tricks she may be willing to share. All I can think of is handcuffs. You out there EEK?
Yes, I am here, Old Kid. Sageadvice, dominating a man is very easy. Three steps, first, get the attitude that this is all about you and not him; second, coreograph several scenarios - what do you want him to do and in what order how etc; third, be sure to reward him for his service but save that for last and do it from a dominant perspective - it isn't a blow job, it is feeding off the male for example. Okay?
EEK sounds great.
if you have any more tips you should message me. I need specific, otherwise I think I'll lose my confidence.
Once you get the right attitude, the rest just naturally follows. *EG*