A friend of mine and myself went to my house last night from dancing and hanging at bars. Afterwords she comes and crashes at my place and sleeps in my room, in my bed. One thing led to another and we eventually had sex. Now, I live with my mother, two younger brothers(below 10), and my sister (who's an adult) and when we were having sex I was trying to keep the volume low because of course I don't want my mother or other family members to hear or much less know that we're having sex.
Of course we got pretty loud at times but I feel insecure because I kept telling her to lower her tone while she was screaming and moaning. Of course I LOVE the sound of hearing a women moan but due to the circumstance I feel that possibly that could have spoiled the sex. I know for a fact if my family wasn't there I would have broken the bed and she would have lost her voice. However, I just can't have sex with that much volume knowing my family is there, it's TOO awkward for me. Another thing is that I live in an apartment and our rooms are close together and you can definitely hear the noise. Anyone know how I feel and on the same page? You think it was stupid of me to tell her to lower her volume because I was afraid my mother would hear? I just feel kind of embarrassed and like a wuss. Normally I LOVE people to hear us but I just feel too awkward with family hearing.
Another question is that we were having sex and she REALLY wanted the sex badly. I felt a bit surprised because she was begging me to do her in each and every direction and was really telling me to do this and to do that, telling me that I was awesome and that she really enjoyed it. It bothered me because I felt like she was just trying to encourage me to better perform but maybe she can be telling the truth?
I don't know, any women can answer this? Thanks guys, sorry for my insecurities.
Me personally, i wouldnt be too worried with what she wanted or what happen, A older female friend told me that if a female likes you that way she will show you her body. I can understand why your embrassed or don't like to be too noisy with family home, I don't like either if anyone is home and having sex.
To me it sounds like she was in the mood to have sex and wanted it badly. Depends when she had sex last is to how horny she was. I think personally there has to be some liking there with trusting you and staying at your place comfortably from her. As for telling you wants, she likes to be in control and wants to try different things to get the most out of sex with orgasms.
As a guy i would see where it goes with her and if you become friends with benefits or the two of you together as in boyfriend / Girlfriend
I was in sort of the same situation with my last ex; he lives at home with his parents. When we had sex, I would have to keep my mouth shut because his parents were usually in the same room. After a bit I got used to it though. And yes, we did have nights where I wanted it in every position we could get in, going fast AND slow. Oh I wanted it bad. It was like I couldn't get enough!! But I loved every second of it, even if I did have to bite my tongue to keep from screaming out. So, something tells me that she wasn't wanting all those positions and directions necessarily for YOUR benefit. Sounds to me like she just REALLY wanted sex from you.
Oh and CLVR-HNDS_GUY, the length of time between sex sessions doesn't always affect a woman's "horniness level." She may have had sex the night before and simply wanted it again. I have gone months before without and not really been all that turned on around the next guy I was with.
[QUOTE=shychick07;258673]I was in sort of the same situation with my last ex; he lives at home with his parents. When we had sex, I would have to keep my mouth shut because his parents were usually in the same room. After a bit I got used to it though. And yes, we did have nights where I wanted it in every position we could get in, going fast AND slow. Oh I wanted it bad. It was like I couldn't get enough!! But I loved every second of it, even if I did have to bite my tongue to keep from screaming out. So, something tells me that she wasn't wanting all those positions and directions necessarily for YOUR benefit. Sounds to me like she just REALLY wanted sex from you.
Oh and CLVR-HNDS_GUY, the length of time between sex sessions doesn't always affect a woman's "horniness level." She may have had sex the night before and simply wanted it again. I have gone months before without and not really been all that turned on around the next guy I was with.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, she admitted that she needed sex badly and she also said she wanted to make me cum and explode all over her. Hehehe. I'm just worried and insecure because even though we had sex for a good amount of time, in the end I didn't ejaculate, and not because I didn't want to but just because it sometimes takes me a long time to do so and also, her vagina wasn't producing enough juices after the long sex session so we didn't go on. Despite her saying that she enjoyed it and told me that I was really good and knew what I was doing I just felt like I probably disappointed her if her vagina was wet enough.
Sorry, I'm almost embarrassed to admit this but I just like to please a lady and KNOW shes satisfied.:)
I go dry all the time, and believe me, when I'm wet, I get soaked! But I still need lube. That's natural. As for the whole wanting to make you explode all over her, that's normal. Next time, have a bottle of lube with you. I have found that I-d pleasure lubricant works best for me.
What are the house rules, or are there any that cover bringing a girl home--and having sex?
Yes, or no, common sense, manners, and concern for the other family members, should have been sufficient to stop you before any of this got started. IMHO, you showed poor judgment and then acted on it.
> Another question is that we were having sex and she REALLY wanted the sex badly. I felt a bit surprised because she was begging me to do her in each and every direction and was really telling me to do this and to do that, telling me that I was awesome and that she really enjoyed it. It bothered me because I felt like she was just trying to encourage me to better perform but maybe she can be telling the truth?
She tells you that you are awesome and then in the next breath you question her statement? This is typical of the inexperienced who must over analyze and question. Why can't you just accept the compliment with a smile.
> Sorry, I'm almost embarrassed to admit this but I just like to please a lady and KNOW shes satisfied.
While this is your wish, I doubt you would recognize when she has been satisfied. BTW, is an orgasm always necessary for a woman to be satisfied?
> even though we had sex for a good amount of time, in the end I didn't ejaculate, and not because I didn't want to but just because it sometimes takes me a long time to do so
This is an indication that you were not sufficiently aroused. Intercourse should only begin when the man is on the raw edge of an orgasm. All too often, guys nowadays seem to operate under the misguided misconception that the only way to an orgasm is from lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking. Wrong.
> Despite her saying that she enjoyed it and told me that I was really good and knew what I was doing I just felt like I probably disappointed her if her vagina was wet enough.
Erections come and erections go. Vaginal mucus varies in consistency and quantity. Why do you think lubrication was invented? (You should always have some in your nightstand. It comes in handy for masturbation, also!)
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Here are a few tips on having sex while your family is in the house:
1. Ask the girl to try and be quiet - if she's not used to it, she'll adapt eventually.
2. Put some music in the background - not too loud so you won't be ask to turn it down.
3. Lock the door - If you don't have a key, try to get a door stop or just be creative.
Hope this helps.
Also: Don't over analyze! If you are not sure if she's pleased then just ask her.
Sounds a bit like the poster's name.
Bringing her home to a house wlth your mom and young kids is really not the best way to go. Try her place or your car or a motel. But trying to explaine the noises to the younger kids could get embarassing specialy with your mom sitting there. because you just know the young ones are gonna ask even if they already know what was going on.
Having sex in your/her house is perfectly normal.
You can't get a motel every time you want to have sex (unless you have a lot of money to spend on this) and cars are less private than a room with a locked door.
In my experience, the young ones don't ask too many questions, and if they do I'm sure you can make an excuse a child would believe.
[QUOTE=Grim;259247][COLOR="blue">Having sex in your/her house is perfectly normal.
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Not so normal when others are within earshot, or when she is there in the morning and the couch is unruffled.
[COLOR="blue">You can't get a motel every time you want to have sex (unless you have a lot of money to spend on this) and cars are less private than a room with a locked door.[/COLOR]
True enough. Cars are also much smaller than they used to be. I do not know of any house that has locks on inside doors, other than bathrooms. (Must be just in California?)
[COLOR="bue">In my experience, the young ones don't ask too many questions, and if they do I'm sure you can make an excuse a child would believe.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]
What will the parents believe is the bigger question.