Aussie,

I certainly agree with your feelings but you would not believe haw common adulterous affairs are within a family. Smacks of incest to me but I try not to judge. Some of the stuff in my background may sound strange to others. This sounds strange to me.

I suppose it depends how much you love your wife, if you dont love her enough to have another fling with her sis then go for it, but tell her first so she can at least prepare for a new life somewhere else!!

if you do love your wife enough then there shouldnt even be thoughts about anyone else in my view, i'm a guy btw, and to be fair, you have someone who loves you alot especially if she has let it slide the first time, i just hope that she knows what she is doing, no offence like but really!!!!

I'm pretty sure you know what you should do, or else you wouldn't have posted this.

You do not know what to do??? Gimmeabreak.......

Step up and be a man, or rather a husband. That you had an affair with any woman is wrong, sister-iln-law, twin, or stranger.

So what if you've been around a flirt, any flirt. Do the manly thing and shut the behavior down.

> Now all is okay I guess...

Guess again. Women have very l o n g memories. Things may appear to be OK, but my educated guess is that you are on a short leash whether you realize it or not.

> I on the other hand am torn because I really want it again too. But I do love my wife, I don't know what to do.

You may benefit from marriage counseling, however, I believe you can change your behavior to start fixing the problem. The second thing is to change your attitude, priorities, and decide if you want to be married. If you want flings, then get a divorce and then play the field.

hmm ur lucky..

try to get both at same time :P

about cheating on ur wife, i would say once u did u will do it again..

just remenber the consequences, what goes around comes around..

anyway i think its very hard to have loyalty nowadays, so go for it, I would

dude, it's your wife. and if you love her, this should be a no brainer.

[QUOTE=Quote ]I have been around my sister-in-law alot the last two months and she flirts with me and lets me know she wants it again.[/QUOTE]

so? people want all the time, doesn't mean you have to give it to her.

if you're really on the fence about this then you should probably take a look at your marriage, feelings and what's important to you. and women do have long memories. especially when it comes to that. she may have let it slide that time, but i seriously doubt she'll do it again.

sit on that for a while.

> just remenber the consequences, what goes around comes around..anyway i think its very hard to have loyalty nowadays, so go for it, I would

Thiis is just so wrong on so many levels.

So, you're saying that it is OK to cheat and that if she should cheat on you you'd be OK with it.

I hope people with this outlook and attitude get married by a Justice of the Peace or a sea captain for you have no place doing so in a church.

That something is hard does not mean it can't or shouldn't happen, or as you seem to be saying: "why even bother". Life is made up of challanges along the way.

What bothers me most about your statement is that you have so little regard for the other person, the relationship, or the institution. What does this say about you and your character as a person?

My tongue is slightly in my cheek...

as another alternative, you could contact a producer of porn films... this is a great fantasy for many guys and you'll all get paid reasonably well.

A capital idea....capital!

i'm absolutely disgusted by these posts.
All i can say is what kind of person forgives their husband for cheating on them with their SISTER. I understand if you love someone etc and it only happened once maybe you could or should forgive the husband, but this is clearly not the case. The fact that you're still considering it proves that. I have to wonder how on earth the sister in law is still present given the circumstances. My sisters are like my 2 closest friends and I can't imagine every forgiving them if they were to sleep with my husband numerous times. Gosh, there are so many things wrong with this thread i'm outraged jwmenges. You have a lovely wife, you've already hurt her as deeply as anyone could hurt their spouse, and yet you're considering doing it all over again. Once a cheater always a cheater. It makes me sick that you're willing to risk your marriage, and your wifes family relationships and your family ( if you have children - which is a whole other matter! ) purely for sex. I just don't understand that! My heart goes out to your poor wife.