YES!

Making out is and should be both progressive and all inclusive, meaning that you begin at A, move on to B then revisit A; move on to C and revisit A,B,&C. and so on and on.

That you were necking and petting within the confines of the upper torso is just fine. Now go back and spend much more time building his level of arousal because each time you do you will excite him more and more.

As for the rest of his body, I would avoid touching his genitals even through his pants. Save this for another time down the road. You can continue to caress him by moving on to his legs, thighs, calves, feet, small of his back, buttocks, back, and then repeating by starting anywhere along the "alphabet".

If you want to include his genitals, then you can let your hand graze over his pants on the way to someplace else. It is the hint that will tantalize him. At some point in the future some weeks or months away if you want to begin including his genitals, then clasp his erect penis through his pants and just hold it for a moment. Later as things move along you can move it from side to side. The friction caused by rubbing his skin and underware will work wonders and might even cause him to climax.

There are no hard and fast rules or procedures for how to caress the body. I suggest taking your cues from his reactions. Tread lightly with your fingertips and palms while continuing to kiss his lips. Your kisses can also either preceed or follow the route your hands take.

After thinking about this for a couple of days, I have this to add:

Do not go any further with him than you are prepared to let him go with you.

You set the limits for how far to go, and, you also are free to extend the limit to something more intimate any time and when you feel comfortable with yourself, him, and your exsisting level of intimacy. He will test to see how far he can go so when he reaches your limit, of course, you will give him a sign or signal that that is far enough. So, how does he know when you've extended the limit? He continutes to test and when you do not stop him as before he just keeps going until he reaches your new limit and you stop him. The process is called "Implied Consent".

If, at this point you are not udoing/unfastening shirts, tops, bras, or as yet touching skin normally clothed, then work up to this when you want to, albeit in stages. If you want to touch his chest, then first unbutton his shirt but leave it on and just slip your hand inside. As the passion builds, either that night or the next time, do this and then later, take it off. The same goes for your clothes. Just don't bare it all, rather, let him unfasten your top or blouse and fondle your breasts thru your bra. As things progress let him slip a finger down from the top. Later, at some point, the bra can be unhooked and left to dangle so he can gain more access. Later, still, take it off or let him do all this fumbling.

And, so it goes with the rest of your clothing and with the increased level of caresses you are interested in doing as things between you progress.

If, and when, the time ever comes to touch and involve each others genitals, you can either let him have access to yours, first, or, if you prefer, take matters into your hands, first. Whatever works. If you want to touch him and you have been thru his clothing, then either unzip his pants as the next stage, or wait for him to do this. After fondling his partially unsheathed penis, you can go on to undoing his pants and either opening them up, slipping them down, or off as you want.

When it comes to you, let him explore thru your panties, perhaps sllip a finger inside, and then as things progress in due time, let them come down and/or off. I know you are not ready for any of this yet, however, I include thie information for a time and a place when you are. This is just one scenario and there are other ways to go about this so just take your cues from each other when these times finally do come.

> ...he turned me on like crazy just by caressing me. Now I want to do the same for him, but without involving sex or blow/hand jobs. I've already gone over every inch of skin on his upper half, i.e. kissing, licking, biting.

Here is Part III, Kimber.
What about breast play? You state that you have gone over every inch of his upper half, although this begs the question of how much time and attention you have given to his nipples and pecs.

I understand that you are not ready for blow/hand jobs, although, you can certainly have fun in this area by fingering his nipples and massaging his breasts. The key is to wait until he is extremely turned on before devoting much time and attention to one or both. Of course you can brush past a nipple or caress it any time, however, a man's nipples really only turn on and become reactive when he is extremely aroused. Usually one will be more reactive than the other so you might just want to see which one deserves more of your attention.

The male nipple is generally less sensitive than a woman's, yet this does not mean we cannot enjoy your fingers and tongue on one while your hands are doing other things elsewhere. Here are some ideas:

* Use your palm or the heel of your hand(s) to massage one or both breasts.
You can do so with varing degress of pressure--from a light touch to bearing down against his ribcage.
* Use a dry finger only briefly early on. Use a wet finger for any prolonged play
* For whatever reason, placing a layer of cloth like the sheet or his shirt, etc., between your finger(s) and his nipples will give more intense sensations.
* Use your fingernail and slide it back and forth over a nipple, as above.
* You can suck on a nipple
* You can blow a gentle stream of air over one
* You can lick, flick, and circle a nipple with your tongue and also include the above.

All these are valid for you, also, with the possible exception of #1. If your breasts do not rest flat against your ribs when you recline, then I do not recommend he try to apply pressure in an attempt to rub them against your ribs.

In your case, he can tweak a nipple, being very careful not to twist too much.

He can use a washboard movement with his fingers moving back and forth over each nipple. This can be done with fingers spread or together; each has a unique feel.

Because you know what feels good, teach him what to do to pleasure you. Also, women react differently to when breast play is pleasurable and when it is not. Some like it right up to and through the triggering of an orgasm. Others want their man to stop before triggering an orgasm because it becomes annoying or distracting at that point. So, experiement and see what works for you and then inform him.

I hope this is of even more help. Enjoy--and, report back and let us know how this is going.

well doc i think you should write a book I bookmarked the page as I think it will of use in a few months. I think this one deserves a sticky

Thank you for the kudos and kind words.
Perhaps the moderater will agree and make this series a Sticky.

I have been published in the past. If I was to write a book, what are your suggestions for chapter titles? In other words, what topics do you believe need to be addressed and discussed?

If another book was to be written, my challenge would be how to get people to read it. Television has destroyed peoples attention span. You have clear evidence of this, here, when people ask questions that have been asked and answered numerous times with answers at their beck and call with just a little time and effort. The reason some of us get frustrated with first timers is like that one young kid who felt it was a waste of his time yet he didn't mind that it might take one or more of us five minutes of our time to provide a duplicate answer that he could have had in literally seconds had he looked.

I am surprised that he did not know how search engines operate and that they literally search a world-wide encyclopedia that also contains product information and catalogs.

Perhaps the best way to entice readers to seek answers is to eliminate the ToC and simply use an Index printed with a large easy to read font. Readers could then peruse the book in small segments much like how software developers recommend reading operating manuals for computer programs. Skim the book for content then only read those sections that are of concern when the time comes.

Anyway, think about what should be included. I would like to read your thoughts and any one elses on the matter.

well as for writing a book ( I didn't think you would take it that seriously) I suppose following this very basic style that you used above (that I like no misunderstandings) treat everything from meating a girl to getting down to sex and how to continue exploring even after that. yes a good idea is small chapters that can be found easily so you don't have to rrad the whole thing to find out one small fact so it could be a user manual.
I trhink one aspect man y people need help on is making out (me too) as we all know about meeting a girl falling in love but then our next thought is sex many need enlighting on what to do before getting to sex.
true television has ruined things for us people nowerdays are realy dumb compared to once upon a time. I hate the television exept for a good fil documentary or hey I suppose you should see the news to know when your likely to get hit by one of bushes missiles by mistake hehe.
as for seaching before asking yea that is a good idea. I just come on regularily and browse around and if something occurs to me I havn't seen yet I post but there and again I havn't any specific problems.

by the way could you write the above from a boys point of veiw. it is easy to get his side of it from your instructions but it would be nice to see the other sides part as well. that would make this a serious making out guide

> by the way could you write the above from a boys point of veiw. it is easy to get his side of it from your instructions but it would be nice to see the other sides part as well. that would make this a serious making out guide

OK, I'll rework the three sections, above, and switch the emphasis to that of the man.

Please give me a couple of days as I have some work homework to do, first.

ok thanks for your time.