I'm wondering if anyone can help me, i can't seem to turn my girlfriend on, i've tried everything i can possibly think of but it's just not working.
Has anyone got any ideas or anything that could help me?
Fri, 10/08/2004 - 03:03
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turn on
thanks for the advice everyone. i've had a talk with her, and yes she is a very self consious person, but not as much now as she once was. i'll give her the time she needs to get comfortable
Joshy,
A friend of mine is the same way. She has been married for a while now, and I don't believe she has ever masturbated. She seems to be a very self-consious person. I don't know if it was the way she was raised or what, but I have learned that not everyone is comfortable touching themselves or expressing openly to someone else what is pleasing to them. And like it was said, it's very possible that she doesn't know herself. Just try to be patient with her. I don't know anything about your situations or the specifics of your relationship, but if you are both young, perhaps she's afraid of getting caught? Just guessing here.
[QUOTE=Quote (Joshy @ Oct. 13 2004,10:47)]she'll always be more then girl #5 to me and she knows it,[/QUOTE]
are you sure she knows it?
Sometimes it helps to be reassured and reminded. Maybe she's a little self conscious and needs to be reminded more often. I don't know. Its hard to say if she isn't talking to you and letting you know how she feels or what she wants.
Geez... my first post should have read "...asking her to help." I think you figured that out...lol. Anyway, embarrassing question #49... Does she masturbate? If she does, she should be able to guide you to her rhythm while you finger her. If she doesn't, then she may not know herself what feels good and what doesn't. Two options... she needs to work on this on her own and figure out her pleasure zones... Or work with you to find out what feels good.
Either way, you just have to be patient. Maybe think of it as an adventure where you find a great treasure at the end...
i tell her all the time, sometimes i feel like a broken record coz i say it too much
no she doesn't masterbait i've tried to get her to help me by telling me if she likes what i'm doing but she just keeps quiet
she'll always be more then girl #5 to me and she knows it, plus she does know how many girls i've been with.
i'll be patient then
[QUOTE=Quote (WallyLlama @ Oct. 13 2004,04:33)]I may be doing a whole lot of "reading between the lines" but it sounds to me like she doesn't WANT to be turned on... and you're frustration is that you want her to be girl #5.
Being girl #5 is a turn off, and I'm guessing she's either figured that out or isn't ready to "do the deed."
That is her choice, you know.[/QUOTE]
Thats true, I mean there's been guys Ive been with and all they had to do was kiss me and I was wet, lol.
Didn't take much.
Also depends on how long you guys have been together. Maybe she just isn't comfortable yet and like Wally said, isn't really ready to go any further.
I may be doing a whole lot of "reading between the lines" but it sounds to me like she doesn't WANT to be turned on... and you're frustration is that you want her to be girl #5.
Being girl #5 is a turn off, and I'm guessing she's either figured that out or isn't ready to "do the deed."
That is her choice, you know.
i've tried fingering her, she won't let me go down on her. She has no response at all i've asked her what she likes but she say's she doesn't know. i've been with 4 girls that i haven't had problems with, i've even got a few of them turned on over the phone
i've tried it all but it still doesn't work, i've never had this problem with girls before
well all girls are different. What turns one girl on might not work on another. You might need to give us more information like what exactly it is you are doing thats not working? How do you know its not working? what is your g/f saying/doing? how many girls have you had before that this didn't happen w/? etc?
thank you
just read as much as you can under pleasing her
oral and fingering techniques...etc.
Well, as demonbuttercup says, there isn't much information here. A few more specifics would help with making suggestions.
Off the top of my head, have you tried asking to help? For instance, "Show and Tell" is usually pretty good at learning what turns your partner on. Let her put her hand over your's and guide you. And she needs to be vocal when something feels particularly good.