I agree with you Ducy. If she doesn't want anal for HERSELF, then after trying it she has the right to say Not thank you to further efforts in that direction. Not what it was made for anyway.

Best advise; read through older post on the same topics.

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http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_anal.shtml

http://www.sexinfo101.com/as_fisting.shtml

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-her/11315-fisting-101-a.html -Fisting thread

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/pleasing-him/11220-anal-101-a.html - Anal thread

Hopefully these will be usefull.

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This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

Wait wait wait. I notice one problem. You want to have anal FOR your husband. You should want to do it because YOU want to. I know were not talking about losing your virginity so its not as big of a deal. But one thing I do know is when it comes to sexual things, its better do stuff that you BOTH want because it can prevent a lot of problems.

[quote=Ducy;217306]Wait wait wait. I notice one problem. You want to have anal FOR your husband. You should want to do it because YOU want to. I know were not talking about losing your virginity so its not as big of a deal. But one thing I do know is when it comes to sexual things, its better do stuff that you BOTH want because it can prevent a lot of problems.[/quote]

I picked up on the same...doing for him despite your anticipated "pain". Do such b/c you wish to and read the threads & info on "how to".

[QUOTE=FMMJF;217259]I have two questions. On fisting is there any painless way to get pass the knuckles?

[COLOR="Blue">Maybe yes, maybe no. Stretching the anus and sphincters requires much time and patience. The result is often dangerous because it is possible to stretch the orifice to the point it will not completely close--and then what?

In my never to be so humble opine, fisting is very dangerous. "Pain" is a warning.[/COLOR]

We are usung lube and taking time and all of that

[COLOR="Blue">Are you using enough lubricant? I find that if you think you are using plenty, use plenty more, at least in the beginning and until you establish a base line. Please read the article in the link I provided.[/COLOR]

but when he gets to the knuckles, I guess I fear that the pain will just get more intense when he goes all the way but I have heard that it actually lightens up past that point. So does anyone know if that is true?

[COLOR="Blue">Can't say because each person is different, AND, much depends upon the technique used to gain entry each time. In addition, if the person on the receiving end is not sufficiently turned on and is not consciously relaxing the sphincter muscles then entry will be more of a problem.[/COLOR]

2nd I am trying to have anal sex for my husband and he has been so sweet working up to it.
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I agree, do it because you want to if you do and not as an accommodation.[/COLOR]

Even though his fingers are still pretty uncomfortable I am starting to believe that I should just go for it and hang on.
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After reading the references and using the recommended steps, if you still find his fingers uncomfortable--stop.[/COLOR]

That the pain will get better with each experience and I just prolonging whats to come by waiting. Any thoughts?[/QUOTE]

Will it? This is just wishful thinking. Personally, I would not recommend anything larger go in than what comes out.

Lastly, you cannot believe everything you see in movies (videos) or read. That fisting can be seen in porn videos does not mean it is good or recommended. Some things are best left to the imagination.

Brandye sometimes relates stories about the experiences she and other physicians have had in the emergency rooms when removing objects from inside various body cavities. I can't even imagine getting my fist inside someone and then not being able to remove it! Good luck explaining that to the ambulance team, admissions nurse, ER staff.........

Nuf said.

Doc I believe she is talking about fisting her vagina...

Also if I am correct, when you are fisted, before your partner pulls his hand out, you must insert another finger to create a little gap so that the suction created by the fist will not cause any internal problems.

There should never be pain in anal sex. If there is pain, you need to stop and take a few steps back. As far as fisting goes, read up on it. Google tutorials and tips on fisting and anal sex. I'm sure there is a myriad of information out there.

Get a vibe, a tapered one made for such things, and try it out on HIM first. Use a ton of thicker lubricant and keep the vibe moving at all times. Be sure to wash-up afterwards. Then it can be your turn if you wish.

As to fisting: you don't actually make a hard fist. How well that works depends upon your bony structure and the size of his hands.

Unfortunately your hubby wants to try these things out which mean he has little to no experience - this means he will be clumsy and it will hurt because he will be clumsy. It is much better to become multi-orgasmic before you go for anal ecause after several orgasms, anal etc becomes much easier since you are more relaxed.

[QUOTE=Ducy;217306]You should want to do it because YOU want to.[/QUOTE]

I'll have to disagree with this logic. What if she wants forplay and the husband doesn't? Should they not do it because the husband says no?

I feel it's entirely appropriate for her to try it because that's what her husband wants to try and I applaud her willingness to at least try. If it is always painful, then look at discontinuing down the road.

[QUOTE=Duanec60;217792]I'll have to disagree with this logic. What if she wants forplay and the husband doesn't? Should they not do it because the husband says no?

I feel it's entirely appropriate for her to try it because that's what her husband wants to try and I applaud her willingness to at least try. If it is always painful, then look at discontinuing down the road.[/QUOTE]

imo, there's a difference between foreplay and "kicking things up a notch." foreplay is required for female satisfaction and comfort during intercourse. a man can get off just as easily without fisting or anal.

so a woman saying no to something outside of her comfort zone isn't the same as a man not feeling like putting the time in to adequately arouse his female parter (unless they both agreed to a quickie, which isn't the case in the scenario presented).

(these things may or may not be beyond the op's comfort zone, i don't really know)

Duane your logic is a bit odd...I mean I can see where your coming from but that would be a grounds for a rape case dismissal. He wanted but she said no but they had sex anyways cuz she should do it anyways even though she doesnt want to

She shouldnt do anal if she doesnt want to. If she was neutral ok, but she seems too hesitant and her husband has little to no knowledge of what he is doing so there is a much greater chance of error on his part. Anal and fisting mistakes can and usually do end up painful and damaging.

Nowhere in FMMJFs post did she EVER say she didn't want to do it. Her husband wanted her to try it and she was willing to try. Some people have posted that this is wrong because it's "for him" and my point is that I disagree. She might enjoy it once they achieve success but she will never know without trying.

If it continues to be too uncomfortable for her, by all means they should stop.

if you don't want to have anal then don't if his fingers are uncomfortable then his penis will be extremely uncomfortable, also with anal if you do it and you enjoy it just keep in mind that it's not made for that like the vagina is and a lot of older porn stars have reported that because of all the anal they did made it so the now have anal leaks so be careful

[QUOTE]"I am trying to have anal sex FOR my husband" [/QUOTE]...................

FMMJF- if YOU want to do this, i will give you a lil advice, i lately have tried anal, and have actually come to enjoy it VERY much. Lubrication and relaxation are 2 very important things. remember to RELAX your stomach and just lay there, at least until the pain ceases and it becomes pleasurable. If it does not become pleasurable, than i would stop and your husband will just have to deal with that.