I really suggest you take the time to read around the Board. This is a question that has been addressed and replied to several dozen times--plus one.

The answer and the solution are as follows:

From the time each of us begins to masturbate we quickly develop a routine and a technique for accomplishing this that we then pretty much rely upon with little variation from then on. If we vary what we do too much either an orgasm will not happen or it will be less than expected.

All of us know the basic mechanics involved in stroking a penis and fingering a clitoris; yet there is more--what I refer to as the "fine art" to the method that is specific and unique to each of us. It is the art that must be learned by your partner. So, my recommendation is to show him how you masturbate and then to take his hand in yours guiding his movements and pressures several times until he learns to mimic your technique that includes the motion, pressures, and rhythms. The same holds true for him with you.

You should also understand that very few sexual positions place your genitals in a position that provides for continuous and ongoing contact in order to provide the required friction. So, what knowledgeable guys do is to reach around and finger the clitoris while stroking. If it is your desire, you can also have an orgasm before or after intercourse.

I hope this is of help. Got questions?