okay my boyfriend and I are trying to have sex and I stress trying. He's not a virgin but I am. I told him I wanted to do it with him and we talked about it and everything. But when we tried his penis wont seem to go in. I chalked it up to we were both nervous. A week ago we tried again and still he can't seem to enter me. Is this really unsual?
Fri, 03/25/2005 - 22:25
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trouble losing my virginity
Nerves do play a factor, but they're not always THE factor.
When it came to my first time and heck, all the other times with him, I wasn't nervous. I really wasn't.
I knew he was the one I wanted to lose my virginity to and I knew/still know that he is the one I currently want to continue doing it with.
And I know he was sure as heck hard everytime. The issue was just me down there. It just didn't want to go in for whatever reason.
But I've been working with myself and I've gotten fairly far. Things seem to go in with an ease for the most part and I'm anxious to try it again with him now to see what happens.
All I can say is what I said in that other post. It just takes time. I've been having sex for over a year now and it's just gotten to the point where I can insert something bigger than a tampon and a finger without like any pain at all.
All you can do really is keep trying. Don't give up. As the saying goes, if at first you don't succeed, try try again.
Well, to me you've already lost your virginity, because you're engaging in the act and it's going in but not like it should. But really, that's another story and doesn't have much to do with your question.
Anyways.
It happens from time to time. It happened to me.
Try reading my post here:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/cgi-bin....;t=4608
And you can probably looking around the "new to sex" forum some more and find a few posts from me similar to that.
I suggest seeing a doctor. You're more than likely ok down there, but it's always best to check and just make sure.
Im having the exact same problem right now too.
today we tried for the first time, first for both of us, and after an hour and a half of messing around, we tried and i couldnt get anywhere. i might as well have been poking her in the leg for as far as i got in. It sucked. I was so frustrated. Id have to stop and try to reposition, and by the time that happened, i kept loosing my erection. So anoyed. We tried at it for another hour or so, then we said screw it, we'll try again later.
we were both SO ready for it too, neither one of us were really nervous or anything, and we've been fooling around and ive fingered her for a few months now, so i thought things would be strected out at least a little, but apparently not.
It was fun and we joked about it afterwards, but damn i wish things could have actually worked! I was on top this time, next i think we're gonna switch. now just comes the anxious wait till next time