Hello.
I'm not sure why I'm writing this. Not sure if I have questions, or just need to "talk" with someone.
My girlfriend and I recently tried to have sex for the first time. We were both virgins, and both above 20. It didn't go so well.
The first problem was trying to find a position. We tried missionary (she felt more comformtable with idea of me being on top.) We are both overweight, and it didn't seem like we "meshed" very well. We switched to her straddling me, and ran into some other problems. I was erect, but not 100% stiff, which made it difficult to enter her. I ended up ejaculating before I really entered her.
We tried a second time, pretty much the same results. I was more erect when we started, but that faded as I put on the condom.
(On a side note - it feels weird to think that my answer right to the question "Are you a virgin?" would be "I don't know.")
Any advice, tips, condoalances, etc?
Thanks
Me and my partner were both virgins.
The first few times having sex were, to be blunt, fairly abyssmal attempts
You can't expect things to go right straight away.
Stick with it, experiment with oral and manual stimulation as others have said, and just get more acustomed to being relaxed with each other in a sexual environment.
Early on oral stimulation is a good mainstay, as there is no way an inexperienced guy will stand to bring a woman off solely through penetrative sex.
Have faith, things will improve
I LIKE Tessie's answer! It's pretty much what I would have said. Sex is suppose to be fun! Play around and see what happens. No one said you had to get everything perfect the first time (that's highly unlikely, in fact).
As for losing a little stiffness when putting on the condom, well, that's pretty normal too. You can "work it back up" after the condom is on... that's okay... it really is. You might also try different condoms. I like the larger sized ones- no, I'm not huge...lol- they are somewhat easier to get on.
The main thing to remember, as Tessie said, is to have fun. Hey, as long as you both enjoy yourself, there is no "right" way. Play around with oral sex and even manual stimulation. Just remember, if you don't get it right, that's a good excuse to keep practicing! lol.
Take care and HAVE FUN!
(((((((carbheat)))))) It will get better sooner then you think. The first time and even a few after are occured. Look around here and there are threads on doing it the first time and different postions.
I remember when I was 17 and not a virgin but very inexperienced and tried to do it with a 19 year old virgin. Things did not go well at all and he ended up feeling so bad he wouldn't speak to me again.
You and your girl need to remember to keep it loving and don't forget to have fun. If your erection goes down a bit then just take your creative time and get it back up.
Good luck and don't stress to much about it. You will for sure be an expert in no time.