I'm a 19 year old virgin who's gotten into masturbating about two years ago. I have trouble making myself feel good no matter how relaxed I am. I was wondering if there were any toys or vibrators that would be safe and comfortable for me to use since I end up having bad cramps after using markers or a small glitter lamp I have. Any suggestions?
Fri, 08/20/2010 - 19:16
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Toys for Virgins?
Are you orgasmic? In other words, have you made the transition and learned to have orgasms? If yes, then toys may be appropriate; if not, I suggest learning what to do and how in order to enjoy climaxes.
If you have not learned how to have orgasms then I recommend just using your fingers/hand until you master a technique that works for you. Once you have learned and can climax regularly and consistently then you can explore different ways of augmenting your orgasms, your enjoyment of them, and, different pathways to attaining them.
Your question about toys/dildos has been asked several times. Look around your house and see what piques your interest. Items like--
* candle stick
* carrot stick
* English cucumber
* handle of a kitchen utensil (smooth)
* handle of a tool like a screwdriver "
Depending upon the condition and construction of your hymen, you will probably find some items more appropriate, usable, or, enjoyable than others.
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Penetration is not necessary for masturbation; in fact, it sounds like it is dysfunctional for you. External stimulation if sufficient for most women, either using their own fingers or a vibrator applied where it feels best. I only infrequently use my old favorite cologne bottle but usually do it all myself with no toys or vibes.
Then, penetration can be a ahppy addition.
[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;258337]Are you orgasmic? In other words, have you made the transition and learned to have orgasms? If yes, then toys may be appropriate; if not, I suggest learning what to do and how in order to enjoy climaxes.
If you have not learned how to have orgasms then I recommend just using your fingers/hand until you master a technique that works for you. Once you have learned and can climax regularly and consistently then you can explore different ways of augmenting your orgasms, your enjoyment of them, and, different pathways to attaining them.
Your question about toys/dildos has been asked several times. Look around your house and see what piques your interest. Items like--
* candle stick
* carrot stick
* English cucumber
* handle of a kitchen utensil (smooth)
* handle of a tool like a screwdriver "
Depending upon the condition and construction of your hymen, you will probably find some items more appropriate, usable, or, enjoyable than others.
Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home Page, you will find even more information. I hope you will read the articles and add the information to what you already know.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?[/QUOTE]
I haven't been able to give myself an orgasm on my own. I can be very orgasmic when me and my boyfriend have phone sex and he tells me to imagine him doing things to me. It's very hard for me to imagine on my own, but when I close my eyes and be told what to imagine it works extremely well with my vivid imagination since I can easily feel what I see, hear, or read. Unfortunately my imagination doesn't work well with fantasizing on my own when I'm conscious. I seem to fantasize more when I'm dreaming, but when I try to remember my dreams while I'm masturbating my mind wants to go through a fast-play of it.
[QUOTE=Brandye;258346]Penetration is not necessary for masturbation; in fact, it sounds like it is dysfunctional for you. External stimulation if sufficient for most women, either using their own fingers or a vibrator applied where it feels best. I only infrequently use my old favorite cologne bottle but usually do it all myself with no toys or vibes.
Then, penetration can be a ahppy addition.[/QUOTE]
What do you mean dysfunctional? :confused:
Personally I love clitoral stimulation more then anything and I have a hard time cumming without it. Try Hot tub jets or even the bath tub facet is AMAZING (some people say a handheld shower head but that one doesnt do much for me?) I also love using the little bullet eggs on my clit the most recent one Iv purchased came with a bullet & vibrator and I got a really good deal on it $9.98 Free Shipping plus it came with 3 porn cds and some deep throat gel which work really good. Finally the best toy of all which for me is a guaranteed mess over and over is the Hitachi Magic Wand this toy is POWERFUL and you dont ever have to worrie about batteries its always full power and ready to go. Just ONE use makes it worth every penny spent. If you ever plan to purchase I highly recommend Adam & Eve you can use the Source code DEAL33 at checkout to score 50% + FREE SHIPPING & a Free Gift. After all that with the coupon they are by far the best deal on the web
How about clitoral stimulators. I think they are pretty good for virgins.
A clitoral stimulator, a flat-headed vibe, would be prefect for you. No insertion required. Just hold gently against your clitoris.
My girlfriend has the Bcurious vibrator and she loves it. It's rechargeable and is pretty strong. Here is the link for it: [url=http://www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/clitoral-stimulators/bcurious]Bcur... - Clitoral stimulators - EdenFantasys
It's just for clitoral stimulation, not for penetration.
And I'm not trying to post an ad or anything, just trying to help! :)
Dildos of all sizes and shapes, but personally I prefer vibrators. While I can not orgasm through sex and vaginal stimulation, I am in the minority. Only about 20% of all women can achieve orgasm through vaginal stimulation alone, the rest must rely on clitoral stimulation. And I think I have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation is much more intense.
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