-Seriously,how old were you the first time?
I was 11, regret it.

-If I got the chance, should I have sex with a girl even though I'm only 13?
No, wait until you find the right girl, if not use protection.

-Any things I have to make sure I do the first time?
Use protection, dont bust inside of her if not.

-Any other tips than what is on the website?
None

Hugs for Tessie... and a big thanks for being willing to share painful experience in the interest of helping others.

If more people understood what she said:

Your body might want to have sex but there is no way you are ready for the emotions that can come with it.

As someone who usually has something to say about darn near everything I can't do better than that.

Wally

Seriously,how old were you the first time?
I was 19 and engaged to the guy. I understood all the responsibilities and I was ready to undertake them if anything were to happen. I'll be honest, I very much regret giving my virginity to him, even though I loved him and we were engaged. I really do wish that I have waited. But I couldn't have known that it would turn out the way it did.
-If I got the chance, should I have sex with a girl even though I'm only 13?(I can get a private place noone will disturb us)
I would say no. In the next few years you will elarn so much, amd you will change a lot. I don't believe that at 13 you can really be ready for sex. Then you think about it, think of different things, ask yourself different questions, and if there is even a little bit of a doubt, don't do it. Also, I would think that at 13 you were about to start puberty or just started or in the beggining. You might want to wait. Whats the rush? Regrets cannot be taken back. And, our drummer who done it first time at 14, did say that he wished that he waited. There is no rush. Don't give in to peer pressure and think this through really well. Remember all the responsibility that come with sex. I myself do not believe that these responsibilities should be undertaken by a 13 year old.

-Any things I have to make sure I do the first time?
Aside from everything that is said, I would recommend having a towel on hand and something like baby wipes.

i agree
theres a lot more to sex than meets the eye.
another things that has become popular w/ young teens is oral sex.
they consider it a "safe" alternative to sex b/c they can't get pregnant.
what they don't realize is that its just as dangerous and easy to transmitt STDs orally as it is vaginally.

i was listening to the radio today and they were talking about an article in TIME that was about the same topic i mentioned.
its like kids today don't want relationships, to go "steady", or have b/f and g/f. they just want to "hook-up" which means having oral sex w/ whom ever they want. which i think is really sad.

Hi there! Well....I'm 16 and still a virgin & quite proud of it actually! Personally I think usless u r ready to support a kid, u r not ready to have sex yet! And quite frankly, I'm 16...gonna be 17 soon and I'm not even close to ready yet...never mind 13! But thats just my opinion, cuz it seems desirable to u now...but if it so happens that she becomes pregnant, they're no way either of u could do anything at 13 and it will be ur parents responsibilty then! It may never happen but just make sure u think of the consequences of ur actions first and see if its really worth it! Anyways...thats just a personal opinion on the matter! Good luck with whutever u decide, take care~*!

Well as a mother of an almost 13 year old daughter I would have to say that you are WAY to young to be having sex.

Your body might want to have sex but there is no way you are ready for the emotions that can come with it.

Why the rush to do it? I am all for you exploring your own body through masturbation but like Oberon said there are so many dangers to consider. And please don't think that it won't happen to you. I am sure every one that has AIDS, STD's or an unwanted pregnancy never thought it would happen to them.

Do I sound like some old mom trying to spoil your good time? Well I am what I am.

As for me, I was 15 and snuck behind my parents back to date someone that was 22. He got me very drunk for the first in my life and did me on his living room floor. Worst pain next to child birth I ever had. Today they call what happen to me date rape.

I seriously regret having sex with everyone when I was a teenager. I didn't help me become better at it.

Just so you know I am 38 and having the best sex of my life because I know myself and my body. You have years to learn how to be a good lover and enjoy sex. Just give it a lot of thought before doing anything you will regret later.

Hi deldude, and welcome!

I'm going to answer your first two questions together since they are sort of along the same line.  I was seventeen when I had my first (and only...lol) relationship with a woman.  That was enough to convince me beyond a doubt that yes, indeed, I am gay.  Do you know why?  Not because I thought is was gross or anything, but because I cared for her and yet there was something missing.  See the key word was "relationship".  Anyone can have sex.  It's not that difficult.  The important thing is to have sex with someone you care about.  I doesn't matter how old you are.  It matters if you are ready.

So ask yourself "Am I ready?"  Have you thought about all the possible consequences:  getting her pregnant, getting an STD, all the emotional issues??  Are you willing to be adult enough to take ALL the precautions to be as certain as possible there are no bad consequences?  That means she should be on birth control,  you should ALWAYS wear a condom, and you should use some kind of spermicidal gel or foam ( not just the condoms with it already applied) preferably one with non-oxynol 9 in it (it has been shown to even help prevent the spread of HIV).  None of these things by themselves are 100% effective.  Using them all would mean you've at least done everything you can- short of not having sex.

As for what you should do your first time, to begin with see the above paragraph.  BE PREPARED!  For the physical side, be considerate.  Explore together with your partner and find out what feels good to each other.  Let her show you (by guiding your hand) how she likes to be touched.  You can do the same for her.  Most of all, enjoy the experience and have fun.  Don't worry about making mistakes.  We all do.  Just be as seriously interested in your partner's pleasure as your own and you'll do fine.

Take care.

-Seriously,how old were you the first time?
a month shy of being 23

-If I got the chance, should I have sex with a girl even though I'm only 13?(I can get a private place noone will disturb us)
well, as demon said, i don't think i could sit here and encourage a 13 year old to have sex. the decision is completely up to you though. just don't go doing it cause everyone else you know is as well. wait till you're ready and hey, if you're ready now, you're ready now. i would just personally say wait.

-Any things I have to make sure I do the first time?
protection. not sure how exactly you would get that at a young age, but get it.

-Any other tips than what is on the website?
pretty much every question has been answered on this board or site somewhere, you just have to look through it and have the patience to do so.
but if you have a question you don't see answered, feel free to ask.

well personally i don't think i could sit here and encourage a 13 year old to have sex. thats just me.
if you do decide remember to use protection.

oh yeah i also was 22.