You describe the number one turnoff. I have always thought of it as the "Jackhammer" rather than "jack rabbit". Give me a Rock n' Roller instead, every time. The next biggest turnoff is making it obvious that you are trying to get your partner "off". Like it's something you have to do quickly and get it over with. If I feel that I'm being primed like a pump so the guy can then get off himself...well, forget the whole darn thing. Lastly, don't stare at/observe a womans responses/orgasm as if it's something you're going to be writing a report about later.

Looking at your watch is probably a deal breaker.

And I had a buddy who often used to sit in his recliner and watch a football game while his wife was riding him, occasionally telling her to move her head so he wouldn't miss an important play (this was while she was desperately trying to conceive). Anyway, I could see where that might be a distraction.

[QUOTE=Revirginated]You describe the number one turnoff. I have always thought of it as the "Jackhammer" rather than "jack rabbit". Give me a Rock n' Roller instead, every time. The next biggest turnoff is making it obvious that you are trying to get your partner "off". Like it's something you have to do quickly and get it over with. If I feel that I'm being primed like a pump so the guy can then get off himself...well, forget the whole darn thing. Lastly, don't stare at/observe a womans responses/orgasm as if it's something you're going to be writing a report about later.[/QUOTE]

For me, I don't mind my guy watching me orgasm. If that turns him or gives him pleasure then its fine with me. :cool:

Great question! Tell me more, please. Sometimes I feel like I get her sooo close... then lose her, never to come close again. Help!

ok if you see she is on her way all you have to do is keep doing EXACTLY what your doing unless she actually tells you to go harder or faster, its that simple.

It is all a matter of timing and every woman will be different and can be different each time. Best thing to do is ask your lady what happened. It is a learning experience for you both. There should be no embarrassment or pride but a genuine intimacy and sharing the deepest feelings about it so that each of you enjoy the experience to its maximum intensity.
Tell each other what you like and don't like.
It will be different for each woman.

Watch her pleasure herself and ask her what she likes, remember it and do it..
Study her body's responses to you and to her growing tension and learn the pattern of her arousal and climax and follow that.

When the timing is not correct the big O can be lost.

Finewine, thats a bit of a problem for me hey, my GF has never touched herself or masterbated so to speak, i dont quite know why, bat i think her parents raised her to think it was wrong to touch yourself. She gives me the occasional " lower, dont stop, faster" cues when im going down on her, and when shes riding me she told me she likes me to put my hand on her pubic bone and stimulate her clit. She knows what she likes, but she refuses to "play" with herself and doesnt feel its right..

How can i help her overcome this?? And should i help her overcome this??

top ways guys ruin sex? by coming too soon.. and if you do and you cant help it, learn to stay erect and go for another round,yes its quite difficult but im sure other guys can also do it.

number one way to ruin it:
by seeming distracted/turned off, like it's not even that great for them. That just makes me feel like **** and will automatically turn me off no matter what. Knowing that he is turned on automatically turns me on like crazy. And yeah, when I'm on my way to cumming, god don't stop please don't stop. Tell me you love it, tell me it's turning you on. I'll just go crazier.

I think my number one way to ruin it is when they ask "Did you have an orgasm?" like more then once. I just find it annoying..

do you think asking, if they felt ok or not, would come as a turn off or a way to ruin a moment if you ask like every 15-30 min? im talking during and after too btw..

i stopped but i just have been wondering..

I think answering a call on your cell phone from your stock broker is one way to ruin the moment?? :) :!

From my experience, here is what can ruin it:

*Going too fast, too hard, or too deep.

*Continuing penetration when the vagina is drying up. You should always quickly go down on your partner if you feel too much dry friction. Either use lube, lick your hands, go down on them, or while still in them spit down on your cock.

*Getting obviously distracted.

*Putting your finger in her ass if she doesn't like it (it's a gamble, but I try it from time to time). Some women love it...

*Slipping out too hard.

*Ramming her cervix.

*Forcing a woman down on your cock when she's giving you oral. Most woman want the control, don't go there unless you're sure.

*Asking a woman if you can "cum inside her"--unless you really know the girl and her birth-control theories, the answer should always be NO. In fact, what are you doing asking...just don't do it! Now there is a side-note here: it can be a HUGE turn on for both of you to act as if you're going to cum inside them. Even if you know you won't or can't...roleplaying that you are going to cum inside her pussy (god excuse the language, it is for the purpse to illustrate more clearly the situation) can be super hot, and a major turn on.

*Paying too much attention to the clit. Basically, until the woman is so hot to trot she can't stand it, you should only tease her clit. Unless of course you know your lover and her clit well...Too many men jump right into the clit...this is a big no-no. Tease tease tease tease until they beg. The hottest ever! They will love you.

*Ramming your cock into them without them being ready. Firstly, forplay should render them completely wet first. Then, when they are ready, insert your cock in little by little. Tease with the head, work it slowly, work the G-spot, then insert it all...with purpose! :)

Ok, well those are things I've learned over the years. Most of which I do not do anymore (unless my lover likes it, wants it, and asks for it). You have to learn what's bad for some, is great for others. Pay attention.

Cheers!

[QUOTE=M1chae1]From my experience, here is what can ruin it:

*Going too fast, too hard, or too deep.

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Isn't going fast, hard, and deep the best part? :p

No, in all seriousness, you sound like you really know how to treat a woman and please her, its nice to see that from a guy.

Ah yes...the key word is "TOO"

Thank you for the compliment--I really enjoy sex and making love. That sounds corny and obvious, but for me it's more of a spiritual connection, and less of a mechanical act. What turns me on most of all, is when my lover is turned on. When both parties work by this same ideal, it is the best of the best. And I will take making love with someone I'm truly connected with over a hot sexpot anyday.

im cool with it...i dont know about anyone else...

but, this site isnt JUST for adults, you got 13 year olds + on these boards. matter of fact, im 14.

i kinda figured that would be what you would call role playing, it makes sense to me.

[QUOTE]What turns me on most of all, is when my lover is turned on.[/QUOTE]

thats gotta be the one truth behind it all dude, NOTHING does me in better than that......but i got a question?

[QUOTE]it can be a HUGE turn on for both of you to act as if you're going to cum inside them. Even if you know you won't or can't...roleplaying that you are going to cum inside her pussy (god excuse the language, it is for the purpse to illustrate more clearly the situation) can be super hot, and a major turn on.[/QUOTE]

how could you roleplay coming inside her?

[QUOTE=clare33]No, in all seriousness, you sound like you really know how to treat a woman and please her, its nice to see that from a guy.[/QUOTE]

You must have really been turned on by his suggestion that it is good manners for the guy to stop and spit on his cock between thrusts.

wouldnt it be better to do that than to stop and say "oh, your not wet/its too hard to penetrate anymore"

cuz then you can keep going...

Good manners?

I'm not sure if that was a knock against me there ua322, but it seems to be. Let me explain something--how often do "manners" come into great sex? I don't think manners have anything to do with sex. From my own personal experience, I was taught to spit down on my cock by a very well-mannered girl. It just so happened that she loved it, and so do all of the other woman I've been with.

Sex is messy. Messy can be hot.

Champloo to answer your question:

You roleplay up until the moment just before cumming. Then you pull out and do what you and your lover prefer. The point is to act like you are going to cum inside her. Saying things like, "Do you want me to cum inside your pussy?" And her saying, "Yes, I want all of it inside me..." Can be extremely hot. Just make sure you pull out, no matter how tempting it is!

[Ps. I certainly hope my language and descriptions aren't too vulgar. As I see it this entire site is for adults, and as long as I'm not crude just for crude-sake, I hope nobody minds my blunt answers.]

Certain areas of this site are obviously suitable for young adults wanting to learn about sex, their bodies, and the opposite sex--but some aspects of this site should not be candy-coated for fear of offending the prude or the youth. This isn't sex ed.

Let's face it, there are a myriad questions and comments that are completely uncensored, and get down to the nitty-gritty. If somebody posts a questions that says, "How do I finger my girlfriend...” obviously I'm not going to sugar-coat my answer...nor should anybody else.

Sure there is a respectable, scientific method of answering, but that doesn't always do. I believe both the scientific academic answer should be mixed with a real-world break down as well. And 13-14 year olds need to realize a site devoted completely to sex is going to get a little vulgar and dirty at times.

hey, i realise it perfectly.

and your right,

[QUOTE]This isn't sex ed[/QUOTE]

thank god, or you would talking about why a penis gets hard or something. and what semen is for.

lol answering his phone would another :)
(just realised that luvs2plzu had it too)

heh, itd be funny if it was a phone call from another woman, or if it was one of the guy's buddies telling him he would have to get there sooner so they could hit the club...

nevah mind... :(

[QUOTE=wifey]lol answering his phone would another :)
(just realised that luvs2plzu had it too)[/QUOTE]
Not a big deal if you are top and he's on the bottom !! LOL

if the phone is on vibrate and he magically has his pocket stuck in your vagina...

very creative! lol but when it happened to me and he "dropped" i wasn't laughing...i was like :confused:

Answering the phone, watching the TV, stopping for any reason...all bad things.

[QUOTE=Lackadaisical]Answering the phone, watching the TV, stopping for any reason...all bad things.[/QUOTE]
I"m quite surprised by that statement lackadaisical;) ....we all know that in Canada most couples "do-it" doggie style on Saturday nights so that we can all watch HOCKEY NIGHT IN CANADA while having sex:p :p

i haevn't watched hockey since before they took it off the air....they play with me, i ignore them.
i'm all about concentrating on the task at hand :)

good idea.

but that is pretty funny though, i can imagine...

theres a guy in canada having deep, compassionate, perfect sex with his love/wife. all of a sudden an alarm goes off...so in between thrusts he takes the remote and goes to the hockey channel (what ever channel hockey is on) and then him and his lover watch the hockey game, yelling crude remarks and cussing out the ref's while orgasming like crazy.

lol

Whatever channel hockey is on?! CBC, if we're talkign hockey night in canada. Yes/...I miss it. Damn trying to send a message.

ok then.

the male lover takes the remote and turns on the tv to CBC. :p

lol you are joking right!

i am still huting over him answering the one that one night. i told him it hurt me cos it almost felt like the actual sex did not mean much to him for him to pick up the phone and chat away....i did that to him later but not to spite him or anything - i was on emergency mobile on weekends, so we had to work around it :cool:

wait...

he answered a phone!??!

Yes i agree asking if I had cum yet bugs the hell out of me. When they become speed demon trying to make me cum quicking but being the engerzier bunny. Hello patiences!

The nurse could not be more correct. It should be (in my opinion) a wonderful and sensual experience. Not something to be rushed or done on a time schedule. Seduction should play a major role as does foreplay and so on. I will never be confused with the "energizer bunny."

going slow is the best bet.

plenty of 4play

lots of stimulation to the clit

one of the things that happens to me every now and then b/c im a volinter firefighter is my g/f and are having sex or about to and i get a fire call and have to leave but at the same time it turns her on just b/c im a fireman

THe top way a guy can ruin is by making this sound...

*snoreeeeeeeee*