Its more of a matter of maturity than age. If you are well educated and understand what risks you take when you have sex, have safe sex, and make sure you arn't having sex out of pressure, than I think its fine. If he is not ready, then you need to respect that.

I think the problem is, that girls and boys at your age are still... girls and boys, not men and women. However if you are responsible enough, I see nothing at all wrong with it.

[QUOTE=Green Day 451;236145]Im only 16 and I have already had sex with 3 boys and my new boyfriend and me have been trying 69 alot, but he thinks we are too young to be having real sex. is he right?[/QUOTE]

Are you using condoms?

Too young? In a word:

Absolutely,
Positively,
Indubitably,
Yes

...although, I do echo CN'S outlook on this.

Also, have you had a doctors visit with your gyn, preferably before becoming sexually active? If you have yet to do so, you'll no doubt be hearing from our resident doc., Brandye about why this is so important.

Please answer the question of birth control. No intercourse unless or until both of you use contraceptives--and, that the two of you go for a third line of protection by using a spermicide.

Maturity is key. When you engage in adult activities and behaviors, you have to assume the responsibilities. You two are still children in the process of transitioning into adults. This does not end with puberty; it is a decade long process that ends around age 21 when the frontal lobe of the brain finishes developing.

In the meantime both of you are being driven by hormones and I urge you to follow common sense and reason. Also, girls generally mature a couple of years earlier than boys so if he is not ready he is not ready.

Please read the following articles that can be found in the Index at the top of the main screen. I recommend the two of you read more of what can be found there. Knowledge is empowering!

I'm Ready for SEX! (or am I?) I really want to do it.

What Can I/We Do To Prepare For First Time Intercourse?

See the sticky: Am I Ready for Sex

There are many factors to be considered in that. Final answer is, "Are you ready to look your mother in the eye and say, 'Mum, I am pregnant!'"

BCPs with condoms, and self-respect = okay enjoy yourselves!

But if ANY one of those is missing...NO. No sex for you.

I should have clarified my position a bit more in my first reply.

It is not so much your age, it is that you do not have sufficient knowledge and information to be having sex and especially intercourse.

You do not know what you do not know and the fact that you have to ask the question about being too young or about being ready tells us that you are not. That you did write in and ask is most certainly a good thing!

Please read the articles I mentioned, above. They include a link to Brandye's article.

Both you and your boyfriend should read all of the articles beginning at the top of Page 1 to the bottom of Page 2 of the Index. Read each one more than once. Once you have read each, discuss the information.

There is much more to having sex than plugging P into V.
There is much more to making love than having orgasms.
Learn what is important to men; learn what is important to women regarding the process of making love. The objectives are very different.

Making love has more to do with a person's emotions and their psyche than the physical aspect, as nice as that is. Do not be surprised that until a guy gets this, that all he is mainly interested in is in gaining some relief from getting his rocks off, and sometimes at the woman's expense.

I understand that he may be or will become curious about the process and want to experience it. I also understand the initial curiosity a girl has about losing her virginity, having her hymen opened, and all that goes along with these. Just do not do this until you are both ready mentally and emotionally and armed with lots of overall knowledge as well as background information.

It is imperative that you take birth control seriously or you will very likely be telling your mother what Brandye mentioned. Teenagers are more likely to become pregnant than at any other age! even if using contraception religiously. Birth control is not 100%. About the time you think you can fool Mother Nature, she will come back and smite thee. This is why you want to be using a contraceptive, your boyfriend must be wearing a condom--and, the two of you should be using a spermicide as backup.

Before having intercourse, you should make an appointment with your doctor or gyn and have a chat about first time intercourse. This is the time to voice any questions or concerns you may have. It is also the time to discuss contraception and which method/type is appropriate for you. This may or may not be the Pill. If it is, you should know that it is sometimes necessary to try different types over the span of several months in order to find the best medication for your body.

How are you at following a schedule? BCPs require that you religiously follow a set schedule for taking them. If you decide to take a pill at 7:00 AM, then you must take it at the same time each day within a few minutes. An hour or two later is not good enough. This is important and requires a level of maturity and reliability you may not have had to contend with to date. If you think you may have a problem, then consider an alternative type. (If you go on a trip and cross time zones, then you continue to take the pills according to your home time zone, not the new one.)

Lastly, and in your boyfriend's defense, intercourse is not the be-all end-all you may think it is. As great as orgasms are, intercourse satisfies the psyche more than the body. You may very well find that a hot intense make out session involving lots of Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, and stopping after Foreplay {h/j and/or b/j) will provide much stronger orgasms for each of you!

If you have yet to learn how to masturbate and have orgasms regularly and consistently then you may want to decide now is the time to learn and make the transition into an orgasmic woman. There is an article on all this, also. Orgasms are not given away. Each person, male and female, is responsible for his/her own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them. Reading up and learning how to do this is a big step forward.

Please do some homework and encourage your boyfriend to read these articles, also.

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