Well... I was with a married 34 year old and lost my virginity to him. However that is now over and I'm with a lovely 18 year old guy. I really adore him and i know the feelings mutal. However, we tried to have sex and it hurt a bit. Do you think its because the 34 year old didn't have as big penis? We couldn't actually have sex, because he hated seeing me in pain. How long before we can overcome this and have sex? Is there anything I can do to help? I try fingering myself but my fingers ache after a few minutes!! Would Kegal Exercises help?
Thanks. Ocean-x
you could always try the "SEARCH" feature here...like..
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/new_sex/17545-tight.html#post146288:cool:
Okay so let me get this straight. You had sex with a married 34 yr old, and now you are with an 18 year old? How old are YOU? Another question. You basically said you overcame your problem in the link luvs2plzu posted.. now you are asking for the same help? I'm a tad confused here on info given..
At that point when I had posted, all I had experienced was the 34 year old and his size, I hadn't had sex with anybody else. However my new partner who is 18 is slightly larger and thats why it hurts. I'm 17 and a half. Do you think it could be perhaps the 34 year old did not break my hymen fully?? Or could it be because I am still on my period using tampons and could have been a bit dry yesterday? Thanks.
...*thinks the married 34 year old should be shot*
Hi Ocean-x
Your problems are not caused by the larger penis of ur boyfriend. No Vagina is too tight ! Probably u have n infection...
Did u have safer sex?? With both of them ??
If yes, u might react in some way on the condomes or lubricant...or whatever :-)
I think u should go to the doctor.
****.. what country do you live in? india or something, married at 17!! to a 34 year old jeeez
[QUOTE=Westles;154977]****.. what country do you live in? india or something, married at 17!! to a 34 year old jeeez[/QUOTE]
NO I was with a married guy, I didn't marry him! lol. And i live in the UK.
[QUOTE]I try fingering myself but my fingers ache after a few minutes!! Would Kegal Exercises help?[/QUOTE]
Get a sex toy, it's much more practical for simulating a penis. I like to think that Kegel exercises help with everything.
Since it was just the once, I wouldn't worry about it--lots of factors in that situation could contribute to "performance anxiety". Just be relaxed next time. If it keeps happening, then it's cause for concern.
I realize we're all being a bit nosy here, but you did mention it... so I gotta say that getting involved with a married man is nothing but trouble. I imagine you may have realized that though.
[QUOTE=ocean-x;154992]NO I was with a married guy, I didn't marry him! lol. And i live in the UK.[/QUOTE]
You were 17 and you had sex with a 34 year old?
Granted I do not live in the UK, but I do hope there are some laws against that.
That fact that he is married is besides the point.
I would imagine searching the fourms would yield answers to your questions. Your conclusion of the two men's sizes being different, could be an issue. I would only imagine it would be if it was a huge difference, as in a few inches. But then again, your supposed to be able to push a baby out of there..
In my opinion, before you have sex again you should go see a Doctor.