okay so my boyfriend and i have been talking about sex, and we want to, lol
so because im a virgin and im really athletic i know im tight..
this sucks!
my bf was fingering me the other day and we both got really into it and after i asked him how many fingers he used because it felt like alot.. ya it was only one!
so the other day he was doing it again and i was like k go for two, and he tried, OH MY GOD!
it hurt so bad he had to stop and i hurt and wow it was just awful!
but he tried again and he was able to do it with two like about 20 times i think.. i dont know
lol so hes worried its gonna hurt me and im worried because i dont wanna have horrible hurting sex my first time,
what do we do?
or just i?
Since you are a virgin you really have no way of knowing what size man would fit you. Relax and enjoy is about you can do at this point.
I think you should stretch yourself out before you have sex. When my bf and I were thinking about having sex, I started to do this on myself. Work up with how many fingers you can insert inside yourself (masturbate first so that you are lubed up), and you can also try with objects (like a dildo). This way, you can break your hymen and loosen yourself up a little bit before you try having sex with your bf. Because I had already lost my hymen and had been stretched out before sex, my first time was great. I experienced no pain, just pleasure. So... I really recommend trying this. You can also get him to help.
The other thing I want to stress is to take your first time slowly, bring some lube, and make sure you are totally comfortable and relaxed before you attempt sex. Being nervous will mean that you will clench up your muscles and this will make sex painful, too, so be sure that you are OK with what is going on at all times. Your body needs time to prep itself for sex, so lots of foreplay is advisable! You may want to try woman on top for your first time, because you will be able to control how far into you he goes and how fast it goes.
Good luck!
okay, ya ive been trying..
honestly im not thge least bit interested in a dildo? as werid as that sounds..
okay, well im flexible and athletic? so would i have "popped my cherry" already so to speak..
oh yea we both know, slow and steady.. lol
okay ill try that, thanks alot! :)
well, one thing i've noticed while being with my gf (she sorta told me.....felt so embarrased) the popping the cherry things aren't true. the hymen is a muscle, and it rips from what i have learned. so if you have only used a finger or two, i doubt there's a way you have already done it. hope this helps
The hymen is NOT a muscle. It is a thin tissue not different from plain skin that forms an ring around the vaginal entrance. It does tear at some point. That can be a little at a time using tampons; all at once from gymnastics; worn away from playing with yourself or any of many other scenarios.
The underlying muscles are not torn but sometimes need some stretching.
oh.. well i learned something new today.