Hello all. I have been "lurking" here for some time. Before posting this question, I did a search - but nothing was completely relevant to my situation. I have always been fairly quick during sex.....it used to bother me alot, even though my siginificant other was always satisfied. So my "MO" was always lots of foreplay to get her "close" then we would be able seal the deal (although I still usually came first but she was still able to reach orgasm). For many years, sex was mostly limited to the missionary position....we talked about it and it was the only position she could ever come in. Through some of the exercises detailed here and elsewhere, I have been able to "maintain" better control in the missionary position. I used to last no longer than 1 min. - I can now last a few minutes...on occasion even longer than she likes...but this is only in the missionary position. For whatever reason (after 20+ years) we have started getting into all kinds of other positions. Now to my question - any time we do the rear entry positions - its over it like 2 seconds from the time it starts. Its really maddening. It is my favorite position, but I just have no control. And its not like I can just keep going. Once I'm done, I inevitably slip out.....I am wearing a condom, and I am not even moving. I basically go in and bam its over. This is really getting to me. I can't talk to her about it. As weird as it sounds, we've been together for 20+ years but sex is something we rarely discuss. She is uncomfortable talking about it (not me) - to her there is no discussion - just do it, and enjoy it! We have a very happy sex life, but what gives? Why am I so riduclously fast in this position? Thank you.
Thu, 12/21/2006 - 21:03
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Too quick - with a twist
An orgasm, either man or woman, is the release of myotonia - as we approach climax we really stiffen up many muscles. In some positions, you have too many muscles too tight and they are screaming for release. All my male partners over the years have longer lasting and shorter lasting positions. In different position, you tense different muscles, rub different parts and perceive different friction from your partner.
I have known guys who could go forever in missionary and pop right off on the bottom and vice versa. Rear entry positions are difficult to try the squeeze technique but that (google it) is the best training to last I know for men.
You aren't getting enough and remain too sensitive. Masturbate beforehand. Focus upon her to the point where you can ignore how it feels to you. Use a cock ring. Take a pill. This is not a new problem and solutions abound.