My girlfriend and I just started having sex two days ago. We did it 4 times, and she orgasmed at least 7. That was an amazing feeling for me, because I like to please my women, and I've never made one of the other girls I've had sex with orgasm, so to do it that much made me feel great! I tried to go a fifth time, because we both wanted to, but I just couldn't get it up and keep it up. I figured I was just exhausted or my body just telling me no or something. Yesterday, we did it once and she hit the big O twice. We didn't try to do it again, because we decided to hang out with some friends and then she got sick. Today, we decided that we should maybe slow down a little, but we'd do it one more time before taking a break from the bedroom (we didn't want to feel like our relationship was all physical). So, we start, and almost immediately after I put the condom on, I started to soften a little, but after a little bit of prepping, I was good to go. We start, then probably 15-30 seconds in, I blew it. I lasted longer than that the very first time I ever had sex. Is there a possible medical reason? Like my penis wasn't ready to have a good, long go for some reason. Is there such a thing as too much sex?
Tue, 03/21/2006 - 06:59
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Too much sex?
Well, upon starting, we all go a bit overboard. This corrects itself as we become a bit more blase about our newfound activity.
As long as you are functioning, there is not too much sex. If you are being affected, slow down a bit. The response is more psychological than physiological. Some times you last; sometimes you barely get in. There are other pleasant things to do.
> My girlfriend and I just started having sex two days ago. We did it 4 times...I tried to go a fifth time..but I just couldn't get it up and keep it up. Yesterday, we did it once.... We didn't try to do it again....
Let me see if I understand the timeline correctly. This is Tuesday, you began this new adventure two days ago, so that would be Sunday. If correct, and according to your recount, you tried to have sex five times the first day, and then once, yesterday. Five times in one day is expecting a lot from any guy, even a young post pubescent teen! Most of us of the male persuation are limited to perhaps three orgasms in any given day--maybe four on an exceptionally good day!
> Is there such a thing as too much sex?
Yes and no. Yes, if the activity interferes with other obligations and responsibilities; no, if your body has not yet "cried 'uncle'" and refused to respond. Herein lies the key: There is for each of us a limit beyond which our body simply refuses to respond. This may be twice, thrice, or four or more times, all depending upon age and sex drive and how we're "wired". It takes 24-48 hours for our system to fully "regenerate" and be ready to go again once we reach our limit. Oh, sure, having done so, you might be able to climax after waiting less than a day but usually the climax will be anti-climactic. From your description of events it does sound like you reached your limit.
> I figured I was just exhausted or my body just telling me no or something.
Your assessment seems correct to me, without knowing more of the actual facts involved.
> ...and she orgasmed at least 7. That was an amazing feeling for me...so to do it that much made me feel great!
Imagine how this made her feel!! Most men and women can enjoy multiple orgasms; although women are capable of achieving many more than us guys, as noted, above.
> Today, we decided that we should maybe slow down a little, but we'd do it one more time before taking a break... We start, then probably 15-30 seconds in, I blew it. I lasted longer than that the very first time I ever had sex.
The long and the short of the matter is directly connected to how aroused we are and how stimulated we become as a result of both physical and other inputs like visual, sounds, smells, and our imagination. So, to have only lasted that short a time is not an indicator of a problem, only that the conditions were such that you were ready before you otherwise desired to be. I have written many times about a condition called Premature Ejaculation and how to control it. For information, just do a search using my name and the topic by name or abreviation: P E. It is an exercise that the two of you can do together that will train you to recognize when you are about to climax and maintain control. Brandye often recommends another approach known as the "squeeze technique" and this is really good "in the moment". Do a search using her name and the term.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?
Thanks, that helps a lot. At 19, I'm pretty sure (at least i hope so) that my body is pretty set in it's ways (except for weight), but I'm too young to have really understood a lot of it. Thanks for the help.
You're welcome. I want to help if possible, however, I am confused by this:
> I'm too young to have really understood a lot of it. Thanks for the help.
Is there "a lot" of information in my response, above, that you do not understand? What things don't you understand?
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