I've been trying to give oral sex to a guy I've been with for awhile now but everytime I do it's going good and then when he's about to cum he tells me it's too much so I stop.....I'm still working on my gag reflex so I'm usually at the top and even when I rub him it's still too much for him.....I asked him to masturbate for me and he did so I follwowd what he did but right when he was about to cum it was too much again so I was wondering if anyone could help me with this? I would really like to do this for him but everytime I try it's always too much
Mon, 06/13/2005 - 19:15
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Too much fr him
hmm the idea of tying him up might have more too it.
it will give him a sense of helplessness in the situation where he isnt in control which will send his body crazy probably.
(btw i'm by no means experienced so i might be spouting bull i can only talk about what i'd want.)
but anyway the helpless feeling might help him to relax more knowing that he isnt in control and cant do anything about it.
watch his body language, and if your ever unsure then you can always stop, but otherwise i'd just go all the way, maybe gag him too so he cant protest.
just suggestions, just watch his body language though cos that can tell you alot about whats going on.
also with males sometimes they dont experience orgasms when they come, isnt it because an orgasm and an ejaculation are so close together that we cant differentiate between the two and thus only know what ejaculation is like.
i dont know
just suggestions.
hope this helps
and please you lot know more then me so if i got something wrong then i would really like you to tell me.
good luck.
thanks for all the replies....I talked about it with him and the other day and I did what brandye suggested and watched the responses....I was able to make him cum once or twice but most of the time it still ends up being too much but the other day he said he likes it when I make it too much for him and that made me feel better about it but I'd still like to be able to make him cum.....he showed me the spot and everything to touch but it doesn't always work how I want it to...he told me that my hand slips sometimes and I've noticed that it does that....I don't think I'm used to the feel of it yet so I'll keep trying but I'm glad even when that does happen he still enjoys it and thanks again for all the replies
OK, lacking a penis this is medical and analytic. As the male orgasm approaches there is a large amount of blood that is pumped into the penis. This causes the head to expand and turn rather purple. The distension causes it to become hyper sensitive. Rubbing against the smooth walls of the vagina, this is extremely pleasurable (I understand and observe). In our mouths, things are not quite as smooth and glove like and some men simply cannot stand it - even to the point of experiencing excruciating pain. I have been told that uncircumcised men are more subject to this than those who have been trimmed.
Perhaps you can stop any friction against the glans (the head) and simply press the shaft skin down toward his body. If he is beyond the point of no return, he will ejaculate. You can catch it however you wish. Another possibility is to blow him with a condom on (use a dry one) and see how that goes.
Jack him off in good light and watch the response of the penis all the way from soft to ejaculation. You can learn much doing handjobs. By the time I took one into me I knew more about how the penis would function than how I would! Lots of handjobs!
How 'bout tying him up a little? Then give him a mind-blowing blow job!!!!
Can you explain what you mean by "too much"?
Too much what? Too much applesauce? Does it hurt him? I don't get it.
I've heard this happening more often w/ girls who get close to orgasm but the feelings are too intense and they can't continue. Usually its girls who have never experienced an orgasm and don't really know what to expect.
Apparently since he masturbated for you... he has orgasmed before but I'm guessing its only been from himself and not someone else??
Maybe the loss of control is an issue for him.
I would just go slow and hopefully he will be able to let go.
good luck