when i have sex with my girl friend we can go for at least an hour. thing is that i just cant cum, so whats up? we have only done it about 7 times and it does feel amazing for both of us. i can make her cum 5 or 6 times but not myself. so i have to finsh my self off after. but hte thing is when i do it alone i can do it very quickly.
so whats the deal ?
It's mainly b/c your body is accustomed to your own touch, speed, grip, etc.
A vagina can't grip as tight as your hand and it's not the same sensation.
You just have to condition your penis to be able to cum during sex...not just masturbation.
Maybe lay off masturbating for awhile and see if that helps.
And when you are with her relax, show her what you like, how, and how fast. Baby steps first!
Please read the following Sticky post, beginning with the first chapter. Next, read the third chapter on making out, and then you can read the remaining info in any order you choose.
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping
Next, read this informational Sticky post:
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
There are two scenarios at play. One is how to give a good hand job; second, how to climax during intercourse. Both are covered in the above information.
There is a condition called "delayed ejaculation". There's a great article on it here.
From the article: "Some men's strokes are so striking in speed, pressure or force that penetration seems ho-hum. Try switching hands when you solo and see if you have trouble coming--a dead giveaway that intensity is the issue. Then cut out partnerless sex until you've reset your physical/neurological circuitry to lighter stimulation."
what i think the problem is, is i can masturbate 5 or 6 times a day with no worries. i also think im still nervous because she is the 1st girl ive realy been with.
btw thanks for the quick replys :)