hey...my bf's wnted to finger me for ages...im always reticent bout evrythin coz i've never done nething sexual be4 this relationship. he's quite advanced so i've been introduced to tossing off and blow jobs etc. now...and all that stuff is fine - i enjoy it - coz it's me giving something to him. he doesn't have any inhibitions and he sed he wnts to finger me tomoz. we've been going out just over 4 months now and well...im a lil worried he won't like the way i look down there/if i've shaved like his past gf's have etc...whether i smell ok to him etc etc. it worries me a bit...thing is..in a way i just wanna get it over and done with. i will have to face it at some point in my life and get over this nervousness. i said to him i was rlly anxious about it...and he said he'd be gentle etc. so it's nice 4 me...i just cnt help being worried. also wud he mind me wearing a pantyliner to keep fresh?!
please reply...i'm seeing him tomoz (saturday) *anxious face*
thanks SO much,
uncreativename
dont try perfume, unless is non-alcohol, specially if you decide to shave because the alcohol will irritate you, but again, a bath is the best opcion.
[QUOTE=Quote (Tessie @ Mar. 18 2005,14:03)]OK girl you need to relax and know that your body is beautiful even the parts you are concerned about.
Your boyfriend who is more sexually advanced then you knows that you’re not experienced already and he still wants to be with you. He should also know that every woman looks different down there and trust me most men love it no matter what it looks like.
I understand that you want to please him. But it’s just as important that you are being pleased by him as well. Don’t worry about the shaving thing. That is a choice that should be left up to you anyway and what you feel comfortable doing. As for the smell most men have no problem with it and many simply love it. Take a good shower before your date and if you feel better wearing a panty liner then do so. You can always slip into the bathroom and remove it before hand. I also recommend those stay fresh cloths that are sold in the female section as well if you really want to be sure. Summer’s Eve has a nice fresh smell to them.
I know your nervous and if you really don’t feel comfortable letting him touch you in that way then don’t do it. Plain and simple. But if you do want to then yes you need to talk to him and make sure he is gentle with you. Start out doing what you two normally do. Get yourself aroused and relax when his fingers touch you. Don’t let him touch you with a dry finger because that can hurt you. If he does do anything to hurt you then just tell him. Communication is the most important part of any sexual activity.[/QUOTE]
thanx 4 ur reply - VERY helpful!!
uncreativename
OK girl you need to relax and know that your body is beautiful even the parts you are concerned about.
Your boyfriend who is more sexually advanced then you knows that you’re not experienced already and he still wants to be with you. He should also know that every woman looks different down there and trust me most men love it no matter what it looks like.
I understand that you want to please him. But it’s just as important that you are being pleased by him as well. Don’t worry about the shaving thing. That is a choice that should be left up to you anyway and what you feel comfortable doing. As for the smell most men have no problem with it and many simply love it. Take a good shower before your date and if you feel better wearing a panty liner then do so. You can always slip into the bathroom and remove it before hand. I also recommend those stay fresh cloths that are sold in the female section as well if you really want to be sure. Summer’s Eve has a nice fresh smell to them.
I know your nervous and if you really don’t feel comfortable letting him touch you in that way then don’t do it. Plain and simple. But if you do want to then yes you need to talk to him and make sure he is gentle with you. Start out doing what you two normally do. Get yourself aroused and relax when his fingers touch you. Don’t let him touch you with a dry finger because that can hurt you. If he does do anything to hurt you then just tell him. Communication is the most important part of any sexual activity.
[QUOTE=Quote (Laria @ Mar. 18 2005,13:45)]well dont worry!
its normal to feel nervious that first time,but i assure you he was nervious too.
Dont worry about smells, if you dont have any infections yous smell is going to be natural, but if you are still worrired you can buy some natural scented oil and put a bit in your legs or abdomen (never in the mucoses because it can bring irritation or infections) but a bath is always the best opcion.
and about the pubic hair, that's you dessicion, and you can even ask your partner, communication is very important, ask him if he would like to see you shaved, with some hair...
But the best advice i can give you is to enjoy because its a wonderful feeling, and you'll see thatyou would love it and forget about everything else.[/QUOTE]
Thank you SO much for your reply laria! You're a life-saver! I will try n keep relaxed..maybe a squirt of perfume and some scented body lotion could help?!
thank you!
uncreativename
well dont worry!
its normal to feel nervious that first time,but i assure you he was nervious too.
Dont worry about smells, if you dont have any infections yous smell is going to be natural, but if you are still worrired you can buy some natural scented oil and put a bit in your legs or abdomen (never in the mucoses because it can bring irritation or infections) but a bath is always the best opcion.
and about the pubic hair, that's you dessicion, and you can even ask your partner, communication is very important, ask him if he would like to see you shaved, with some hair...
But the best advice i can give you is to enjoy because its a wonderful feeling, and you'll see thatyou would love it and forget about everything else.