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> i need help i'm a double 54EE (but i'm not fat 70kg/154 lbs.) ... i'm worried my tits are too big and they will put people off? can you help? what should i do to make men like my tits?

Do you find your breasts to be uncomfortable? Do the bra straps cause indentations in your shoulders? What about neck and back pain?

The first thought that came to mind upon reading your question is not to focus on them. Perhaps easier said than done, however, if you do not make a big deal over their size or prominence and simply let them be one of your many attributes, more people than not will sense your comfort and also not focus on their size. What tends to happen is that when someone is uncomfortable with some aspect of their body, real or imagined, their body language and/or conversations tend to focus on the matter.

My recommendation is to learn to accept you as you are. If you will do this, the question then becomes: what should I do to make men like me?

Unless or until you are in a financial position to have them reduced in size, then this seems to me to be your best way of handling the situation. Your personality is key. The way you perceive yourself is very important when interacting with others.

Some men like large breasts. Some men like full figured women. Some men like women who have only been 46kg/100 lbs. on a very humid day or after bathing and before drying off. My point is that if you cannot change your appearance, then make the most of your other attributes, beginning with your personality. Second, evaluate your wardrobe and wear clothing that to do not call attention to your breasts, either from color, pattern, or size.

Next, have you been properly fitted for a bra? Recently?? It is not unusual for women to learn that they have been wearing the wrong size. I suggest going to a specialty boutique and having someone measure you. A properly fitting bra can make you look younger, thinner, smaller, better proportioned. A properly fitting bra will help with your comfort. Doing this should be at the top of your to do list this week!

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

During the last few years, breast reduction surgery has been done more often than breast augmentation in many countries. Moreover, it often has medical need establishing it as a medical necessity rather than cosmetic procedure. Overly large breasts can have long term consequences including permanent damage to the shoulders and, worse, scoliosis or curvature of the spine. As one ages, each of these can become debilitating. "putting people off" or "making men like your breasts" are not matters of medical necessity.

You do not state your height but 70kg does indicate a bit of extra weight unless you are quite tal. It may also indicate a disproprtionate amount of that weight in your breasts. That can mean problems for your health. Forget other people's perceptions for now and focus on your body. Talk to your doctor and, depending upon that outcome, ask for referral to a surgeon experienced in breast reduction. 54EE is quite large and disproportionate for your weight.

If you choose not to pursue this, first get into an exercise program and then take doc's recommendation about fitting. There is a sticky on Breast Size and Bra Size. Do a search.

[QUOTE=makelovetome;259848] Boys, 54EE - should i get a reduction? or put on a pushup bra?[/QUOTE]
lol @ push up bra... comeon young fella time to give up:p;):D

I hate trolls and it seems like there are too many around here. Ugh.

Well you have exposed yourself as not being a woman. Size six as waist is measurement is meaningless.

Mods can this just be taken down?

Most men in developed countries like breasts a lot. Some men like large breasts and there are men who like extremely large breasts. there are also men who like very small breasts and men who just don't care. There is no doubt someone for you. A person who judges you solo on how large of small your breasts or buttocks are is not going to make a very good partner. There are plenty men who are or will be attracted by other aspects of your anatomy and most importantly by your personality.
I am a breast man myself, always have been, but I was never a fan of very large breasts until I met my wife and you know what? It was her personality that attracted me, not her breasts.

Please! let's not have a cat fight or hissy fit over a typo or misspeak.

> i'm not fat! let me tell you, i'm 5'9 and my waist is a size 6.

No doubt in my mind she meant to say: "I'm 5' 9" and my (American) dress is a size 6."

Doc,

That is not a typo or a misspeak. I gave it the benefit of the doubt with my first post. What is being described is not a normal woman. There has never been a woman with a bra band of 54 who was not disgustingly obese and EEs on that woman would be not be exceptional - simply huge as with the rest of the body. The size issue is not a mistake a woman would make. When we talk dress sizes we are addressing one thing and waist size is for different purposes.

I can recall the early days of the internet when typical questions to weed men out of women's sites was sizes - bra, dress, hose, height, weight, blouse. Men typically do not know how various items are sized and getting them all together requires a cheat sheet to not end up with a strange shape. This boy has conjured up an impossibly strange shape.

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I have to concur with Brandye on this one. An American size 6 dress would never in a million years fit a 54EE. I'm 5'6" and a 4, and I'm a 34B. Ain't no 20 inches of bust between a size 4 and a size 6, even with 3" height difference. Check the sizing guide on any online retail apparel store. A 6 measures roughly 34-26-37.

Not to mention the fact that Brandye is a physician.

Women's clothing sizes. Sigh. A mess. Most of continental Europe, ex Italy, using one approach; UK, another that is similar, but not quite, to U.S. and then the Australians have a system no one can figure out. You should try shopping in Hong Kong, where they use none of the systems but all of the systems.

About the breasts; Be happy with them, unless they cause your health trouble. A friend I used to know was about 160 cm tall and had a cupsize F, And a very skinny person she was! So her breasts didn't make it to her bellybutton, but let's say it was close. She never experienced trouble with bf's; they all liked her! Some loved the breasts, others just took them for how they were. And why wouldn't they? She simply is a nice person!

Remember: we are all beautiful in our own imperfect way!

So "beauty was no issue, but back-problems did; her spine was going to curve (scoliosis, like Brandye said). She had them minimized, covered by insurance as it was really affecting her health. But helas, that seems to differ each country and each insurance. After that; her breasts were about a cup C, which was still on the "big" for her physique. Took quite a while to heal, but it was worth it! Docs did some research. Her extreme breastsize appeared to be due to unstable female hormones, which also messed up her cycle. Last time I heard she was trying to have a baby using added hormones to make her underdevelopped eggcells ready to jump (Hope her wish came true! :))

Don't mean to scare you! And I do not know how common this is... But I would advice to consult your doc or gyn when apart from the big breasts, you also experience problems with the female cycle. It is my understanding that hormontreatment in an earlier stage could prevent "damage" later on.

About the clothesizes So, I'm not going to judge the size of things. But: Wow! This American size-thing is really interesting... The cupsize is the only thing recognizable to me. And apparently I'd have a hard time shopping over there! If I understand this correctly, it only goes up 169 cm tall!?! [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/US_standard_clothing_size#Women.27s_sizes]US standard clothing size - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia The average being 163 cm. Is this really true or is this wiki just kidding me???

Well, at least it would explain the quote "You do not state your height but 70kg does indicate a bit of extra weight unless you are quite tal." Which at first I thought to be strange. Not the question, but the "overweight" and "tall" thing. As women over here are 173 cm average and 70 kg is a perfect weight :) I'm a girl that is considered "quite tall" over here and I'd have to way over 85 kg until BMI qualifies me as having a bit extra weight! (which in fact, I am :o Still trying to lose some!)

[QUOTE=RedRoses;259900]If I understand this correctly, it only goes up 169 cm tall!?! [url=http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/US_standard_clothing_size#Women.27s_sizes]US standard clothing size - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia The average being 163 cm. Is this really true or is this wiki just kidding me???[/QUOTE]

It's giving you averages, Red. Of course there are taller women. But sizing charts are based on averages, and the average woman is around 5'5" or 5'6" (165cm-168cm).

There's no way I'm going to believe that 20" (50cm) extra at the bust only takes a woman up a single size (from a 4 to a 6).

Sigh.. I should have known... :( I always bring about 3 different sizes to the fitting room. With jeans being the most difficult of them all! The fact that different brands do not use the sizetables the same, isn't helping... :( As do several countries! Yes; most of Europe uses the same "approach" (sizes 34, 36, 38, 40, 42, 44, etc) yet it doesn't mean the same. A Dutch size 40 is approximately a Belgian size 42, a French size 44, etc. Funny when you look at the international labels stitched in your clothing ;) Whenever I buy something over the internet, I always look up the exact measurement in centimeters. Good news: I've heard that NEN is developing a new clothingsize-system that will put a stop to the "free interpretation" of size. The idea so far: all labels in Europe will have the actual centimeters for size. I wonder when this frabjous day will come... Than I shall futterwacken vigorously! :D

[QUOTE=RedRoses;259918]The fact that different brands do not use the sizetables the same, isn't helping... :([/QUOTE]

No kidding. And here's where it gets more frustrating yet:

T sells some retail clothing. Even within the same brand, same style, same size, of a shirt for example, a different COLOR of that shirt can sometimes fit or be cut slightly differently. He once bought a mustard-ish colored oxford shirt after having tried it on. Went back and bought same brand, style and size, in a silver-gray. Didn't fit as well.

O yes, that's so true! I had this problem with my Cecil jeans. Shop didn't take it back, cause stupid ol' me (being a little too enthusiastic) had already cut the tags off :mad: My bf had about the same trouble with Wrangler jeans. Tried several on, found a size that fit him, bought 3 of them. At home, I urged him to try each of them on before the tag-cutting... One of them didn't fit! He was flabbergasted. The store did exchange it. The weirdest thing; to exchange one pair of jeans for the exact same jeans! Salesman said: don't worry; it happens all the time! :eek:

T had already cut the tags off, too. However, as I said, he sells some retail clothing--so he owns a tag gun, and replaced the tags himself so they'd take it back :D

This is so confusing for me ,hearing all of these different sizings."WOW"what a mess?I'm an Aussie, dress size 16-18,bra size anything between a16C-16DD,depending on cut and brand.Don't ask me to convert cm's to inches cause i have no clue as i'm a romanticist not a mathematician.I've never had a bra properly fitted but i guess i should do as i have an anomaly in that my right breast is somewhat larger than my left.Before anyone wants to start an argument i am approximately 5'7"in height,have no idea about the size of my waist,and yes iam slightly overweight but on the way down due to stress and poor eating habits. Let me finish by saying that we are all individuals,with different attributes,and that's what makes us all unique.I'm not bothered about my different sized melons(it's the one thing that i have always liked about myself)it's how i was created and men i've been with have never commented about my breasts being "odd".Actually i don't even think they have even noticed the difference.

Actually, Raunchy, we ALL have different sized breasts. My bra maker has said that, if converted (UKsize), I would be a 35 with one side a B+ and the other, a C-. And they are different heights above my waist. Ever see photos of your face using two left sides or two right sides? Same thing with breasts and we know it but it is rarely noticed by others.

There are a few sites that conversion tables to give a rough idea how to compare one nations' sizes with another's. But, intenitonally or not, the manufacturers are so sloppy that that only gives one a starting point for trying something on. You should get a real fitting at a specialty shoppe that carries a variety of brands. Probably no real reason to have them custom made but they certainly are comfortable!

Oh I just went through this last week. I have been wearing a 38DD for what seems like ages now... Used to be a 40DDD... I noticed a severe increase in back pains and figured it was time to get in and get a real sizing done. The only problem is we only have one store that does fitting here where I live.. And they are horrible with what brands they actually carry... SO I went online and looked up how bras should properly fit.. and wah la... A week later in a 36 DD and I can already feel the difference. I have a problem finding bras I like because through sports I tore up a lot of what 'holds them puppies up' so to speak, so my breasts hang more central than where they should be. *Yay for bad bras* I have a hard time wearing anything low cut in the front because I spill over it, even if it's the right cup size. It is one thing I high suggest to larger chested women is making sure you get fitted at least twice a year.. It's free... So why not!

I have found that I don't have to do anything at all to make men like my tits! There are men that go for legs, butts you name it any one part of a woman's body can turn a man on. It's all about how you feel about yourself though so if you don't like how large they are there is always reduction surgery. ;)

[QUOTE=dlb;259872]Most men in developed countries like breasts a lot. Some men like large breasts and there are men who like extremely large breasts. there are also men who like very small breasts and men who just don't care. There is no doubt someone for you. A person who judges you solo on how large of small your breasts or buttocks are is not going to make a very good partner. There are plenty men who are or will be attracted by other aspects of your anatomy and most importantly by your personality.
I am a breast man myself, always have been, but I was never a fan of very large breasts until I met my wife and you know what? It was her personality that attracted me, not her breasts.[/QUOTE]

Ditto... Okay, I love small breasts but that's also a minority opinion around people I know. Personality keeps my interests, too, definitely.

I'd say most likely it may be a lie this so called woman in this post however it's not impossible.
I weigh 70kg I'm 5ft6 and wear a UK size 8 on bottoms and UK 10 up top
and my bra size is a 36E bra (again UK size).
My BMI says I'm "overweight" yet I've got a flat stomach and look nowhere near overweight.

Hey don't feel bad at all. My boyfriend loves huge breasts. I mean, we're talking Maria Moore sized breasts here. ;):rolleyes:

darling your tits are not too big..mine are a 36 ff to a 36 g

men love BOOBS no mattter what size :)

[QUOTE=Spicygirl82;261911]Hey don't feel bad at all. My boyfriend loves huge breasts. I mean, we're talking Maria Moore sized breasts here. ;):rolleyes:[/QUOTE]

Her breasts are simply luscious!

[QUOTE=cyanideprincess;262156]darling your tits are not too big..mine are a 36 ff to a 36 g

men love BOOBS no mattter what size :)[/QUOTE]

Frankly, I have never seen, nor been with a woman, whom I felt possessed breasts that were too big!

Their is such a thing as too big

I have big tits and i love its very much, I think the boobs are most attractive part of body and big tits looks beautiful and its can attracts any man

Big Breasts are the most beautiful parts of a Woman.You can play with them by many types.

I love big tits