Hi. 
I've been really sexual active for a few years now, and just last year, I really got into sex. But, I am still a virgin. And now that I have been in a relationship for a year and a half, sex is coming-- very soon. We fool around a lot.
However, since I can tell we are going to have sex very soon, I want to try to get rid of most of my hymen as possible. My boyfriend has a very large penis, and I am a very small and a very tight girl. I'm aware it is going to hurt, and i'm expecting it too. But I would like to reassure myself a little by getting rid of my hymen as much as I can.
I have used tampons for years and years. But I have looked at other pictures of the hymen, and it seems like mine is still there. I have also been very active in sports, but didn't seem to have an effect on that either-- Or I could be very mistaken and it's just not even there anymore! My boyfriend has also fingered me many times, and he has thick fingers. When he had two in me at once, it felt a little uncomfortable, but then felt good.
Unfortuantly, i'm young-- There's no way I could go out and get myself a dildo or a vibrator, as I read on other posts. Or be able to order one. 
So. Any suggestions or advice would be great. Thanks!
More than likely, it's already gone, but since you're narrow, and petite, it seems like it's still there.
I never used tampons before I had sex, but I know my hymen wasn't there, or at least I didn't think it was. The first time we did it (and a couple times after that for that matter), he could go in with ease but after about an inch in, it just seemed to not go any further. I blame that on lack of lubrication (and the right kind for that matter) and that fact that I'm a small petite tight girl.
My only advice to you is to find your way to a doctor and have them check to see if it is in fact, still there. If it is, you can have them make a cut on it.
And be sure that when you do actually have sex, to have some kind of a lube with you. I recommend Astroglide personally as it helped me. But since you're a small tight girl, I believe you will need it. You may still have pain, but at least it will aid in it going in a little better.
right, ive had a surf around the internet for you hunny and all i could find was the option of surgery but thats for people whos hymens completely cover the vagina and i doubt they would do that on someone who didnt have that. all i can reccommend is doing vigerous excersise like swimming. that is a very common way a girl can break the hymen before losing virginity and is tried and tested by me. lol. when it eventually does break make sure to keep the area clean etc so it doesnt go nasty but you knew that already.
good luck 