Ok well im in my final years of highschool and ive never been one of those "popular" girls. I normally hang at the smokers pit with my group of friends and other then that I keep to myself. Well recently one of the football players (the quarterback) has show interest in me. Hes asked me to come chill with him and etc etc. Now im not use to guys like that hanging with girls like me. Like him being a prep/jock superstar and be being known as one of the smoker/stoner(no i dont do drugs) type of girl.
Now I know hes use to the "barbie" types of girls and I am by no means a barbie. If I had to pick my best physical aspect it would be my breasts which are a D36. Other then that, I got a bit of a chubby tummy, lover handles, not so hot bottom and thunder thighs. Ive never been picky about myself when hanging out with the guys I normally hang with but now that I am to be hanging with this new guy im a complete wreck. Lately ive been picking out every flaw on my body and freaking about it. I know that if he really does like me he'll like me for how I am and stuff but I still feel very pressured to match up to his usual barbie girl types.
So basically all Im asking is for a little help on anything you can help with in this situation!
If he doesn't care, why should you? Seems like he likes you just the way you are...
Ya I understand that but it just feels very awqward and new to me. I mean honestly, the girls ive seen him with previously are all cheerleaders and look like they could get on the cover of playboy. And me, I just dont think I add up to that. I mean the talk and act like valley girls(which I find bloody irritating) and Im just your average girl. It just feels like im out of my league and in forbidden territory. And on your average day I am confident in myself, when im with my group of friends. But as soon as I go anywhere near him and his friends it gets to be overwhleming. Its the whole, other side of the tracks sort of thing. Like I understand exactly what you mean but even knwing that Im still so self concience about myself.
think about it though maybe he is sick of having barbie girls and wants something real and that is why he went for you, i would normally think of footballers as shallow and uninterested in anyone of a real genuine quality, but it may happen he might be a really nice guy who is sick of all the fake barbies and wants a nice realy girl with a bit of meat on her who doesnt spend hours trying to look perfect, and i find men who i have discribed love your flaws and that it is becuase of thoughs flaws that they do like you, think about that. i hope i helped
Just remeber, he came to you... I can see your way of thinking if you were trying to get him, and thought that just because he hung out with the Barbies, that you needed to adjust your physical appearance to get him to notice you. However, that is not the case at all.
Afterall, just because he is the quarterback, all men do not like the Barbie Doll Look. He may like girls with a little more meat on their bones. An All NATURAL girl that eats and smokes; One that doesnt think that living up to Societies "standards" is important and likes to be a little more Free in her thinking.
Just keep in mind that he came to you, and you did not seek him out and look to impress him. Obviously he sees something in you that he thinks he is looking for and likes. Stay true to yourself, and dont worry about the normal Social Stereotypes.
NO. Please beware his intent. Personal issues aside - look at this objectively.
We have a popular male with a known taste in females and no shortage of said females now hitting on a less popular female who does not fit his known preference. Kate, while you are no doubt a wonderful person, you should be asking him WHY. There are unscrupulous males who will use and then drop females just for the fun of manipulating her. The news travels all over the school etc. etc. etc.
So this is what you do: get your attitude on, hun - you are worthy of a popular male but he has to measure up to your standards. What do you expect from him? What do you want to do with him? Give the male his chance but quietly let it be known that you will determine his suitabliity and not the other way around.
Good luck!
I'm pretty sure the QB is just trying to STACK his statistics..He probably thinks you'll drop your panty's in a second,just for the chance of him dating you and showing interest in you...
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;182069]NO. Please beware his intent. Personal issues aside - look at this objectively.
We have a popular male with a known taste in females and no shortage of said females now hitting on a less popular female who does not fit his known preference. Kate, while you are no doubt a wonderful person, you should be asking him WHY. There are unscrupulous males who will use and then drop females just for the fun of manipulating her. The news travels all over the school etc. etc. etc.
So this is what you do: get your attitude on, hun - you are worthy of a popular male but he has to measure up to your standards. What do you expect from him? What do you want to do with him? Give the male his chance but quietly let it be known that you will determine his suitabliity and not the other way around.
Good luck![/QUOTE]
I was thinking this too EEK.
It's sounds like a typical "Teen Movie"
It's worth keeping in mind what he is up to. In high school, I dated a football player who used to date the cheerleaders. Also, wondered what his new found interest was with me (not a Barbie), answer was he was tired of the high maintenance chicks. Just be leery of his intentions so he's not playing you.
well he obviously sees something in you just make sure it not something your not after as well and if it is stick to your guns but if he is genuinely interested in you then enjoy yourself