[QUOTE=BillieJean;225043]During your "time of the month" how far are you willing to go with your b/f?[/QUOTE]
Usually I dont wanna do anything and neither does the boyfriend. On a good day near the end of it all maybe in the shower but thats about it. Im usually too crampy and bloated to even think about anything sexual, and it just doesnt float his boat.
I adore menstrual sex and regret that menopause is getting in the way. Whatever my partner is willing, I welcome. Very few partners I have had, either men or women, have been hesitant. Make certain you remove a tampon thirty minutes or so ahead of penetration or you will be very dry. With a woman partner, leave it in.
The last day or two were good but definitely not the first one or two...no sex, no way, & don't get near me. The last few days, it was no big deal since cramps were over. Now, no issue...menopausal. If he was comfortable with it so be it...just no oral though, I think I would have been too strange about trying that one, so was never discussed. Overall, I found the matter is usually more of an issue to the man.
We don't typically do a whole lot, although that's not exactly policy, it's just how it goes. We do have a special towel for times that I DO disrobe and receive, but very often I end up staying clothed and focusing on him, or he'll do a few things through my clothing to avoid much of a mess. I would never request oral of him at that time, but then, giving oral is such a personal preference, I often find myself shying away from requesting it at all.
[QUOTE=BillieJean;225043]During your "time of the month" how far are you willing to go with your b/f?[/QUOTE]
Okay, I started this so I guess I would weigh in.
With my first boy friend it was no way, no how. But with my current boy friend (#2) when I told him I was on he was very supportive and told me if I preferred not to do anything it was okay with him. I didn't have any problem with me giving him oral though. Finally on the next to the last day we were making out kissing and he was touching me through my clothes and I felt myself getting very excited. I whispered in his ear that I really wanted him but I would understand if he didn't want to. It wasn't two seconds and he was pulling off my jeans and panties and we were doing "it". Ever since that time we have stayed away from sex the first couple days of my period but after that we are both okay with it.
Thanks for letting me know your experiences and I keep checking back for more replies.
Before I was on birth control, the thought of sex while on my period seemed absolutely horrible because I was so heavy and crampy. However, since being on birth control, I have a lighter, shorter period and do not suffer the same discomfort so sex is fine. It all depends on how my partner feels about doing it while I'm on. My current partner doesn't seem to mind. I am comfortable and enjoy it as long as he does. But I do tend to get really dry on the last day or two of my period for whatever reason, so then it can sometimes be uncomfortable without the use of lube.
I don't ask him to perform oral though, but do allow him to finger me and everything else. We put a towel down to take care of any mess.
I'm too crampy and generally uncomfortable. I want an orgasm but I don't want any penetrative, partnered sex during my period. That's when my sexy husband and I get to pleasure ourselves solo, with an audience of course!
heck if he is willing so am I :D nuthin puts the brakes on my cramps like gettin steamy an hot with my man, how ever far he is willing to go is FINE by me *giggles*
I'm noteably grossed out by it (according to him it's hilarious to hear me through the bathroom door when changing my stuff "eeewww!! Body, why do you do such nasty stuff!?") and as such my panties stay on during that week. He calls it his "me week", as I take the opportunity to take complete care of him.
I wouldn't want him to do anything to me, i'd be so self concious!
But, I'd feel guilty, so I'd make up for it the next time & just pleasure him instead.
I don't like telling my bfs im on my period (so stupid I know!).
I have no problem with regular sex during my period but since I adore oral sex, I enjoy giving him a blowjob instead most months. As we only get to have sex once or twice a week usually, my period usually only affects one sexual encounter a month.
I would not do anything if it is that time of the month, I am willing to give my boyfriend a hand or blow job but I would not want sex or expect him to do anything with me at that time.
I've had sex in my period before, but only on the last day, and I never will on the other days. I don't accept any sexual activity when on my week. No fingering, no oral, no sex.(But I will give oral or a handjob if my partner wants it).
I love it! :-) My bf actually asked me if I wanted to, even before we were having penetrative sex. So it was simply very normal for me to do anything we normally did; we simply went a step further every time. Only thing he won't do, is give me oral (which I totally understand LOL ;-))
About tampons: if my flows heavy, we start with all the cuddling and teasing and when we're both ready to put it in, I make a quick stop at the toilet to take the tampon out. I'm usually so excited, that it's absolutely no problem with too little fluids :o You could also use Beppy Wet; you could have sex without removing it! To me and my partner it's not that good, because we both feel like it's not the same (but maybe that's all in the mind ;-))
And for the ladies who experience pain and heavy flow during their period, it's really great and a releave to have an orgasm! Sometimes when I'm cramped up, he will simply do it slowly. It helps me with overcoming cramps. And my period is shorter (used to be 5 days, now 3)! Since I've noticed all these positive side-effects, if he's too tired, I will simply please myself :o
Another plus: I feel like he's loving me completely the way I am. Of course I would have accepted it if he didn't want to, I would totally get it, but this simply makes me feel good :-) I've read somewhere that if you allow yourself and your partner to experience anal pleasure, this means you and your partner have accepted your body completely in the most intimate way. Although physically completely different, I think menstrual sex in a way signifies the same meaning :-)
PS: if my English is not correct, sorry, it's not my mother tongue.
I did actually. There's a bunch of us at the college that I go to that look at these forums and several of the topics that are posted here become discussions we do go into.
There several women that I know that are not horny around the time of the month and yet they'll still have sex.
Then there are women like me who are horny but refuse to have sex.
There is a degree to how far a woman would go around the time of the month, but the question I asked was related to this post which specifically looks how horny a woman gets around that time of the month...unless, it would be preferred that my question might suit well as a separate post??
Hmmmm, I get it: 'how far would you go?' or 'how horny are you?' are 2 seperate questions. And actually, you're answer triggers a new question: why not have sex while in your period, when you're horny? Because it might get messy?
For me: I won't have sex if not aroused, no matter if on my period or not. But: if he wants to and tries to arouse me, I may be interested in what he has to offer. If it feels good, maybe leads to having sex after all...
I find that I can be totally un-horny, but if he starts playing around and trying to turn me on, I'll go with it and see how it goes (which is normally amazing). I know that I may not want it at that second, but if I go along I'll be enjoying myself in no time.
[QUOTE=BillieJean;225043]During your "time of the month" how far are you willing to go with your b/f?[/QUOTE]
I'll do anything and everything, I actually mind more than he, the only thing I WON'T do is oral.
[QUOTE=BillieJean;225043]During your "time of the month" how far are you willing to go with your b/f?[/QUOTE]
Usually I dont wanna do anything and neither does the boyfriend. On a good day near the end of it all maybe in the shower but thats about it. Im usually too crampy and bloated to even think about anything sexual, and it just doesnt float his boat.
I adore menstrual sex and regret that menopause is getting in the way. Whatever my partner is willing, I welcome. Very few partners I have had, either men or women, have been hesitant. Make certain you remove a tampon thirty minutes or so ahead of penetration or you will be very dry. With a woman partner, leave it in.
The last day or two were good but definitely not the first one or two...no sex, no way, & don't get near me. The last few days, it was no big deal since cramps were over. Now, no issue...menopausal. If he was comfortable with it so be it...just no oral though, I think I would have been too strange about trying that one, so was never discussed. Overall, I found the matter is usually more of an issue to the man.
We don't typically do a whole lot, although that's not exactly policy, it's just how it goes. We do have a special towel for times that I DO disrobe and receive, but very often I end up staying clothed and focusing on him, or he'll do a few things through my clothing to avoid much of a mess. I would never request oral of him at that time, but then, giving oral is such a personal preference, I often find myself shying away from requesting it at all.
[QUOTE=BillieJean;225043]During your "time of the month" how far are you willing to go with your b/f?[/QUOTE]
Okay, I started this so I guess I would weigh in.
With my first boy friend it was no way, no how. But with my current boy friend (#2) when I told him I was on he was very supportive and told me if I preferred not to do anything it was okay with him. I didn't have any problem with me giving him oral though. Finally on the next to the last day we were making out kissing and he was touching me through my clothes and I felt myself getting very excited. I whispered in his ear that I really wanted him but I would understand if he didn't want to. It wasn't two seconds and he was pulling off my jeans and panties and we were doing "it". Ever since that time we have stayed away from sex the first couple days of my period but after that we are both okay with it.
Thanks for letting me know your experiences and I keep checking back for more replies.
BillieJean
Before I was on birth control, the thought of sex while on my period seemed absolutely horrible because I was so heavy and crampy. However, since being on birth control, I have a lighter, shorter period and do not suffer the same discomfort so sex is fine. It all depends on how my partner feels about doing it while I'm on. My current partner doesn't seem to mind. I am comfortable and enjoy it as long as he does. But I do tend to get really dry on the last day or two of my period for whatever reason, so then it can sometimes be uncomfortable without the use of lube.
I don't ask him to perform oral though, but do allow him to finger me and everything else. We put a towel down to take care of any mess.
I'm too crampy and generally uncomfortable. I want an orgasm but I don't want any penetrative, partnered sex during my period. That's when my sexy husband and I get to pleasure ourselves solo, with an audience of course!
heck if he is willing so am I :D nuthin puts the brakes on my cramps like gettin steamy an hot with my man, how ever far he is willing to go is FINE by me *giggles*
il go all the way on him, he can do nothing but kiss & cuddle me! and im happy with that.
I'm noteably grossed out by it (according to him it's hilarious to hear me through the bathroom door when changing my stuff "eeewww!! Body, why do you do such nasty stuff!?") and as such my panties stay on during that week. He calls it his "me week", as I take the opportunity to take complete care of him.
I wouldn't want him to do anything to me, i'd be so self concious!
But, I'd feel guilty, so I'd make up for it the next time & just pleasure him instead.
I don't like telling my bfs im on my period (so stupid I know!).
I have no problem with regular sex during my period but since I adore oral sex, I enjoy giving him a blowjob instead most months. As we only get to have sex once or twice a week usually, my period usually only affects one sexual encounter a month.
Giving oral !!! Guys are lucky . They can enjoy 31 days if they wish. Sorry boys just joking.
I enjoy myself all month round too, not just him. Just the way I do it varies.
I would not do anything if it is that time of the month, I am willing to give my boyfriend a hand or blow job but I would not want sex or expect him to do anything with me at that time.
I've had sex in my period before, but only on the last day, and I never will on the other days. I don't accept any sexual activity when on my week. No fingering, no oral, no sex.(But I will give oral or a handjob if my partner wants it).
I love it! :-) My bf actually asked me if I wanted to, even before we were having penetrative sex. So it was simply very normal for me to do anything we normally did; we simply went a step further every time. Only thing he won't do, is give me oral (which I totally understand LOL ;-))
About tampons: if my flows heavy, we start with all the cuddling and teasing and when we're both ready to put it in, I make a quick stop at the toilet to take the tampon out. I'm usually so excited, that it's absolutely no problem with too little fluids :o You could also use Beppy Wet; you could have sex without removing it! To me and my partner it's not that good, because we both feel like it's not the same (but maybe that's all in the mind ;-))
And for the ladies who experience pain and heavy flow during their period, it's really great and a releave to have an orgasm! Sometimes when I'm cramped up, he will simply do it slowly. It helps me with overcoming cramps. And my period is shorter (used to be 5 days, now 3)! Since I've noticed all these positive side-effects, if he's too tired, I will simply please myself :o
Another plus: I feel like he's loving me completely the way I am. Of course I would have accepted it if he didn't want to, I would totally get it, but this simply makes me feel good :-) I've read somewhere that if you allow yourself and your partner to experience anal pleasure, this means you and your partner have accepted your body completely in the most intimate way. Although physically completely different, I think menstrual sex in a way signifies the same meaning :-)
PS: if my English is not correct, sorry, it's not my mother tongue.
My hubby could careless But I am adamant on waiting til the end of my period
...I'm thinking I might be a "no" on menstrual sex. Although, it would give me a chance to take care of his needs.
Weird thing is though, I'm horny before and during my period...is anyone else like this????
I"m always horny the day before my period right up until the flow starts.
Sensual goddess,
It is apparent from your question that you have not read this thread. That helps to enter the flow of discussion.
I did actually. There's a bunch of us at the college that I go to that look at these forums and several of the topics that are posted here become discussions we do go into.
There several women that I know that are not horny around the time of the month and yet they'll still have sex.
Then there are women like me who are horny but refuse to have sex.
There is a degree to how far a woman would go around the time of the month, but the question I asked was related to this post which specifically looks how horny a woman gets around that time of the month...unless, it would be preferred that my question might suit well as a separate post??
Hmmmm, I get it: 'how far would you go?' or 'how horny are you?' are 2 seperate questions. And actually, you're answer triggers a new question: why not have sex while in your period, when you're horny? Because it might get messy?
For me: I won't have sex if not aroused, no matter if on my period or not. But: if he wants to and tries to arouse me, I may be interested in what he has to offer. If it feels good, maybe leads to having sex after all...
I find that I can be totally un-horny, but if he starts playing around and trying to turn me on, I'll go with it and see how it goes (which is normally amazing). I know that I may not want it at that second, but if I go along I'll be enjoying myself in no time.
I actually like anal sex more when I'm on my period. I'll do everything to him, but I will not let him perform oral on me while I am on my period.