when i am having sex with my girlfriend and am on top, i always start to tighten up around my thighs and knees while we are having sex, now i know this is normal, but when i am on top (or any position where i have to move)i stop thrusting when i start to tighten up simply because my legs become too tight, if i relax i lose the feeling of the build up before cumming. besides going on bottom (which does work), what are some good tips to be loose enough to keep the rythem but still gett that ejaculation we all have come to love and admire ;)
Fri, 03/14/2008 - 04:39
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tightening up during sex
You are forgetting to breathe! Nice deep breaths should fix this since your muscles are tightening up due to a build up of lactic acid and a lack of oxygen. Also be aware that you can just kneel between her legs and sit more upright - for a bit of a change.
Haha EEK is right. If your not breathing its tough. But also, it is a bit weird when you try to breathe through an orgams. I always hold my breathe, and when I tried to breathe through, my orgams basically used every muscle in my body rather than hips and such.
Also, try spreading your legs a bit. Like what EEK suggests. I kneel between my girls legs, but keep my legs spread so that her thighs rest on mine. It is HOT! and you dont ever get teh tight feeling (although it can cause hip pain lol)
haha ok thanks, what about when we are doing it standing, say she is laying on the bed and i am standing, we both love this position but i can never orgasm, and i have the same problem as you ducy, its hard 4 me to breathe through orgasms
An orgasm is a release of myotonia - a general tensing of the muscles. There is a balance between attaining the tension that can be released and tension that prevents release. I have had male partners who come quick on top because holding themselves up tenses them. I have had others who come quick on the bottom because they are relaxed.
You need some relaxation. First, as advisedm breathe, and secons, try positions that do not require you to support your own weight.
So it requires practice! Really, one would think you guys didn't like practicing! Sheeesh!
o we have been practicinnn longgg timeee hehe =] but thank u
Breathing through orgasm, silly! That's what you need to practice.
ya but i climax while i hold in my breathe, and when i breathe i dont get the feeling, it starts going away, thats the problem...and dont worry ill be working very hard on breaking this habit ;]