Hey all, ive been having some problems with getting off.
i can do it, and do it succesfully, but it isnt always easy, and hasnt been very satisfying for a while now... that mental state hasnt been around for a while, and i really want that true sense of arousal back. can anyone give me some advice?
Fri, 10/28/2011 - 01:26
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the thrill is gone (jacking off)
thanks, brandye, your advice is actually helping some. Its not what it used to be, but its a darn sight better, so thank you very much
> ive been having some problems with getting off. i can do it, and do it succesfully, but it isnt always easy, and hasnt been very satisfying for a while now.
Please clarify, are you talking about masturbating, having sex with a partner, making love with a partner? I know your title mentioned "jacking off" but what about the other scenarios?
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being a virgin, im pretty much stuck at jacking off...
and its not the physical side im having trouble with, its the state of mind, im never emotionally or mentally horny
You may be inadvertently turning it into a chore. Something you "have" to do, and your forcing one out because you think you should be enjoying it.
I'd say back off and only do them when your mind is in it, instead of forcing your mind into it.
Without a focus and connection, ejaculation is simply another bodily function that is necessary to men. Perhaps finding a woman friend will help whether or not you are actually having sex with her.
that much i was able to figure out, brandye, but fat chance of that happening any time soon. isnt there just some mental excersize i can start doing?
and thanks, firmus, ill try to do that
At least talk to some real, live women whose image you can fantasize whilst doing yourself. Women are quite aware that we do become the object of men's fantasies whether or not we actually the know the bloke.
how would i do that, brandye? is there some site i can go to?