I wasn't sure where to put this, but since I'm fairly new to sex I just decided to put it here.
Anyways, if you know me from my other threads you should know that I'm bi and I have a bf of two years! Okay, here is my problem.
When my boyfriend and I were in the first year of our relationship we talked about having a threesome. I was totally into it at the time, but he wasn't cause I recently cheated on him and even the thought of me being with another guy made him crazy. So, like a good girlfriend I dropped it all together to show my devotion.
Just a few months ago my boyfriend and his best friend started doing experimental things with each other. His friend is our age and a male, we also think he might be a chronic masterbater. Anyways, my boyfriend started getting into the threesome idea. He loved the idea of having another woman with us just to experiment. He does not want her pussy or even her ass! He just wants two women to suck his cock and do bisexual things etc. He made it clear though that I must be one of the girls, which made me feel honored that he wants me in a fantasy of his. He told me that if we do it with a girl then we can do it with a guy but that guy has to be his best friend.
I admit that I used to like his friend (before me and my boyfriend got together) and he is very handsome. Of course I don't want him to have my pussy or ass. But I'm willing to use my hand and mouth. However, his friend has an uncircumcised cock. I wouldn't have a problem with this except the fact that he doesn't wash it properly which leads it to smell and what not.
I also have a problem with the fact of seeing my boyfriend with someone else...considering he beat in my head that cheating or whatever is wrong and such! I also fear that I might start to like his friend again, cause you know there are people you are gonna love and people your gonna like! Another thing would be how would we be able to kindly tell his friend about his penis problem? We don't want to hurt his feelings because he is very sensitive. I already know alot of problems that can happen with an uncircumcised penis not being taken care of properly, we don't want him to suffer that.
So, if anyone has any advice or suggestions it would be greatly appreciated! Thank you :)
[QUOTE=Marebear1991;262129]considering he beat in my head that cheating or whatever is wrong and such[/QUOTE]
Is this Below the same boyfriend??
[QUOTE=Marebear1991;262129]To be honest, I'm quite afraid of him. He has hit me in the past but not because of sexual activity. I feel I deserve it though for cheating on him twice(the guy I cheated with I only gave him two blowjobs, really bad mistakes)but he wasn't the best boyfriend at the time either...
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[QUOTE=Marebear1991;262129]considering he beat in my head that cheating or whatever is wrong and such[/QUOTE]
In all honesty from reading your posts... You are both too immature for a 3some to be
sucessful...
He didn't literally beat me in my head, it's an expression. Also, please tell how I am immature. I want to work on being a better person in life.
I would suggest a lot of talking to eachother about this. Talk to your boyfriend about his friends not being clean. Ask him to talk to him. Set your boundries before hand. If jealousy is a problem then I don;t suggest a threesome cause it can and will cause problems. As for you liking his friend that is a big deal. If you fear that you will fall for him again don't do it.
Forget the threesome. I don't think either of you is mature enough for a relationship - any relationship - at all.
1. You let him have it all his way "to show devotion like a good girlfriend". What you should have said at that point was "goodbye". But instead you subordinated yourself and your desires to him and his. Sacrifice of self does NOT lead to being a "better person". Face it, girl - you rolled over and played dead.
Now that he's "cheated" on you - why haven't you beaten him over the head? "You told me...." and so on. But I doubt this will happen because in your mind, being a "good girlfriend" means anything he does is perfect and okay - he's the boss of this relationship.
2. Even if you don't like the guy, find his cleanliness suspect, fear you may once again 'stray' - you're willing to go along with this threesome idea - although you wouldn't let him have your vagina or ass. (of course??) Right, like that's going to last. Your boyfriend will say "heel" and you'll do as you're told because in your mind, that's what "good girlfriends" do.
What right do you have to be jealous? You're not married. What he does on his own time is his business. You don't own him.
jealousy and possessiveness are the hallmarks of a weak ego and a small mind - a loser. Yet you let him get away with beating you up for "cheating". (Yes, I know its an expression.) Can't you see how insane your relationship sounds?
"I don't want to hurt his feelings." Trust me - hurt his feelings. Better he learn it from you than from some one like me who would command him to either clean it or cut it because he's not getting any closer to me until he does.
Forget the threesome and kick this fool you call your boyfriend to the curb.