I recently read this article on ThePeeq.com and it touched upon the dynamics of an inter-gender threesome. The difference between a threesome with two men and a woman or two women and a man seems to be bigger than I thought, as the article humorously pointed out. As a heterosexual man I know how I feel about each, but Id like to get a grasp of how women and other men feel about them as well as what you think about how the opposite sex feels. For example, Ive always thought that women tend to be a little more bi-curious than men. However, I find that they arent as interested in threesomes involving another woman rather then two men. But, this hypothesis could be a function of the fact that im attracted to a particular type of woman....for more thoughts reference the article:
http://www.thepeeq.com/Features/Fiction/?IDArticle=85&Title=Three-Way-Out
Wed, 09/26/2007 - 16:26
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Threesomes. Good/Bad?
One man to satisfy two women? Tough to do. Do a search on this site re: threesomes, it will provide some valuable insight to your questions.
Have you come acrossany info on 2 men to please one woman? This sounds more likely to being successful, but men being territorial rules it out I think.
[quote=questing4answers;194357]Have you come acrossany info on 2 men to please one woman? This sounds more likely to being successful, but men being territorial rules it out I think.[/quote]Not if neither of the guys are exclusive or involved w/her...maybe they are friends...it does work!!!
I am chuckling! So cute! Here's the scoop.
2 women with 1 man = non-bi, active male play demands that he kiss and manually satisfy one, on his right lets say, while simultaneously penetrating and caressing (he has two hands remember) the other lady, on his left. He then switches (with a condom chage) and reverses his right with his left.
2 women with 1 man = non-bi, passive male play is when he lies there and has one woman ride his face while the other lady rides his penis and they switch back and forth (more condom changes) with interludes of oral sex on him.
Both situations can severely tax a man's skill and stamina and all experienced men know this. Men who have NOT done such play dream wistfully about having any number of women in bed simultaneously. But to an experienced man - that is his definition of Hell. A man has to know his limitations.
1 woman with 2 men = non-bi, active woman play means that she tells him where she wants him and the men comply. The mission is to totally satisfy her. The men are teammates. They can do this simulaneously or one can work while the other rests or caresses her. Example: she's on top 69 with the one man while the other comes in from behind. Incidental touching has to be acceptable between the males.
1 woman with 2 men = non-bi, passive woman play is where the men take control and do with her what and how they will.
In any group play, it is the woman or women who decide EVERYTHING. Once that decision has been made, anyone can call a halt to the proceedings. This is supposed to be fun after all!
Got all of that?
I think threesomes can be a great experience, depending on what all parties expect, and how comfortable they are with the idea, and each other.
Even two people in a relationship can handle it IMO if they are clear about their feelings, and have enough love, and trust.
Great to see some open dialog, and always nice to see EvilEvilKittens responses!
Thank you, Chili. I love MFMs and thought hearing from someone who actually does 3-somes might be helpful. I only do non-bi 3-somes however.
BTW I could use a few more "rep points"!
[quote=EvilEvilKitten;194491]Thank you, Chili. I love MFMs and thought hearing from someone who actually does 3-somes might be helpful. I only do non-bi 3-somes however.
BTW I could use a few more "rep points"![/quote]Heck, can we not all? I affect no ones! LOL!
The threesomes that I had were all while I was in a long-term relationship with the same girl. Each of the four times (MFF) were spontaneous (at least to me anyways), that is, things just progressed in that dorm room/ hotel room/ apartment from one thing to the next. We never discussed what the ground rules were.
It's been four years since the last time and I wonder if it will ever happen again. Though it was fun to be there, my biggest regret was that I didn't partake in touching the other girl. I always wanted to be 'the good boyfriend' and not risk making my girlfriend jealous. Obviously I could have have asked or at least talked about it after the encounter see what was okay.
Me and my girlfriend were discussing/ reminiscing one time and she said that as a rule me and the other girl weren't allowed to touch eachother. Having mulled that over for a while I told her that it was pretty selfish of her to be the only one to be having all the fun. And that lone remark I made is what seemed to put an end to those fun nights happening again.
Her selfishness was also the reason why those enounters never lasted too long, she wasn't really doing her part in pleasuring the girl... just kind of laying back for the ride.
[Man I sound bitter, dont I?]
All in all, they were good times that I always look back on fondly. Just be sure that those communication lines are open.
The number one complaint of most bi-femmes is the jealousy & selfishness of the wife.This is the reason why most will not do couples at all. The Bi-femmes are also tired of always "giving" and not "receiving".
Threesomes can be very satisfying if the couple has no question about the stability of their relationship. This goes for all threesome arrangements, FFM, FMF, MMF, or MFM (bisexuality is the difference in the abbreviations).
Also, both partners should express "desire" for the experience. If one partner is doing it "only" to satisfy the other partner, the potential for drama is increased.
Oh, there certainly are a few males that desire to have another male assist in pleasuring his female partner in a MFM threesome. Some males, including myself are willing to only watch, whether the 3rd party is either male or female. I do not have to join in.
Oh, I am experienced with threesomes, and for the most part I've been the third wheel. I've only been in a couple of foursomes with a partner of my own, and the other male and I did not have intercourse with each other's partners. We only took turns performing oral on them and using toys. We also watched the girls do each other. The girls were friends before either or us guys came into the picture.
I would love to marry a woman that would appreciate being able to have "friends with benefits" for herself. I'm actually having trouble finding such a woman that is interested in this, and also shares other interest and values that I have.
Hello all. New couple here. We have a threesome with a female for about 8 months now. We do everything sexual together. About 1 weekend a month we get together and go naked all weekend. We sleep together. So for us threesomes are good.
Very good, lucky, now try it with a another male for an MFM!
Man, if ever there was a better potential for a threesome, it was last week.
Me and my wife had been in a dry spell since moving out of state from our hometown and her close friends. In the two years since she hadn't grown close or comfortable enough with any other girls to have another threesome. But has complained to me about missing the female body.
From Wednesday to the the following week's Thursday her friend from school was staying at our place. I hoped that something would spark, but unfortunatly, though fun-loving, my wife's girl friend is kind of soft spoken (she had suffered some form of emotional trauma growing up, which explains some of her goth tendencies).
Maybe if this had taken place during summer, things could have been different. Given that it's the school year, my wife had to dedicate her night hours to her homework.
So go out "hunting" together...it may be a good relief for her stress! I cannot do it if in a relationship but while single it has become a new form of fun...MMF. Yes, even coming from the ultra-conservative "me". I forgot on of my b-days so many years back...like around my 17-18th, had 2 male friends; we were well "impaired" [to be polite here coke and ETOH on board] which lead on one FWB getting me in the on the sink at a local bar...another male friend appeared, we had something happening there. The dynamics were great, all remained friends after the initial "neither of us are gay" attitude and encounter. I nearly forgot about it since it was so many years ago. Decided to give it a try with two males which are now my FWB's, both were intrigued about trying after them saying "no guy on guy stuff"--cool with me. So worth while. If I do not do this stuff now, hate to drop dead with regrets!