You hear loads of stories about people who have had really bad experiences with threesomes. i'm all for it, but my partner is a bit concerned. i don't mind another woman or man, as long as its all good fun, but has anyone really done it? no lies, or fantasies, real people who have really had the fun. How did it turn out and would you do it again?
Thu, 11/04/2004 - 21:11
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Threesomes? Good or Bad?
My boyfriend and I have been involved in one orgie. There were a couple of guys there and then three of us girls. Things went well and we're still really close with the people involved. From that experience, I learned that first and foremost, set your own personal boundaries. Do what is comfortable for you and don't let people make you feel pressured because they are doing more than you. Also, as the first response said, it is just sex. Keep that in mind. Forming emotional bonds can be dangerous to everyone involved. Third, talk with your partner about issues surrounding it before it happens. For example, I had no problem with my partner having sex with the other girls, but I did want to be the one asleep in his arms at the end of the night. I made that clear and everything went smoothly. We're looking forward to another one ;) much love, robin
Yes, we had a blast and it lasted over 2 years until the other couple got transferred to the states. We got together often, and he and I had duty on different nights, so the 3 that were home would play. It wasn't until years later that I found out when he and I were deployed for a few days, the ladies got together without us. The only time anyone else was involved was when we met a young German guy at the beach and invited him over for dinner. He got to try the 2 ladies as my friend and watched AND joined in.
I had a threesome once, it was new years eve, and my B/F seemed more into the other guy than I was. :P I dont think it quite worked out because after it was really weird around the other guy.
Rawbob's tips are right on target.
speaking as the girl in my 2 guy 1 gal 3 way,
everyone gets attention, and there is no pressure for anyone to do anything or anyone they don't want to.
it's hard to find the right guys but if you do, it's the best thing ever. The way I negotiated it,
I am the center of attention but everyone is satisfied and happy. they don't have penetration sex with each other, just oral.
I think it's really important to make sure everyone is clear as to the dynamics of the situation.
And definately keep your emotions in check.
another thing I notice is that everything runs smoother if you have no expectations.
surely though, if it is two women and a man, most of the attention would be on the man.
what about two men and a woman? who should have the attention?
most men would not even concider having a threesome ( a proper one!) with another man, too scared or shy, therefore, the woman would get most of the attention, and both men would have to work equally hard.
not that i have any objections with that, but as you stated, it should be an equal and fair thing for all concerned.
thanks loads for your advice, i shall bear it all in mind.
RawBob made all very good points and should be remembered.
I have been in a threesome relationship for about 6 months now. Her man is with us too but he don't play with anyone but her so I don't count him really.
We were very picky about the couple we wanted and met them first to make sure we all hit it off. They have become great friends and when we get together it is always a great time.
Hi:
i'm 43, and since i beame sexually active at teh age of 17, i have had probably 30 or more 3ways.
Some have been incredible, others have been less than memorable..but all had a few things in common:
1) Remember, its just sex, and don't let emotions get involved
2) You have to be prepared to see your partner having sex with another person and he/she has to as well..
3) You both have to WANT it EQUALLY. If you force your other half to do a 3way he/she wont' really enjoy it and it will cause problems down the road
4) Safe sex of course
5) Don't do last minute 3ways....get to know the other person/s. You don't want to be surprised to find out that he has no teeth, or is a drug addcit AFTER you are in bed.
6) You MUST play with everyone equally! I don'tcare if it's a MFM, MMM, FMF.....everyone's got to get attention or it won't work
7) If you are the couple, you both need to agree on the kind of third u will both be comfortable!
hope this helps!
Me and my boyfriend i guess you could call him are thinking about doing a threesome and it is his fantasy but I have never done this before He is wanting 2 girls and him but I have never been into girls and I have no clue what to do in a threesome so can someone help me by trying to tell me what I will be doing.
Wayy old, but whatever happened to Tessie and Rawbob? Also Grendale (sp?)
I and my wife have had several threesomes. We all had a great time. Your relationship must be strong. I feel it is important that both people in the relationship really want a threesome. If all parties are in aggreement it can be a wonderful experience.
First and foremost if you do not want to do this don't. This a very common fantasy for men.Talk openly with him and ask what he expects. At some point you may find yourself just watching him and her. If this doesnt appeal to you have her ride him while you sit on his face. Watch a few threesome pornos for different ideas.
I fantasize about it all the time. Especially about watching her give another dude head while I watch. I don't know about letting a guy penetrate her, sometimes I think I'd like it and others not. She doesn't fantasize about swinging or threesomes but would only do it for me.
I'd like to watch her be totally dominated by a hot bi girl complete with ass licking and face sitting.
Threesomes are WONDERFUL and btw I only do non-bi 3-somes thank you very much. MFM or FMF with the singleton getting most but not all of the attention.
Finding men is easy. Finding women is more difficult but not impossible.
The couple should always hunt together. When they find a suitable addition, the couple begins the action and then the additional person joins in. Very relaxed and very calm atmosphere - we're all friends here having a good time.
i had a horrible 3some expericence when i was 15 we were in my bed touching eachother & i never did any other position besides missionary, & they said we'll just let you dip & they took there clothes off & bent over so i got what dipp ment doggy stlye back & forth & not even 8 minutes later i came for the love of god i could not controlmyself i was so embaressed
Maxrep, would u do a 3some with a BI male?
Threesome is a fun. Real fun. My hubby likes to enter my mouth and enjoy. Its okay. But once he finishes, he takes lot of time to go down and satisfy me quickly. Thus , slowly, we went into idea of MFM threesome and my hubby's friend was ready for it. We insisted that his friends wife should also join us. They convinced his wife for same. Now we are comfortable. I enjoy both of them together. Its a different feeling with four hands playing on you.
But in MFM , i have not tried anal. We do it in facefuck, plumber, throatswab, doggy style and few more positions when taking two at a time. After one shots, we relax and play three together slowly for second round when they change positions. Both appreciate me in end , saying I am the best. But i know they must be saying it to her (friends wife ) the same.
MFM threesome is a fun for a girls who wants more. One shuld atleast try it once.
[QUOTE=WaBiSoldier25;247515]Maxrep, would u do a 3some with a BI male?[/QUOTE]
I don't kno broseph....I'd have to think about that one. You mean you just want to blow me?
And the guys will start what I call "penis-waving" as in "mine is bigger than yours so bow down before me, bitch".
How juvenile.
Just because he's bi does NOT mean he'll find you at all attractive.
[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;247636]And the guys will start what I call "penis-waving" as in "mine is bigger than yours so bow down before me, bitch".
How juvenile.
Just because he's bi does NOT mean he'll find you at all attractive.[/QUOTE]
Bigger than me is fine. Actually I'd like to see her knelt before a huge cock with it stuffed in her mouth LOL! :cool:
Me and my FB want to have a threesome, its his fantasy and i'm quite interested too... we're looking for another girl to join us, however where and how do you meet someone that might be interested in doing something like this???
3somegirl - you consult your local Lifestyle/Swing group.