OK, I have a question that I seriously want some input on.
I'm very much into fantasies and I absolutely love to be the one that gets to be involved in helping someone with their fantasy.
Well, I dated a guy for a while 3-4 years ago who really wanted a threesome. I agreed and invited one of my friends over who I knew wanted to mess around with me. We had a threesome that night and did every crazy thing my boyfriend at the time wanted. Well, shortly after that he started getting really bad, as in he became a extreme.
He offered my "services" to his friends, he wanted more threesomes, he wanted me to have sex with a friend of his while he watched, he became abusive, he started calling me a wh*re infront of people. It just got bad and I broke things off. I"m not blaming the threesome for it but that's when it unleashed this freak of nature. (NOTE: I didn't do those things he asked. I felt really used and like a piece of meat that he was even asking those things of me)
Well, this new guy that I'm with really wants a threesome. He knows I've done one in the past and doesn't understand why I'm afraid to do it again and states "I'm not your past boyfriends". I want to fufill this for him so bad but I don't want him to turn into a jerkoff. Has anyone here had threesomes that ended happily? Do you think you can actually have a threesome with your boyfriend/girlfriend and then keep things normal and the way they are? I really don't mind threesomes and while I'm not bisexual... I really think women are hot and don't mind doing a threesome. I just don't want a nightmare to occur again.
Please tell me someone has had an opposite experience than I have had when you did a threesome with a loved one? (and I want to place emphesis on the word LOVED one... not just experiences of a freakish night after closing down a bar)
There are several threads around on threesomes. Those who intend to have one are all happy and "won't this be neat." All in the past tense, such as your experience, are pretty grim.
I have never know anyone for whom a threesome was, long term, a good thing.
Threesomes usually all end badly. You're better off without having more.
Enough said?
While you're searching threads, there's been one or two that have touched on the relationship dangers of wanting to please a partner so much that nothing else matters. Major sign of a relationship that's way out of balance.
And a relationship that's way out of balance is yet another reason NOT to consider a threesome.
Well, the first relationship was great and we were fine. I just wanted to give that to him and it ended disasterously.
This newer guy... we have GREAT communication and we can talk about everything. It feels very balanced and solid and I don't want that ruined. I was just considering giving him his fantasy .. my past experiences halted my decision.
Definitely enough said. :) That's just 3 more people saying it's not a good idea. He's just gonna have to keep that fantasy for the spank bank it appears. =P
I have had a mfm threesome and my relationship is stronger now than ever. You should give it another shot.
I have often been part of a threesome and love it!
I think threesomes are only good if you are the THIRD person.
OKAY now then - you can only feel like a piece of meat if you permit it. You will have to take charge of all such events. Do an MFM this time - let him see how the other side works for a change. In an MFM they are to adore and please you. Stop worrying so much about you pleasing him. I have had lots of experince with this and other foms of group play. If you control the action - you'll find you can have more fun with this than you can now imagine.
Only you two can say if a 3-some will or won't hurt your marriage. To test, you two may want to go out clubbing together or you may want to go and check out the local swing scene.
My husband and I have been married for a long time and we have been contiplating a theesome for a while. What are the chances of hurting our marriage?
That is what I thought ,But I just wanted someone else opinion about the whole situation.
Thank you
In the humble opinion of someone who has NOT performed a threesome and, as such, leave the pleasure of it debate for those who did, I just which to state that, considering opinions are almost 50/50 on this one, I believe it would not be wise to risk a marriage over such a thing. My 2 cents...
Thank you guys for all your information. I am not sure about doing myself. I have the same fears that ya'll have been saying. Thanks again for confirming it.:)
It depends Froggy. As long as you both know that it is just for fun and can keep that state of mind the whole time there shouldnt be anything wrong. You have to put yourself in the right frame of mind and make sure your relationship is very solid. Did you want a mfm or a fmf?
I know ,I just dont know if I can handle seeing him with another person,even if we are both secure in our marriage.LOL I am positive that there will be nothing outside of this but still....
[quote]I know ,I just dont know if I can handle seeing him with another person,even if we are both secure in our marriage.LOL I am positive that there will be nothing outside of this but still... [/quote]
... you never know, right? :D