Okay... I know there have been a lot of threads on this, but none quite answered my questions... so here we go.
I've been dating a new guy for a little while now. He'll occasionally make jokes about threesomes or watching me kiss my hot friends - but it's never rude. If anything, it seriously turns me on to think about the two of us with another girl.
There's a catch though - I don't particularly like the idea of me being with another girl one on one, and I definitely don't like the idea of watching him actually have sex with someone else (heh). Buttt... the idea of doing some pseudo lesbian scene while he watches and takes a (small) part seems incredibly hot.
Would that take away the whole allure though? I mean, is the whole point of a threesome (for guys) to actually have sex with two girls at once... or is it more about the idea of getting randy with two girls there? What's the actual attraction?
I have this whole fantasy planned out in my head of sneaking in on him one night while he's sleeping, him being all surprised/happy that he's about to get laid... and then realizing that there's another girl in the room too. We (me and the other girl) screw around for a while, and then that's pretty much it. Watching him kiss her or screw her would be over the top.
Is this even worth trying to execute, or is it stupid? I'm more focused on the girl on girl stuff with him there... but then I just sort of want the other girl to leave. :o :( I don't want to end up as an accessory to my master plan. lol
I've never been involved in anything like this before - so I have no idea how to execute it or if this is a good in theory, bad in practice kinda deal. I'm 100% sure he'd be into it... but...
Thoughts?
I read your post and I believe I have a response that may help, it may not.
I don't think you should go through with the threesome Why? because it seems you are being awfully greedy about the whole thing, just reading about the surprise scenario you had planned out the guy would be left with a case of blueballs because you would make him think he is getting two women while in reality he is getting none.
You want him to experience a threesome but you don't want him to kiss or have sex with another girl. While this is understandable in a relationship, the whole thing would just be a big tease, and it has the potential to backfire on you completely. For something like this, I think its best to abandon the whole surprise scenario and instead talk to your BF.Tell him your interested, but you have reservations and what those reservations are, that way your not teasing him and no friction in the relationship can occur.
I also suggest you bring this up as soon as possible, so that he will feel less guilty about joking with you. and frankly, he may not see the signs of discomfort on your part, so its best you be the one to bring it up.
Well Trick, now that you've described the ideal male fantasy.. What we can do is, you can practice it with me first.. Na just joking.. Man that sounds great. If you know a women that would not also mind doing a you and your bf. It sounds like a fun time and a fantasy come true!! Sex is a beautiful thing to enjoy!
[QUOTE=roomier;255743]Well Trick, now that you've described the ideal male fantasy.. What we can do is, you can practice it with me first.. Na just joking.. Man that sounds great. If you know a women that would not also mind doing a you and your bf. It sounds like a fun time and a fantasy come true!! Sex is a beautiful thing to enjoy![/QUOTE]
Did you even read her post?! She just said she doesn't want her BF to kiss or have sex with another girl, and she is uncomfortable about doing another girl herself. Read before you post please, otherwise its just a waste of space and bandwidth.
Just because he wants it does not mean you have to do it..
Talk to him and Tell him you are not interested..
You do not like the idea of being with another girl and do not want to see him touch her, either. How about staying with twosomes.
Sorry guys... I'm realising my post was unclear.
I don't particularly like the idea of being with another girl by myself (one on one) at this point. It would feel like cheating... it would be weird. I just couldn't do it if he wasn't there too.
I had some girl on girl encounters in college - I was into it for a period of time, questioned my sexuality briefly... but in the grand scheme of things I like the men folk. lol
So... the issue isn't me and her - it's him and her. :( Butttt... the way he talks about it, just being witness to that sort of thing would be pretty cool for him. And he wouldn't get no girls in the end... he would get... me! lol I'm not trying to leave him with blueballs. The whole reason I think this whole thing would be really hot is because he would get off on it - not because I want to be withholding in some way. If he's not gonna like it, there's not point.
Sooo... maybe it's not such a good idea, it seems like it could be really cool though! For the record, he's never actually asked me to orchestrate this or made any more than the occasional drunk-esque comment about how hot it would be. There's no pressure or leading on happening - I just thought it would be a pretty damn cool "surprise". ;)
Meh.
if you want to go through with a threesome, go ahead. I advise you just talk with him first cause it seems like your not 100 percent sure on what he wants. Plus by getting the conversation out of the way, there won't be any surprises that could happen during the threesome sex that could ruin it for you and cause a misunderstanding. I just think you should talk first, and set up guidelines.
Sounds like a non starter to me, like dangling the bait and not letting him bite. All about pleasing two women and being pleased by two women for most men I think
As a man, I wouldn't like this much. Yeah, it sounds cool in theory, but you girls get to have all the fun while I just get to watch? Not my ideal threesome fantasy. I think you should talk to your man about it, and see what he has to say. If it were me, I would push for a compromise. I would want to be able to kiss, touch, give oral to the other girl, but only have penetration with my girlfriend. That seems fair since that is what you and the other girl would probably be doing anyway, right?
If you can't handle that compromise, then I don't suggest you engage in a threesome until you are more secure with your relationship and/or self. And FYI, I completely understand how you can feel that way. I wouldn't be able to handle seeing my girlfriend get fucked by another man under any circumstances.
Try sharing this with him as a fantasy. Its more erotic and there is no committment. I did and it works for both of us.
Sorry, I'm late. Traffic.
He's a boyfriend not a husband, so 'cheating' doesn't enter into the question.
However, the "look but don't touch" scenario SUCKS.
How would you like it if you and your boyfriend got in another man for an MFM, they did some guy-on-guy action and then the extra men left and your boyfriend then rolled over and went to sleep? Leaving you high and dry?
Fun, right? NOT.
So why do you suppose he'd want that? He would not.
Until you can handle him actually being sexually involved with both women at once (it can be done btw) FORGET the threesome.
And, yes, I would know, thank you.
[QUOTE=Sekcboi85;255791]As a man, I wouldn't like this much. Yeah, it sounds cool in theory, but you girls get to have all the fun while I just get to watch? Not my ideal threesome fantasy. I think you should talk to your man about it, and see what he has to say. If it were me, I would push for a compromise. I would want to be able to kiss, touch, give oral to the other girl, but only have penetration with my girlfriend. That seems fair since that is what you and the other girl would probably be doing anyway, right?
If you can't handle that compromise, then I don't suggest you engage in a threesome until you are more secure with your relationship and/or self. And FYI, I completely understand how you can feel that way. I wouldn't be able to handle seeing my girlfriend get fucked by another man under any circumstances.[/QUOTE]
I agree 100% with this statement, and with what EvilKitten said. I suggest you follow what they say on this subject otherwise your plan can and will most likely backfire.
Something else to consider is the other woman. Are you going to get her all excited only to tell her it's time for her to go so you and your BF can go at it? Doesn't seem fair. I don't think you're ready for this quite yet.
A threesome has to be fun for everyone.
When you move from fantasy into reality - you're dealing with real live people, relationships can get ruined. and feelings can get hurt.
This is why, for most people, most fantasies should remain just fantasies.