I have fallen in love with my boyfriend and its going long term. This year i went to college met him, spent the year with him and a predominantly male group of stoners, and mad some good friends as well as baby. I learned this year that most men would give ther right arm to have a threesome. The thought that my boyfriend would want this is painful, its him having sex with another girl, i couldnt share it with him. I now that men go mad to see two girls being intimate, and the thought has started to turn me on. Ive never had an interest in girls before but now i admit that i would love to experience. I fantasise about being with another girl and having man watching etc. How would you men feel if I was your girlfriend, and i wanted to have sex with a girl in front of you, to satisfy a fantasy, and not let you have sex with two girls? Am i being selfish? Help
Mon, 08/07/2006 - 14:43
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Threesome Dilema
There is such a thing is a great threesome experience... but if you aren't ready for it, it can be difficult.
People in this world get so attached to everything... they think that their partner belongs to them.... its little more then a figment of your imagination... you don't even own your own body, just borrow it from the earth.
The only key here is that if you want to have a threesome, make sure you want to have one for yourself. A lot of people convince themselves that they want something because they attach themselves to the outcome...
Having sex for fun is little more then playing... so more can be marrier... that being said, if you are living in the "me me me" world... it could be a very hard experience to go through.
Omigod. There are dozens of threads on threesomes. Look around. Generally, those who are looking forward see all sorts of good to come out of them; those who have had threesomes, wish they had not.
I agree with bigK. Im sorry to say this, and it puts tears in my eyes to realize that you are so naive(seriously). Being a man I would love to be with 2 girls, but if I were dating one of them(I.E. YOU), I know she would try to become more dominant and try to take control of the session, thus having the attitude:"This is my guy, and Im in love with him, and I wont allow you to steal him away from me!". Im sorry to say that this JUST MIGHT HAPPEN. My final point is that this guy BETTER have the same feelings for you as you have for him, if his are anything less, then you need to go seperate ways RIGHT NOW unless you enjoy sharing him, and risking the fact that he likes "HER" body and sex style before you get hurt. THis is because he may enjoy her sexual experience and techniques more than yours, may decide he wants her body more than yours, in which case you will cry for days and days. Think about everything you and he have shared, what you have said to one another intimately, and its up to you to decide wheather or not his feelings for you are genuine. You are in a potential very very painful situation, proceed with caution PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!
Brandye's right, there are any number of thought-provoking posts on this topic; you'll find those with first-hand experience rarely recommend it.
One thing they apparently don't teach in college is that a lot of your assumptions about men and threesomes are wrong. Most mature men (when thinking with their head and heart and NOT their dick) are not obsessed with the idea of their partner having sex with someone else, male or female.
Sex is not the same as playing tennis. Sex is about communication and sharing. The emotional aspects of sex are pretty tightly wrapped in the physical -- except for hookers, I guess.
You are apparently considering your relationship with your bf "long term." It's not rocket science to figure out that creating any form of intimacy with a third party does not - logically - contribute to a healthy and intmate relationship between you.
A healthy relationship puts the relationship first so you can forget all about the dominating, putting self first, and ownership issues. You and bf need to decide together what you both are going to contribute to the relationship and what activities are best for you and that relationship.