Hi. I'm new to this, so bear with me.
I was hoping to get some advice (ideally from the female perspective) about participating in a threesome.
My girlfriend of 1.5 years has said several times she would participate in a 3-some with me and another girl. At first, this would only come up during ummm...the heat of passion (ya know, "talkin' dirty" kinda stuff). I recently brought this up when we were fully clothed, and she again agreed she would do it.
A female friend of ours (more a friend of mine, really) said she would do it, too, if the situation was "just right" (gulp). The friend's only concern is that my girlfriend doesn't get the wrong idea about her (or my) intentions. We all agreed that it would be strictly in fun, and that there would be no misunderstandings or expectations between any of us. That said, I have a couple questions:
1. How should I go about making a situation that's "just right" without being obvious about doing so? (what can I say, I'd really like this to happen...)
2. Can anyone suggest any "ground rules" we could all agree on to avoid any misunderstandings? (none of us has ever done this before)
Thanks in advance for any input!
Okay here's the scoop:
1. is there to be any girl on girl action? Not mandatory you know - they could just all gang up on you.
2. just set it up like a regular date.
3. Your lady will have to initiate the action, tis how its done, then when you two are going, the third joins in.
Start with dinner where you all discuss the upcoming fun. Flirt a lot and touch frequently.
As to actual mechanics: penis in the one whle kissing and fingering the other then kiss each lady in turn, switch after each orgasm (the women's, not yours) you have to last, guy. Eat one while the ther lady's eating you, switch around after each orgasm, all of you this time. See? have fun and play with this.
What do you mean those who have it in the past see disaster?
I have had lots of three-somes and they were all quite wonderful!
There are dozens of past threads on this topic. Generally, those who have it in the future see great potential while those who have it in the past, see disaster. Find the old posts and read them.
Thanks for the input.
Since my last post, the three of us have agreed on some ground rules. For one, we've decided it would be hands only below the waist. Also, the 'third' would not like to see my girlfriend and I having intercourse (that word is so clinical, but I couldn't think of another way to say that politely--sorry). Fair enough. My girlfriend and I had a long talk about it, and we agree the bottom line here is this is for fun only and nothing more.
I really appreciate EvilEvilKitten's advice, but I can foresee a couple of potential "hurdles" to get over. Here's where I may need some more specific advice:
1) How would you suggest my friend and I get over the initial awkwardness of seeing each other naked? (She's a little shy, I'm not really shy at all).
2) How do we get over the initial awkwardness of actually touching each other (the friend and I, that is)?
There may be more questions in the near future, so bear with me...
Alright, so here's the latest for those of you on the edge of your seats (HA!).
The three of us decided we would go forward with our idea to have a threesome. We addressed all the formalities, like setting ground rules and the like. We also decided to make this a fun thing by turning it into some sort of game.
Can anyone suggest a game we could try (like a sexy dice game, or a board game, or anything along those lines)?
Naked Twister should work but if that's too close for you Naked Monopoly would slow things down nicely. Go to Jail and remove a garment to get out.
How to get over seeing people naked? You just do. When everyone's naked - it is the one wearing clothes who feels de trop. Also incidental touching is just incidental touching - means nothing. "Hey, move a bit to your right, willya?" But the atmosphere is usually so erotic that you will find - all of these fears and nsecurities you have now - they are nothing!
Another update for those of you keeping track (again, HA!):
Well, we did it. And, I’m happy to report, all parties agreed it was a success. It happened a few nights ago after a long talk over (surprise) a few drinks. We were out with a group of about 12 other people, mostly married couples anxious to get home to the kids. By about 10:00 p.m., when everyone else had called it a night, the three of us found ourselves alone together for the first time since this crazy idea came up.
The conversation started almost immediately after everyone else left. Much to surprise, I didn’t even have to bring it up—the girls started talking about it when I left to use the restroom. After a few nervous jokes about seeing each other naked, we had a serious conversation about the whole thing. It was certainly a little awkward at first, as you may imagine. But it actually went really smooth overall. None of us were all that uncomfortable talking about our respective concerns when it came down to it.
After getting the serious stuff out of the way, the mood lightened again and we started joking around about it some more. The jokes continued until—again to my surprise—my girlfriend suggested we head back to my place for a nightcap.
We made it a “truth-or-dare” kind of thing, which helped us all ease into things a little. This really helped my friend get over being naked in front of me, which was the part she was most concerned about. In fact, she hesitated only very briefly when she was dared to strip down to her bra and panties. (She later admitted that she only hesitated at all because she was wearing panties that allowed me to clearly see the outline of her pubes).
As things progressed, we kept things light-hearted by periodically reminding each other that the bottom line was fun. The whole thing lasted about 3 hours, during which time we all followed the rules we had previously agreed upon. There was almost no awkwardness between us after the fact, which was also a nice touch. The friend slept in bed with my girlfriend and I, and we all joked about it over breakfast. My girlfriend and I have even talked about maybe doing it again sometime!
I like to write (short stories, articles, whatever). I've never written anything erotic, so I figured I'd give it a shot by writing a little story about my first threesome experience. The part I've already written got me pretty fired up. I thought someone might enjoy my story for the same reasons.
Does anyone know of a website that accepts erotic stories submitted by amateur writers?
me and my partner are looking to participate in some 3sum fun with him me and another girl were is it best to find people who are up for this as it seems to be so hard and we dont want local people as its a bit iffy. please help x
Sexycouple - find your local swing group and join it. That is the easiest way!
(Evil grin) and it is "My partner and I".
[QUOTE=sexycouple;160980]me and my partner are looking to participate in some 3sum fun...were is it best to find people who are up for this as it seems to be so hard and we dont want local people as its a bit iffy. please help x[/QUOTE]
My first threesome involved my fiancee and a friend of ours. I only asked this particular friend because I know her well enough to know she would be open to the idea of a threesome. (It didn't hurt that it was my fiancee's idea to ask her in the first place ;))
Unless you live in a super-small town in the heart of the Bible belt, I think you'd be surprised about how 'iffy' people think a threesome is. I'd be willing to bet the people who would never consider participating in a threesome are in the minority. It is a touchy subject, though, so if you plan on staying local, make sure you really know how open that person is about it.
We are part of a group of 4 couples, some are bisexual. Everyone has a great time.
Shaved Bi,
If you don't mind my asking, how did this group come about? Did you start it with a group of like-minded people you already knew? Or was it something you found online (or wherever) and joined?
:confused:
I am a nudist and met these people at our local resort. Some nudists are very open when they talk about their sex life.