First of all, you have nothing to be ashamed of. I waited until I was 20 before I started even dating anyone.

No one is laughing at you for being a virgin.

On that note, it's really up to you, what you want to do.

Personally, I would never have sex with another stranger just to rid of an itch.

I had to wait until 20, so I know what you're going through.
You don't have to get an escort, nor do you have to wait for the "Right One".
I suggest that you try to pick up a girl who's not in you workplace/college/etc.
Make your intentions obvious and focus on flirting rather than listening and you can avoid becoming just friends.

It's alright to use an escort, but a lot more satisfying getting there on your own :)

Good luck

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[QUOTE=jjtiojohn2012;255784][COLOR="blue">Im 19 going on 20 and I've never had a relationship or kissed a women ever in my entire life, and I've been around females and had them as friends but they keep putting me in the Friend zone and that makes me very frustrated because all women will ever see me as is only there friend and nothing more.[/COLOR]

I bet right now you are feeling pretty alone and that nobody else has experienced being in your situation. Please stop feeling "oh woe is me", and realize that the world at large is a pretty big place with lots and lots of males occupying space who have a wide variety of experiences; some have dated as younger teens, some not, some who have kissed others who have fooled around to one extent or another, and very few who have ever had intercourse--regardless of what they tell friends.

I recommend reading the articles in the Index pertaining to dating and then begin putting into practice the how-to information. Please understand that the way to go about dating is to date lots of people, one after the other, or two at a time. The purpose is to learn more about those you date than is possible in a purely social setting. Dating should be about developing friendships that are deeper than your social friends, and out of these, one or two with whom you'd like to establish a relationship. It is a backward approach to establish a relationship, first, and then hope that a friendship will follow.

[COLOR="blue">and since my past rejections by girls I feel like I dont have anytime to invest in emotional shit to build up to a relationship so now Im considering getting an escort to Break my virginity and feel confident about my self.[/COLOR]

Rejection is part of the dating experience. Not every woman is going to want you as a mate; similarly, you will not want every woman you are introduced to. The solution: keep on dating and meet and date as many people as you can. Dating should not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest in you.
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mentally,I feel like the whole world is laughing at me because Im A virgin![/COLOR]

Really? And we know this, how? That "feeling" is unrealistic and absurd. Nobody can tell by looking at you or by inspecting your genitals that you are a virgin--not even a doctor! If you are going to argue the point by saying something like: "well, but I don't have any experience...." Please read this article: HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:

[COLOR="blue">And with all these stupid movies out about the stigma of being a virgin, I feel like its very urgent for me to lose my virginity at my Age because if I go on any longer, Women wont consider me good in Bed![/COLOR]

Read the article, please. Your thinking holds no validity because of what is said about there being a New Square One with each new relationship.

[COLOR="blue">So Should I get an escort, or just stay a no pussy haven VIRGIN until I find that so called Right ONE![/COLOR][/QUOTE]

NO.
* There is the possibility of contracting a social disease.
* There is the possibility that what you experience will
be no more real than being an actor in a play. What do
you expect to learn from someone who moans and groans
and oohs and awes and squirms yet feels nothing much
in the way of stimulation because you are inexperienced

Better to join the real world, regardless of age, regardless of previous experience, and explore and learn together as explained in the article.

I understand your angst and desire to get caught up with the rest of the male population; yet as I noted, above, you are among plenty of people who are have little or no dating and romantic experiences under their belt.

Also as noted, I recommend that you learn how to date, and then go about doing so. Talk to family, friends, coworkers, and inform them that you are interested in dating and enlisting their help in introducing you to eligible women. This is called networking. Also, become involved in social, hobby, or service related clubs or activities in which women also participate. Get out there and become known.

A date may last one time and that's it. Other people may go on two or more dates. A few will be long term, and one or two will eventually become "keepers". Go and have fun, learn, and keep on keeping on. Feeling sorry about all this is self defeating!

I hope this is of help. Got questions?

Forget it!

Carry on living and expect the unexpected.

Forget what?

Expecting the unexpected is fine if a person is being proactive. I suggested what I did in order to make sure he does get out there and become seen and known. Waiting at home and looking at the world thru the living room window won't generally bring the unexpected to the door as was the situation several months ago with another young fella.

> You don't have to get an escort, nor do you have to wait for the "Right One".

I agree with the first part, although, if a person does not wait for the "Right One", then there is every likelihood that a person will carry on with the wrong person(s) long after the relationship(s) should have terminated.

This has always been my soapbox: date lots of people in order to be better able to recognize when Mr./Ms. Right does come along.

> I suggest that you try to pick up a girl who's not in you workplace/college/etc.

College? Why not date someone in college? Geez! Everybody has a "captive audience". There are clubs with people to select from. There are sororities and fraternities with men and women with whom people can befriend and then decide if dating is worth doing.

As for dating in the workplace, I tend to agree; however, there is no reason why you cannot enlist a coworkers help in finding an eligible person.

> Make your intentions obvious and focus on flirting rather than listening and you can avoid becoming just friends.

I do not follow the logic. What good is being in a "friendless" relationship? Dating works well when people select from among their social contacts. Dating should first be about learning more about someone than is possible in a purely social setting. From among these people, most will go after one or two dates; some will be around much longer; a couple will be keepers. All too often nowadays, people try to establish a relationship, first, and hoping a friendship and love will somehow just happen.

> It's alright to use an escort, but a lot more satisfying getting there on your own

I disagree with the first part for the reasons previously given.
I agree with the second part for the reasons previously given.

[QUOTE=jjtiojohn2012;255784]Im 19 going on 20 and I've never had a relationship or kissed a women ever in my entire life, and I've been around females and had them as friends but they keep putting me in the Friend zone and that makes me very frustrated because all women will ever see me as is only there friend and nothing more. and since my past rejections by girls I feel like I dont have anytime to invest in emotional shit to build up to a relationship so now Im considering getting an escort to Break my virginity and feel confident about my self.

mentally,I feel like the whole world is laughing at me because Im A virgin!

And with all these stupid movies out about the stigma of being a virgin, I feel like its very urgent for me to lose my virginity at my Age because if I go on any longer, Women wont consider me good in Bed!

So Should I get an escort, or just stay a no pussy haven VIRGIN until I find that so called Right ONE![/QUOTE]

For your first section on dating: If you get to meet people, make connections, sooner or later you'll find a woman who is into you. It also doesn't hurt to have your friends keep a look out. I found the best way for a woman to not think you automatically in the friend zone is to be in a context where they can't make that assumption automatically. To elaborate, my girlfriend and I met on a blind date. The best thing about this setup was that we both knew why we were there, to see if the other person was compatible. It's not like you meet a girl in class and while you are attracted to her she is just thinking of you as a classmate.

I'm a little confused by your post though; you went from trouble with girls to not being a virgin as the solution. Why would losing your virginity help you have relationships? Move from having female friends to having girlfriends? Why would sticking your penis inside a woman make you more confident in general? I should point out that not being a virgin doesn't mean that you are actually good at having sex/pleasing a woman, and having more bad sex won't make it any better.

You mentioned that the movies make you feel bad because of the message they send out. Well, you should be very critical about the movies you watch, about virginity being a badge of shame and must be lost at all costs (example: American Pie). It's just a movie, for your entertainment.

I'm sure that it's hell knowing that at your age you haven't experienced anything, while you hear of guys 5 years younger having sex. Myself, I only experienced this intimate stuff at 22 (I am 23 now). I would have loved to have fooled around when I was 15, but that is how it goes. I am still a virgin, but I really couldn't care less. I just don't attach any value to this concept, it certainly doesn't define me or my skills, and I still have lots of "fun".

Women will think you're good in bed (at least from my experience) when (should you get the opportunity), you prove to be a caring, open, and attentive lover, developing your skills from their feedback, making them feel good (in every sense), focusing on them, and not on your dick.

I also really don't think that losing your virginity to an escort is the best idea: 1) it won't solve your dating problem (see above) or make you more confident. 2) It's expensive. 3) There is the risk of getting STD's, and 4) you can be damn sure women won't want to get with you after that (will also impact confidence).

Your problem with virginity can be solved when you challenge and change your perception of it. Try to be critical and REALLY understand why it matters to you so much; the answer may surprise you and prove to be absurd, and not worth going by.

You need to do a lot of introspection. Do that before you dive into something dick-first.

You can always read some articles and watch adult videos in order to learn things until you're ready to take it to the next level. But if you really want to lose it with the help of an escort you must be aware of the price you have to pay.

>I agree with the first part, although, if a person does not wait for the "Right One", then there is every likelihood that a person will carry on with the wrong person(s) long after the relationship(s) should have terminated.

I meant he should start dating different women in order to find out what he like instead of passively waiting.

>College? Why not date someone in college? Geez! Everybody has a "captive audience". There are clubs with people to select from. There are sororities and fraternities with men and women with whom people can befriend and then decide if dating is worth doing.

I think he should try new places, where there aren't people he knows.
I know it helped me.

>I do not follow the logic. What good is being in a "friendless" relationship? Dating works well when people select from among their social contacts. Dating should first be about learning more about someone than is possible in a purely social setting. From among these people, most will go after one or two dates; some will be around much longer; a couple will be keepers. All too often nowadays, people try to establish a relationship, first, and hoping a friendship and love will somehow just happen.

In my experience: If you become her friend from the start, that's al you're going to get. It doesn't mean it has to stay like that for the entire relationship (It really shouldn't), but only for the beginning.

dude you are crazy if you pick up a hoe...first thing wrong with that is her job is ta fuck as many guys as possiable and make money for there pimp and thereselfs...can you say nasty,blowed out and the big one stds

point being is you got a bettter chance of playing russian roulette than taking a chance in getting busted by cops robbed by a hoe or catching an std.. Dude myspace chat n meet sum girls best part there free.. A little talking n meeting n your there if you play your cards right

Okay - real world time -

STOP being a friend - we don't want friends, we want lovers. Don't permit women to cry on your shoulder, complain about their other friends to you or gossip about other people in your presence, and never accept a woman's opinion about herself as being correct - esp those in your age group. Forget, for now, all about being "sensitive".

You have got to rid yourself of desperation and timidity. Women can smell either a mile away. (BTW we have no respect for men who use prostitutes.) Appearing lonely, desperate and horny will guarantee failure.

Instead, laugh at her, tease her, make her laugh, ask her out and don't take no as being 'personal', act like you have more than a few hot babes clamouring to pick up your option: that is to say calm, cool and confident. Exude appreciation for females without taking them seriously.

DON'T ask us to 'hang out'. That tells us you're not serious. Ask us out specificly - coffee after class or drinks after work, for example.

Yes, being a virgin is a social handicap but it isn't the end of the world so get rid of that hang dog expression and attitude, get out there, and give the ladies a run for their money.

[QUOTE]

So Should I get an escort, or just stay a no pussy haven VIRGIN until I find that so called Right ONE![/QUOTE]

I think you should certainly wait. Why? There are too many risks involved with getting an escort (STD's among other things). Waiting certainly was the best decision I ever made and now that person I waited for is now my fiance' who I will be marrying on May 21, 2011.

[QUOTE=dancingdoc2;255790]Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you will enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines Section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to helpful informative insightful, as well as how-to articles that discuss the most common questions and concerns people ask about. If you click on the site's Home page you will find even more information.

NO.
* There is the possibility of contracting a social disease.
* There is the possibility that what you experience will
be no more real than being an actor in a play. What do
you expect to learn from someone who moans and groans
and oohs and awes and squirms yet feels nothing much
in the way of stimulation because you are inexperienced

Better to join the real world, regardless of age, regardless of previous experience, and explore and learn together as explained in the article.

I understand your angst and desire to get caught up with the rest of the male population; yet as I noted, above, you are among plenty of people who are have little or no dating and romantic experiences under their belt.

Also as noted, I recommend that you learn how to date, and then go about doing so. Talk to family, friends, coworkers, and inform them that you are interested in dating and enlisting their help in introducing you to eligible women. This is called networking. Also, become involved in social, hobby, or service related clubs or activities in which women also participate. Get out there and become known.

A date may last one time and that's it. Other people may go on two or more dates. A few will be long term, and one or two will eventually become "keepers". Go and have fun, learn, and keep on keeping on. Feeling sorry about all this is self defeating!

I hope this is of help. Got questions?[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;258954]Okay - real world time -

STOP being a friend - we don't want friends, we want lovers. Don't permit women to cry on your shoulder, complain about their other friends to you or gossip about other people in your presence, and never accept a woman's opinion about herself as being correct - esp those in your age group. Forget, for now, all about being "sensitive".

You have got to rid yourself of desperation and timidity. Women can smell either a mile away. (BTW we have no respect for men who use prostitutes.) Appearing lonely, desperate and horny will guarantee failure.

Instead, laugh at her, tease her, make her laugh, ask her out and don't take no as being 'personal', act like you have more than a few hot babes clamouring to pick up your option: that is to say calm, cool and confident. Exude appreciation for females without taking them seriously.

DON'T ask us to 'hang out'. That tells us you're not serious. Ask us out specificly - coffee after class or drinks after work, for example.

Yes, being a virgin is a social handicap but it isn't the end of the world so get rid of that hang dog expression and attitude, get out there, and give the ladies a run for their money.[/QUOTE]

I agree with BOTH of these posts! BRAVO!!!