Just know a lot about birth control and use necessary precautions. A condom & a vaginal spermicide (I like the VCF). Or condoms and birth control pills.

A friend and I spent many months "getting ready" back in our teens. There is no really getting ready but get a stock of condoms and spermicidal jelly - with applicator. Them set out to find out what feels good through self exploration. Fingers and a candle worked for me. With a copy of Our Bodies Ouselves and a copy of The Joy of Sex. Get every pamphlet that Planned Parenthood (or other local clinic) has on birth control and sexually transmitted diseases.

Now read my sticky Am I Ready for Sex. AAnd then every other stickie on the forums. The bottom line is that you need to know exactly what you are going to do when your period is a couple weeks late.

The one single thing I wish I had known then-- Your partner is just as clueless a goober as you are SO STOP FEELING SELF CONSCIOUS! ;)

relax make sure you take necessary precautions (birth control) and enjoy without worrying about it not being what you think

I am young so this may be a foolish question but what if a man reaches orgasm before the woman or vice versa wouldnt that mean one of them misses out on orgasm?

This is an excellent question, yet again, answered in one or more Sticky posts.

Each person is responsible for his/her own orgasm. We do not give them away, so all anyone can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve his/her own.

With that said, if one of them achieves an orgasm first, they would be inconsiderate not to help their partner reach theirs. Years ago there was a popular movement in America and maybe elsewhere to try and achieve simultaneous orgasms. Thank goodness this is not on everybody's agenda nowadays. It's nice to try for once in a while, yet unrealistic to believe it is attainable each and every time.

If you have read about and know anythng about Premature Ejaculation, then you are aware that teens and young men up to about their mid twenties often climax quite quickly upon entering the vagina. There are a couple of fixes for this so not is all in vain. Second, few sexual positions provide the necessary ongoing and continuous friction required for a woman to reach a climax just from stroking and thrusting during intercourse. What a well informed, compassionate, skilled, caring, lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner while engaged in intercourse.

This brings us full circle. So what if the man or the woman climaxes first. If she does, he can keep stroking. If he does, he can keep on stimulating her. No need at all for one of them to miss out; although, if one of them does miss out for whatever reason, it's no big deal in the overall scheme of things, because there is much more to making love than intercourse. This is but one aspect of the overall process that is a physical act by which we demonstrate our love for each other. Emotions, therefore, are the other aspect of making love. Orgasms tend to sometimes be problematical, meaning they do not always happen without some effort. This is particularly true with women who sometimes find that in order for them to reach a climax a lot of things have to be in place, first. Things like peace and quiet, no external distractions, no internal distractions from other family members, being in a good mood, etc., et cetera, etc.

Lastly, men and women can and sometimes do have more than one orgasm during a session, separated by moments for gals to several minutes for guys be it masturbation or lovemaking with your lover.

thx doc ure helpfull, but i would just like to ask wouldn't it be better for whoever had a climax during intercourse because intercourse is ment to be better than like fingering etc?

Size dose not matter

If i could turn back time i would have change the place where my first time took place :O and also the fact that i didnt' knew my body as well as i do now :o wich made me felt so ... scared at the time :/