My partner and I have been together for over a year now. We're going to be having a baby in about three months too! I love him to death and back, but it seems like things have been slowing down in the bedroom a bit.
He told me that he doesn't find pregnancy sexy, though he still loves me. I'm wondering if he thinks I'm too fragile. He knows that I'm almost always horny and yet when he is too, I'm always the one that has to start things. I want him to take advantage of me and use me as a sex doll. Hah.. Err.. how can I help him understand this better? Believe me, I have told him how I feel.
We still have about as much sex as we used to.. maybe 1 or 2 times a day when we're together, but he hasn't been wanting to experiment with anything lately and he seems to be just as bored as I am.
I'd like some tips on how to spice up our love life. I'm into just about anything and everything. Though I'm 6 months pregnant, I feel comfortable in just about every position. I'm very petit. =] Help help help!
-A sexually frustrated pregnant woman.
Well a little outside of what everyone else was saying: What my husband and I have started doing is sending each other text messages or picture messages just straight out of the blue in the middle of the day while he's at work or I'm at work. Send him an occassional booby pic or a pussy shot. Talk dirty to him, tell him what you want to do to him when he gets home or what you want him to do to you. I understand that he might be afraid to hurt the baby aswell but there are other ways of him being able to help you reach orgasm. Try this, see if it works.....Hope this helps.
One to two times a day--every day==every week? After a year I'd think this frequency would be fine now and then, and this is why I am thinking he is bored. Why not spread your romantic activities out to perhaps twice/thrice a week? In between times do plenty of cuddling, kissing, hugging, touching, and making out to fill in the gaps. Go for quality not quantity. Connect with each other more on an intellectual and emotional level.
Spice? Look through the Index and read the articles listed. There are plenty of ideas.
Go to the site's Home page and look click on the sexual positions links. These are animated illustrations. Try those that work for you now and for the future, later.
Not every day! Haha. I don't think I could handle it every day. I said every time we're together.. which is usually once or twice a week. We don't live together. He's 20 and lives with his dad and I'm 19 and live with my parents and we're both in college and have jobs... so we spend as much time together as we can.
if hes not wantiong to experiment right now ask him why. he might feel thats its uncomfortable for you since your pregnant. i know the last few months of my pregnancy my man was scared to have sex. when we did it was good. now that our daughter is almost 2 we are experimenting more. give it time and talk to him
Okay, they ran out of condoms! Yippie!
Your desires are being driven by your hormones and so are his. But there's also impending fatherhood on his mind and it seems you're not paying any attention at all to his view. You have told him what you feel. What has he told you about how he feels? Do you know? For most men, this is a HUGE deal. He feels tremendously good and incredibly terrified all at the same time. And then you want sex from him. College, work, and a demanding pregnant woman - could you just think about cutting him some slack?
Part of your drive is also based upon insecurity esp. if he has not spoken to you of how he feels. You think by being wildly sexual, you will hang onto him. You think sex proves his love for you and that makes you feel better - for a while. Insecurity is a terrible thing. College, work, and pregnancy - think about cutting yourself some slack.
Your life is going to change TOTALLY once the child is born. You two will not have ANY leisure time from now on - until you're about 45 or so. Any sex will be catch-as-catch-can when the child's asleep and you two are not too tired or too stressed. That should add some "spice" to your sex life LOL The "can we get away with it now?" thing.
You two are beginning on the grand adventure of life! Wrap your arms around him, kiss him, and tell him it is alright - you'll face it together. Chances are that is what he needs to hear. His response may be just what you want. *wink*
For what it's worth, I so miss my wife while she was pregnant. Her pussy was completely different and WONDERFUL.
So.. I haven't been on here in a while so I didn't read what everyone said. My daughter is three weeks old now and my sex drive hasn't decreased a bit. Neither has his. He's the type of guy that bottles things up. Even when I drill him to try and get him to talk it doesn't always work. Anyway, when I got to my last month of pregnancy, sex was non-existant. I asked him why and he said "You're almost 'done'. It'd be weird."
Now that she's here, his sex drive is through the roof. He can't wait to have sex again as much as I can't. We have to wait though until my gyno appointment I guess to see if I'm healed or whatever. I had a level two lasceration... If I spelled that correct.
OK... after 4 kids, I know the feeling. He wouldn't have sex bcuz he was afraid of hurting the baby. If you really wanna "Spice things up" then I have some thoughts for you... Beware, they may be more advanced than you want, but they work great for me. First things first... GET A BABYSITTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Go out to the bar, mall, club, anywhere you can people watch... Give him a "guilt free pass" to check out any other woman that he wants... and he will do this without question, not realizing that there will be a quiz of sorts... When you get him home, ask him about the girls that he saw, and what really made him look at them. As he is explaining different things, really think in your mind about what he's saying, bcuz most likely it will be something like they had a nice ass, or they had big tits, or her skirt was so short I could see her asscheeks... things like that really turn a man on... and use that to your advantage.... Ask him to pretend that you are one of these girls, and for him to show you what he would do to them if he had her there right now.... essentially, using you to be a real-life fantasy blowup doll!!!! TADA!!!!
Good luck!!!!
Okay - now is the time to STOP DRILLING him. Just tell him, ONCE, that you accept his talking when he wants to talk and his silence when ho doesn't.
Treat him like an adult. Behave as an adult.
You have to let him know that its safe to still experient and get a little frisky while you're pregnant. I had to put the bug in my partners ear too. We're expecting too and since being pregnant my hormones have quadrupled lol! You definitely might find yourself having to be the aggressor for a while, at least until after you have the baby. Good luck :D!!!