My husband and I have been together five years, and have been married for three. Before me he had LOTS of women....before him I had only few men (I never wanted to be labeled a whore in my small town). ANYWAYS....we have been together so long it seems as though things are getting boring. I need help with things to bring the "spice" back into our marriage. I wonder if its even possible because I dont know how to go about talking to him about sex....most of the time he doesn't want to talk about it. What can I do? I recently caught him talking to other girls via facebook and he talked about sex with them....I dont know what the hell to do. We have twins now and my body wasnt what it once was....i have only lost 30 of the 50lbs I gained while pregnant. What can I do to keep him interested?? Please no comments on how you think I should leave him, and once he does it, he will do it again. I have heard that already. Thanks!
Thu, 04/14/2011 - 21:42
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Things are getting a little boring....
locate and read 2 very great posts
called "The Program" and "Body Worship"
Communication is the main thing in a relationship you both need to talk...
If he wont talk then he needs to grow up....
5 years is such a small time to get bored sexually time for both of you to step up and work out what you want....
Men seperating sex and love (which is what a lot of women do as well) doesn't mean he won't talk about the relationship.
It is my belief that men separate sexual activity from their relationships. They can separate love from sex, feeling these two concepts have complete different priorities and obligations.
I remind you that sex begins in the BRAIN and that it is about time you, yes you OP, decided that you are the SEXIEST woman on earth. Forget the "my body isn't whatever" thing because actually that doesn't matter - not really. What matters is attitude - if you're willing then he's willing. Men find confidence the sexiest attiribute so if you're confident and willing you've got it made.
If you read and heed the two posts previously recommended you'll have enough firepower to leave your hubby gasping for breath and hungering for more. Few men have ever experienced such a focused assault upon their senses from a woman in their life. You won't just low his doors off, you're rip them right off their hinges.
So give it a go and ENJOY!