Hey everyone. Whenever my boyfriend and I have sex, we usually do it doggy style with me on the edge of the bed. Well, he always pulls out even though I am on the Mirena IUD. He does this for fear that I'll get pregnant even though I've assured him that there is only a very slim chance of that. Well anyway, when he ejaculates, it often gets on the bed and then we can't cuddle afterward and have to go to the living room. I was just wondering is there any way to prevent this? Are there any special sex sheets out there that can be used?
Thu, 02/24/2011 - 07:47
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Is there a way to keep his cum off of my sheets?


Also, I know we could use condoms but he really doesn't like condoms at all. Plus we are completely monogamous and since I am on the IUD, there really isn't much of a reason to use one since it reduces his sensation anyway.
You could put another sheet down to cover everything before you start having sex and let that one catch all the cum.
He could cum on your back and your bum.
You could spin around quick and catch all the cum in your mouth or on your breasts.
If you are into anal, he could give it to you that way.
He could wear a condom and cum inside you.
Let him find a solution. After all, it's his cum. If he's a creative, smart person, you could just tell him to stop cumming on your clean sheets and find somewhere else to squirt! See what he and his imagination does with that suggestion!
I thought that pulling out was a fairytale and that precum could also impregnate...
What's wrong with a towel?
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> > (Poisian} Let him find a solution.
Isn't this why Spicygirl82 is here?
> > After all, it's his cum. If he's a creative, smart person, you could just tell him to stop cumming on your clean sheets and find somewhere else to squirt! See what he and his imagination does with that suggestion!
Making love is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership. Work together on the problem. Here is some information for both of you, Spicygirl82, and others reading this:
> (Spicygirl82} Well, he always pulls out even though I am on the Mirena IUD. He does this for fear that I'll get pregnant even though I've assured him that there is only a very slim chance of that.
1. It is great that you are looking out for A#1--you, by using a very good contraceptive method; however, each person should look out and protect themselves and not rely upon a partner for his/her protection.
2. If your boyfriend does not wish to become a father, he should be looking out for and protecting A#1--himself, by always wearing a condom.
3. As back up, both of you should be using a third method--a spermicide.**
Have you heard the ol' adage about "slim to none"? Well, folks, there is slim and there is none. Only abstinence offers no chance and then even this is conditional, meaning that a person could possibly become pregnant if a penis is pointed in the general direction of a vulva and fires permitting the semen to run down the vulva and ultimately into the vagina.
Couples in their teens and twenties are much more prone to becoming pregnant than older people because of fertility, carelessness, forgetfulness, lackadaisicalness, to name the main reasons for failure.
My recommendation is to insist that he use a condom. This will reduce the chances of becoming pregnant even more, and, it will solve the problem of what to do with his ejaculate. That this will probably not happen this late in the game, then place a bath towel on the sheet or on you and let him fire onto this. An alternative is to keep a small jar handy. I've used an empty one that marinated artichoke hearts come in for years, mainly when masturbating, although, it comes in handy for intercourse, also.
Now, here is the biggest problem as I see it, and this is a lack of information on both your parts; first, believing one form of protection is sufficient; second, believing that pulling out is a guarantee of protection.
It is not for two reasons:
1. There is often sperm cells in a man's precum fluid
2. If semen does happen to land on her vulva and then run down into the vagina, there is a chance, albeit slim.
** Do not tempt Mother Nature because she can and sometimes does smite thee no matter how highly rated a protection method is or methods are.
As I see the situation you and others find yourselves in is this: First believing that your partner's use of a contraceptive is sufficient for "you"; second, that both people in the partnership are not looking out for their own self interest; third, that both people in the partnership are not caring enough about protecting their partner, regardless.
> I know we could use condoms but he really doesn't like condoms at all. Plus we are completely monogamous and since I am on the IUD, there really isn't much of a reason to use one since it reduces his sensation anyway.
Two out of three methods is better than only one. Use a spermicide in addition.
Lastly, here is some food for thought: When a man pulls out, where is the intimacy? When a man pulls out, he often loses the peak of sensations brought about by the final thrust just before losing control, discovering his orgasm is somewhat anticlimactic. When a man pulls out, the experience of the partnership is aborted. When a man pulls out, a woman often feels cheated because the man left her by not finishing together what was begun together. When a man pulls out, intimacy is lost because the partnership is aborted at the last minute. (Remember, relationships are partnerships, including the romantic and sexual aspects. Sex is the outward expression of the love one person has for the other. Sex is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other in partnership.)
Other than the advice asked; what's wrong with snuggling while his cum is on the sheets? :confused:
Why not get a tissue or towel to wipe of the most and just cuddle in bed?
What works for us best: a towel; the big kind you take to the beach. We've used towels often, esp with menstrual sex. And since I'm a squirter things can become messy even if he doesn't cum or uses a condom ;)
I'd have to agree with the doc on how him abruptly pulling out, kind of "breaks" the intimate moment. But I have to be honest that condoms make me feel appr the same... I'd rather have it on me (or in my mouth)... So if he can't cum inside, I like him to pull out a bit longer before, so that I can finish him by hj/bj (that's a more smooth flow of intimacy). Nice touch to him cumming on me, is showering together after; cuddling a bit more there (extending the moment :)). That's just personal preference you'd have to "feel" for yourselves what is best for you.
Make him wash the sheets?
Seriously - wear the damn condom and GTFU willya please.